how can i tell my parents im pregnat with out them totally flipping out cause im only fourteen.?

Answer 1

they are going to flip out, but remember it's just the initial shock of the news. no one wants to think of their daughter having sex and getting pregnant at age 14. be honest, sit them down and be mature about it. they 'll be more upset if you wait until you start showing or deliver. you have a lot to think about and many decisions to make. letting your parents know now will help you make these decisions. good luck my dear. take care of yourself and it will be ok.

Answer 2

Just sit them down and calmly tell them what's going on. They'll be even more upset if you let it go until you start showing.

Whatever you do, be careful when deciding what to do with the baby. If you don't want the baby then be a surrogate for someone who is less fortunate and can't have children. Or you could give the baby up for adoption. If you have an abortion there's a chance that it could affect your ability to have a baby in the future.

I know not everyone will agree with this, but I don't believe in having an abortion unless the woman is raped or there is a medical reason and it would be dangerous for her to give birth.

Answer 3

Allie,

You must expect a bad reaction out of your parents at the least. For several reasons...I understand that you are worrying at this point, but I'm going to help you as much as I can. Firstly, your parents are going to be very unhappy with the fact that you are pregnant because you are still a child yourself. No 14 year old is ready to take care of a baby, much less have one. I know a lot of people MY age (and I'm 22) that have kids and make sorry parents. Babies are not easy at all.
Secondly, you betrayed your parents' trust. No parent wants to face the idea that their little girl is out having sex. That would be my worst nightmare! I'm sure they were hoping that you would make the right decision by waiting, but since you haven't, I'll share a little tidbit that I learned at your age. Just because you THINK you are a woman, that doesn't mean you are ready to do things a woman does.
If my daughter were in your situation, I would want her to sit me down, tell me that we need to talk...a serious talk, and for her to tell me what is going on. The best way to deal with this is to just be honest. I know you may think that your parents will kill you, but that is not the case. You'd be surprised at how calm your parents may actually be. If you need to talk anymore or need any more advice, please contact me on messenger and I will help you further.

Answer 4

Well, you need to tell them soon. And you need to be prepared for them to go a little more than nuts. A bit much when their baby is going to have a baby. they will flip out, no questions asked.

Be prepared to answer the following questions and the ones you don't know, you will need to be honest and open with them to discuss options and what is best for you and the baby.

1. who is the father
2. how old is he
3 do you know how far along you are
4. have you been to the doctor or did you take a test
5. what are you going to do
6. how about school-how are you going to take care of school work
7. does his parents know
8. have you thought about what to do with the baby
9. are you going to keep it, give it up for adoption or have an abortion
10. if you keep it, how are you going to raise it, pay for it, and etc.


these are just some of the questions that they will have. Knowing how you feel about them before hand will help with the situation, because you will be calm.

If they push for you to have an abortion, while I personally feel there is nothing wrong with it, please remember that it is ultimately your choice and that it must be your decision. In the same capacity, you need to determine if you are mentally mature enough to make that decision without your parents.

Answer 5

Alright, first of all...ignore everyone that had anything negative to say. Abortion shouldn't be an option for you; for whatever reason, God blessed you with the gift of life growing inside of you. What's done is done,honey, and all this nonsense with people who don't even know you asking you "What were you thinking?!?"..."Your parents ARE going to be mad!!!"....bs is pretty pointless now. Just ask yourself, "Okay, I'm pregnant. Where do I go from here, to do what's best for my child?" Abortion is not the answer, trust me, I know from experience. Now, even though mine was a result of a sexual assault...my decision still haunts me to this day. There are plenty of programs that can help you in finishing your education, obtaining a trade, and helping financially to raise your baby. It's not the end of the world! I know this must be tough for you, but God will get you through it. When telling your parents, be mature about it and let them know that you're prepared to be responsible for the outcome of your actions. Also, that their love and support through this is imperative and will make things a lot easier to handle. I'll keep you in my prayers...just ask God for guidance in approaching them. God bless you!

Answer 6

Well, first off, you were way too young to have sex anyway. Second, they will be mad because you're too young and they never saw it coming. But try and be calm and explain to them what you will do with the baby (keep it, put it up for adoption) and how you will raise it, your plans to support the baby, where the dad is, will he help you with the baby, and when and where this happened. People need time to accept things like this, especially things like this. But in time, they'll be happy that they have a grandchild and that you are a mother. Good luck with the baby and your parents.

Answer 7

ok first off u have to tell them some time but does the father know.
if he dosen't tell him. Have a talk with his perants first because they are always harder on the fater. then you and him tell your preants. They will also blame him. It really sucks for the guy but it kinda works. you will still get yelled at. oh and don't get an abotion because you kill an insent baby life. ok. Also adoptions have many bad bad bad sideefects its so bad like if you want to have children later down the line you can't and stuff. alo be sure not to drink have more sex or smoke wile u are pregnat

Answer 8

Sorry sweetie but your were old enough to have sex so face the music!! Yep they are gunna flip. Why did you not consider that pregnacny was the possible out come of SEX? I dont mean to sound harsh but SEX = BABY You are 14. What about STDs did you think of that? You have alot to sort though dont wait tell them now. It isnt gunna get easier.

Answer 9

Well, I have to say that no matter what you do there will be so shock and there may be some anger. Try to be as open as you can and try to get as much information as you can come up with before breaking the news so that you are prepared.

Good luck with whatever you choose

Answer 10

No matter how you say it they will flip out. Sit there quietly and take it cuz they will be dishing it out. Make sure you know what you want to say when they ask you WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO. Do you want to keep it? adoption? abortion? Make sure you have these things thought out...share your feelings with them and see what they say. Best of luck...and by the way, its not the end of the world!