2007-09-29 13:39:10 · 12 answers · asked by paula c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry, I should have added that i've been divorced for 7 yrs, completely gutted the downstairs and rearranged everything. Bought new bed and changed EVERY room and all my friends are down in the "bad" area and my kids are doing their gcse's. Only talking 1 mile (or less) between good and bad areas?????
2007-09-29 14:02:51 · update #1
no dont move its a nice area as you say, thats hard to get again, redecorate your house....cheaper than moving, is there any thing that reminds you of him YES.....get rid of it, buy a new bed, buy things he never wanted aint colours that he never wanted, be kind to yourself and treat yourself to the things you never had with h.band!! just stick it out girl
2007-09-29 13:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Can you afford to move? If so, I say go for it. I personally wouldn't want anything that would remind me of my past marriage or relationship. I can remember when a long term B/F and I split up, I didn't want to stay in the apt. anymore b/c of too many memories. I needed a fresh start. But, it was an apt. so once the lease was up I left. If it's not easy for you to just purchase a new house, why not redecorate. Get rid of all those things that bring back memories. Bed first! You could paint, buy new furniture and so on. Make it yours.
2007-09-29 20:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by ndd77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb in real estate is to buy the least expensive in the best location. If you hate your home because of old ghosts, and you can't get past them (it's been 7 years for Pete's sake...) I'd say your sanity surpasses the need to live in the area you like. If you find you prefer the area, look for something nearby. Or, you could revamp your current place. There are some really inexpensive ways to do this.
2007-09-29 20:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you own the home, like the area, why move? Why not instead make the home YOUR home - re-paint in YOUR colors, redecorate in YOUR style, move furniture, buy new furniture, change rooms (bedroom to study, study to bar), landscape - design an outdoor space for yourself. Anything to wipe out the memories of your partner being there.
Then when you look around you will see your life as it is today, not the memories of what it was.
2007-09-29 20:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be the answer to move away complete from what has caused you so much heartache but if you stay then a change in how you think is necessary but all the same good luck to you x
2007-09-30 07:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Edgein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would move eventually because the house is a reminder of your former relationship
BUT your kids coming up to exam time is NOT the time to do it because it can be a very stressful time for them and moving house will only add to that
also check that there aren't any other parties who can claim any equity from you - an independent financial adviser ought to be able to give you free advice on what to do and arrange you another mortgage too.
2007-09-30 01:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't move if you love your area. Change up the house. Move bedrooms, paint, redecorate...Make things different. Make it the house you want to have...Then you can love both! Good luck!
2007-09-29 20:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not make it your own...get rid of anything that reminds you of him....do things you know he would never have approved of. :) Its just a house, not your marriage.
2007-09-29 20:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only if you have acquiring memories,good or bad its up to you
2007-09-29 20:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by tugboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you need to ask then yes maybe you should.
2007-09-29 21:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by jonie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋