my best friend always goes places with not enough money. and expects me to pay for her
like one time we went to the movies
and she brought $5
a movie is 6.50
then she asked me for a 3.50 slushie
and i always pay for food when we go out cause she has none.
i get $10 a week for lunch at school
and im always out by wednesday cause i have to pay for her cause she throws out her lunch!
she says shes low on money but it sure dosent look like it,
when me and my family are REALLY REALLY low on money.
my mom said our friendship is ending fast cause of this..
and she got mad at me and told me that shes not going to homecoming and is going to pay me the $60 dollars her mom is going to give her for it.
but now im stuck with noone to hangout with at homecoming
what do i do?
2007-09-29 14:01:57 · 14 answers · asked by gigi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
today we were at the mall buying my homecoming dress and i was with my mom.
we paid for her lunch, and she spent her money on a t-shirt.
then she told her mom that i gave her a gift card cause i couldnt find anything i wanted in there, and that she spent her money on food...
i just talked to her mom and she said that she didnt know that she was using my money.
she didnt apologize or anything.
2007-09-29 14:29:04 · update #1
You sound like an incredibly nice person. What you need to decide is that you DON'T have to pay for her. She's with playing your feelings to manipulate you.
You need to tell her straight up, but politely, that you can't afford to pay for her all the time. She may get mad but if she is really your friend, she'll come around. If she isn't then she'll find someone else to use.
Maybe even, when you to to the movies just say something like "Make sure you take enough money to get in and for your snacks, because I don't have any extra" and don't take any extra money, either. When she's hungry at school just say - Sorry, I'm broke, you shouldn't have thrown out your lunch. SHE needs to be responsible for feeding her, not you. .
She'll learn quickly that being a mooch is not acceptable.
2007-09-29 14:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never let money get between your friendship. Sounds like she's taking advantage of you. Next time you guys go out to do something, make sure it's clear that you're going dutch, and that you both have enough money. You can always cut her loose if you feel you are being used.
2007-09-29 21:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by chocochimp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she wants to go to a movie...tell her to be sure to bring enough money because you only have $6.50 to pay for your admission. Make sure you eat and drink before going. It's nice to treat a friend when they are a little low...but this girl is making it a habit. Find some friends who can afford to go out and do these things if she just can't manage it
2007-09-29 21:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in essence buying this girls friendship . Bring with you enough money for your lunch and buy it and eat it. The girl need to learn how to spend her own money and you need to learn how to budget yours. If she takes off or gets upset, well , then she really wasn't your friend in the first place, was she. There is a vast difference in helping a person in need , and being taken advantage of.
2007-09-29 21:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is such a good friend then you should be able to talk to her and tell her that you just can't go on paying for her and from now on she will just have to do things that she actually has the money to pay for on her own. She will feel better about herself if she is paying her own way.
2007-09-29 21:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing to do would be to eat and drink before you hang out with your friend and don't let her know how much money you bring when you go out. this way, when she wants something to eat or drink at the movies, you'll only have enough for your ticket, or at least that's what she'll think.
2007-09-29 21:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by robxhim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this. (HAD!) She was super-cheap and if I wanted to do anything, I'd end up paying her way. But, she had plenty of money. When she saw something she wanted to buy for herself, suddenly she had money.
Finally, I asked myself why I was bothering with her.
2007-09-29 21:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no thanks for the money but tell her you are not paying for anything else and she can pay for you things till she is payed off that way it is a win win situation and if she keeps "forgetting your money" talk to her mom
2007-09-29 21:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by pierceallchelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate to your friend and be honest. Maybe you set the standards of paying and it normal for her to expect you to foot the bill. Maybe she thinks you enjoy doing it.
2007-09-29 21:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were sorry, but you were sick of paying for her, and that youre not exactly bill gates right now, if she's a real friend she'll understand.
2007-09-29 21:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Boe boe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋