and i feel i am next is this normal ,? i feel very sad can someone reassure me please , i have trouble sleeping thanx in advance xxx
2007-09-29 12:13:34 · 11 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
thanx guys for all your kind words , i thought i was doing well , but i think i have taken a step back ,very soon it will be the first anniversary and that will be very hard , i wish i hadn't seen them after they had died , because , that is the face i see when i go to sleep , and i think it'll haunt me forever , xxx
2007-09-30 10:23:22 · update #1
mrs d yes this person also died of cancer , they were told they had three months to live , but survived for fifteen months,but those extra months were spent in and out of hospital and countless treatments just to die anyway , yes i'm sad but also angry all i ask is why ??
2007-09-30 13:01:42 · update #2
first answerer are you perfect ? i think not !!!
2007-09-30 14:15:50 · update #3
oh Bex I completely understand how your feeling and I have been feeling exactly the same way and I really am having alot of trouble sleeping my sister died 4 weeks ago and life just doesn't feel the same anymore I miss her so much and I can't for the life of me come to terms with the fact I have got to live the rest of my life without her it seems such a long life now I don't know how to reassure you this is new to me but I'm told it's all normal and eventually I will come to terms with it. I'm so sorry for your loss but you are normal I've had those thoughts myself.
2007-09-30 06:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's pretty normal, especially if the death was sudden and unexpected or of a young person. I'm sure sad, does not even come close to the way you feel right now, and sleep is always affected, it would not hurt to get something mild from your doctor, although at this time it will feel very strong, most people do get something, if your doctor knows the situation he will suggest it to you. I know all to well, your pain do believe me when i tell you that only time will help you heal, and for the first couple of years, when you least expect it, a song, a memory, a place, a stranger' resemblance or hair cut, can bring you to tears again. But i promise you will be fine and when tears come, let them. Keep that person alive within you, remember all they gave by just being in your life. Much further down this long road, when your grief has been spent, you may just meet again, in what some like to call a dream, but you will know, it will be like no other dream you've ever had in your life and as you hug them you will experience a sense of joy and peace like never before.
2007-09-29 20:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aw babes... I think you just question your own mortality when things like this happen cos as you know am there at the moment (well haven't lost me dad yet but I may well do). Honey when things like this touch you there is so much you question start reflecting on the good things with this person you held so dear and enjoy life as it comes, whatever will be will be for all of us and death is a certainty for us all, all the more reason to make the most of our lives ... hope this helps
What I love about you Bex is you always have words of wisdom for so many on here, I get the overall vibe that your a wonderful human being, please don't let the first idiot upset you. xxx
Oh my god whats with Dr morbido 'repent repent" holy hell someone get me some holy water .... friggin prat... when someone asks for a friendly ear thats what you get idiot!!!
2007-09-29 19:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by shorty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a completely normal feeling that you are feeling. I have also lost people who were my piers and it brought home to me that as I am here now, I could not be here tomorrow.
When they died, I kept thinking..."they were here last week, and they didn't even know that they wouldn't be here this week"
It frightens you, but you just have to tell yourself that what ever happens, you don't have any control over it, and everybody has to go one day... so really, there is no point worrying.
When you allow yourself to face up to the truth like that...you find the will to cope and go on.
2007-09-29 20:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Afi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sorry Bex. It is normal as it is all part of the bereavment process and when we lose someone brings to mind our own immortality. You are not going anywhere Bex you have a whole life in front of you and I can tell you things are going to get a lot better for you from now on. xx
2007-09-30 03:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their time bex, and nothing can hange that, I believe you have to live each day to the full and make the most of the time you have here.
Your still grieving for the person you've lost, that'll be why your feeling so down just now!
Big hugs, xx
2007-09-29 19:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal. Especially if the death was unexpected, and the person was young.
You wonder to yourself, what is going to happen next or will I be next.
I lost my brother to suicide last year and I became fearful for my family and myself, but the shock and fear passes.
Maybe go and see a counsellor or get some herbal tablets to help you sleep.
You will get thru it, believe me. I did.
2007-09-29 19:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Dangrus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents that I was really close to both died this past year too. both with cancer. I was devastated but It is true everyone has their time. Live your life and when it is your time you can see them again. Live the rest of your life first though
2007-09-30 16:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by mrs polaha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes ever sinxe dad died yrs ago i have felt afraid of loosing mom my brother and mt own mortality time does heal it you can also go for antidepressnts which i take and beleve strongly in. There is no basis in reality for thinking ur next if that helps feel free to contacct me if u wish
2007-09-29 19:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you aint going no-where for a long long time.us bunch of groupies wont let yer.
2007-09-30 02:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by country bumpkin [sheep nurse] 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋