So, I have been with my fiancee now for eight years, enagaged for two years. We are now both 25, living together since we were 20. He works full time, im in school full time, I start medical school in 2009. We want to get married the end of next year (Dec. 08). We have postponed the wedding once due to my graduation status, and now we have pressure from one side of the family to postpone it again. This side think because we don't make enough money and tend to stuggle finacially sometimes we should wait. The thing is we have yet to have a fight over money. We have shared bank accounts since we were 19 and money has never been an issue. We love each other very much, trust each other and are incredibly supportive of each other. We barely argue and if we do, its usually becuase I'm personally looking for a fight. Why should we postpone it? Is it a good reason to pospone because well were kind poor?What do I do? Get married without parents support? Thanks for your imput.
2007-09-29 12:38:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never take advice from those around you, looking at your relationship because, they don't know everything that goes on....
if you guys are ready for marriage, who cares about the money situation...I mean, you've been together for 8 years, and have made it through....besides there are going to be times when there'll be other problems, and you'll have to face them together.....what's the difference if you face them engaged or married? Either way you guys are still together, and working it out together.
I understand you want your parents support in this, but sometimes you just need to go by what you want and feel...you are your own person, and only YOU know what's BEST for YOU.
2007-09-29 12:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by ღMeggღ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I would just say a couple of things about Marriage.....
I am now divorced and I have to think about the world I saw prior to and while Married. I would first Go to a divorce education and look into the state, local laws regarding marriage where you are.
Then I would like you to imagine that you find the Fiancee in bed with your best friend.... I know it sounds ruthless but bare with me.....
I ask you, can you pick up his/her pants from the floor, sit on the side of the bed and wait for them to finish their sex? If you couldn't forgive, forget, forsee, then you may want to wait 8 more years to enter into the legal status of "you have everything to lose!!!!!" I wish the Statistics were wrong but they aren't... I found condoms in my ex-wifes car one day (when we were married, and didn't use condoms) then reason for having them......JUST IN CASE!!! someone was willing and able to allow her to cheat on me and the 3 kids...
Yep, Pure Shock and Disbelief, check yourself deeply before walking into the unknown...
2007-09-29 13:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratualtions on being his fiance. at such a young age i cna't believe you two have everything set except for the money problem. since you guys don't seem to argue or anything about i don't see why yuo guys have to postpone it AGAIN. you two act pretty mature so money or not i think that you shoudl go ahead with the wedding and try to talk with your parents and tell them that you do not want to wait anymore. or you could postponed it for the last time you choose and good luck
2007-09-29 12:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by ROCK LEE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you BOTH want the wedding why are you postponing it?!?
Don't postpone it. If they have an issue with it, too bad. You've been together forever and you should get married because you want to, and stop listening to everyone else.
2007-09-29 12:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The people who want you to wait have been through tough times, they are talking from their experience - but their experiences are not necessarily yours - you two already have quite a bit chalked up, and have lived to tell the tale. Decide what is right for both of you, and go for it. The others mean well, but it is not their decision. It is yours. Good luck !!
2007-09-29 12:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by bluebell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be your parent choice when to get married. It is between the two of you. Why not go to the justice of peace and get married now, just have a bigger wedding with family and friends included when you have the money.
2007-09-29 12:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Krystal 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you get married you DO marry the whole family. However as long as you continue to be mature and realistic about your finances I think you should be fine...get married. Just know if money becomes and issue you would have to live with the smug "I told you so" looks.
2007-09-29 13:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if both of you guys feel the same way than forget what everyones saying. go for it. be a bride and have fun with it all
2007-09-29 12:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by *****heart***** 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you're marrying each other, not each others parents...
2007-09-29 12:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by supernelly 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋