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i am 14 and my boyfriend called my cell but i acedently left it at home and my dad answered it and said i wasnt home, which i wasnt, but when i got hime he yelled at me asking why a guy was calling me, i said " because i am not a little girl anymore and i have a boyfriend" he said" well kayla i do let u grow up but u dont need to tlk to guys on the phone" and i said why and said because i said so!

why is he like that, i mean that all means i have to have an "at skewl" relationship, see if he doesnt liten up and let me tlk to him and date him i will end up sneaking out not caring anymore!! i mean i am mature and smart! i kno what not to do!!

2007-09-29 12:48:37 · 13 answers · asked by Dorothy 2 in Beauty & Style Other - Beauty & Style

my badddd i am 15 TYPPOOO!

2007-09-29 12:59:10 · update #1

13 answers

I know you've probably heard this before, but...just tell your dad how you feel!
Say something such as, "Dad...I need to talk to you. I really am mature now and can make decisions on my own. Is there anything I could do to prove that to you?" And there'll probably come a time in my own life where I have to do that to, since I stay with Dad part of the time ever since my mom died.
But it may seem a little intimidating to do that. Just practice in front of a mirror. Like, stare at one of his pictures or something and recite what you want to say until you think you're ready. Then actually tell him. If you've got another relative, grandparent, cousin, mom, aunt, etc..., talk to them and they might be able to persuade your dad without him knowing you wanted them to do that.
Whatever you do, good luck and I'm sure your dad will let you grow up soon enough!!
Kenzie

P.S. Also, keep it in mind that your dad is probably scared of you growing up and is protective. He's probably thinking that you're the most important thing in his life right now and if you leave, he'll be lonely! So think about that too.

2007-09-29 12:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The mispellings really aren't cool, and considering your question, are ironic. I am going to try to ignore them, however, you are upset and obviously frustrated, and I really feel sympathetic.

Actually, you will grow up, whether or not anyone wants you to, even yourself; your body will mature, tick tick tick, we are all on a clock. And part of that is becoming your own person, and suffering through the stresses of disagreeing with your parents, and all the hormone stresses, and the ocassional realization that one over-reacted and is human. You have a boyfriend and had not told your Dad; he found out by accident and was surprised. Maybe he over-reacted first - maybe it's hard for either of you to talk to each other about this - but you hadn't warned him; why not? were you ashamed? was getting a boyfriend unimportant? why did you choose not to be the one to tell him?

Maybe that hurt him.

Now your last paragraph doesn't dound very mature or even sensible; having someone to talk to, and having your family know where you are, is protection for you AND your boyfriend, and is a natural desire for anyone who really cares for you. Denying yourself that safety measure, and doing it to spite your Dad, is very childish, and probably just an overstatement because you got upset too.

The mature thing to do is NOT to sneak around, but to establish real communication with your Dad. Are you capable of it?

I think you can be,

Good luck.

2007-09-29 13:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by SC 5 · 0 0

Why do you need a boyfriend at age 14? So his mom can take you on a date in the mini-van?

Wait until you are older. You are not mature. If you were mature you would have come straight out and told your parents that you had a boyfriend. Instead, you through a hissy fit and got into a fight with your parents. You need to show them that you are mature before they believe you. Yelling at them is not helping your case. Sneaking out of the house and going out onto dates isn't going to help them realize how mature you can be.

Try inviting the guy over to meet your parents. It will put their minds at ease when they know he is a decent person. If you are too embarrassed to do that, then obviously your father is right in not letting you date.

2007-09-29 12:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Your dad is protecting you even if you don't want him to. If you where mature, you would have told him you had a boyfriend. Sneaking out is totally immature, and in about 5 or 6 years you might thank him.

2007-09-29 12:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by jon_mac_usa_007 7 · 0 0

sweetheart if you think you're a grown up at the age of 14 what will you be at of 18? a granny? you father is more than within his right to put you straight,learn to respect him aswell as yourself.it breaks my heart seeing young girls wasting themselfs at such a young age,concentrate in your studies & on being a somebody in life,you say you're mature?in which sense exacly,because by saying that if your father doesn't let you do what you want you'll sneak out & do it anyway,is that what you mean by maturity???????

2007-09-29 13:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by dialindo_amorepaz 2 · 0 0

in a few years from now where your out of high school and in college and u look back u'll realize how young and "immature" you were just talk 2 ur dad about him and just tell him that your good friends and wtv tell him that u are growing up and u need a LITTLE space just say that if u do anything wrong u'll be ready to accept the consequences etc etc etc

2007-09-29 13:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa G 4 · 0 0

Sneaking out and not caring is proof that you're not as mature as you'd like to believe.

Convincing your dad that you're responsible, mature, and able to handle a boy-girl relationship is much harder, of course, but that's what you should be doing, IMO.

2007-09-29 12:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

hes just in denial ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and im 15 and at the beggining my mom was all mean and stuff but she got use to it dont worry your dad will get over it

2007-09-29 13:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by .ana. 3 · 0 0

Dads protect their daughters... sometimes in an unnecessary way. If you were a boy and had girls calling then he would tell you good job. But you're not... It's not fair but it's the way things are.

2007-09-29 12:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

You can't possibly be mature and have a bf at such a young age! im not allowed to till i'm out of college

2007-09-29 12:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Georgia Peachy 4 · 1 1

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