Can some people give me some signs of a cheating husband?

Question

My husband has cheated on me b4 and he told me stright up with the whole tears and im sorries. But recently I have had this gut feeling that he is hiding something from me.. Now he is working latew, or coming home smelling like perfume or whatever but he tends to sneak online after i fall asleep and just finds little things to argue about to get on the computer. Everytime I question him he turns it back on me like im doing something wrong "too" but he never is specific. He never cuddles with me unless it leads into having sex; im pregnant and i mean im so close to the end where im not in the mood to have sex, and he blows his top over that. He isnt affectionate anymore and he always wants to go somewhere by himself for 12 hours or more...like to the city his brother lives in...but i mean for 12 hours????? As soon as he comes from work he hops online; no kiss, no hug and always short toned with me when i talk to him!! HELP>!?!? am i insecure or are those some signs of him cheating again

i meant above that he is not coming home smelling like perfume ; and when he works late and i call his boss he really is working and me & her are close. but Im not sure. he isnt showing the stereo type signs of cheating like lipstick , perfume smells or whatever. I am just fearing he is going online to find some other way to be pleasured. But even so, if i dont feel like having sex it shouldnt jepordize our relaitonship...im asking for kind comments and advice...please no rude ones. its the last thing i need.

Answer 1

i hate to say it but i think he may be cheating... i understand you are pregnant and not in the mood but you are married and you are suppose to take care of all his needs and vice versa. so you say he has cheated before... why do you feel like he might not do it again. as women we tend to feel like " we are having his child and he should understand im not in the mood" my husband asked me when i get big from the pregnancy am i going to stop having sex with him. and i answered "no of course not, i love you." i would never deny him something he wants from me bec i know that he would never tell me no either no matter what it was.

Answer 2

First of all, if a man is going to cheat he is going to cheat regardless of whether or not you have sex with him. I had sex with my husband the night before he cheated on me. I gave him a second chance like you, but I vowed that I would never go out of my way to cater to his every sexual need anymore because it didn't matter anyway.

I'm sorry but it does sound like he's cheating. The Internet is a dangerous place for married people, I know so many relationships that have ended because of online "chats." If he is picking fights with you it's because he feels guilty about what he is doing and wants to be mad at you so he feels better about what he's doing. He is probably trying to push your buttons so you get mad at him and he has an excuse to leave. Then he can say "it's not working out, all we do it fight."
It's sad that you are pregnant and going through this, is this your first? Just think of the baby. Would you want your baby to grow up thinking that it's ok for husbands to cheat? It will be hard but it's time to admit that it's over. I'm so sorry, I completely understand how you feel.

Answer 3

My dad had an affair on my mom and then my mom on my dad. My sisters and I knew right from the start here are some signs. oh My mom did the same thing too. So, we knew as well.

1. They say there going to the store to get milk or bread and 4 hours later they come home with out the bread or milk.

2. They say there going to work and they have the day off.

3. The phone hang ups.

4. The cell phone becomes there must have

5. They bring there cell phone in the bathroom.

6.They talk on there cell phones outside or in there car.

7. They start dressing, acting, really different.

8. They have a new hobbies.. Anything to get out of the house.

9. There friend who they hardly go out with, all of a sudden they go out with all the time.

10. THE MAJOR ONE... They start buying each other little gifts.. My dad bought my mom jewelry and my mom bought my dad electronics.....

Answer 4

omg that is all you need when pregnant that is just so selfish of him ime so sorry you cant live like that what you need to do is have a good talk with him if you cant do that maybe write a letter telling him how you feel i think youve answered your own question smelling of perfume dont say anything just make sure your right look out for those signs is he looking after himself more than before putting aftershave on and he didnt before look at this hope it helps http://www.womansdivorce.com/signs-of-cheating.html

Answer 5

This sounds very painful...you need some support...I'm not married but part of what you wrote sounds like me. ...it's important to have a supportive partner... i know your question was ...is cheating and what are the signs...intuition is a usually a good gauge with me and it is a question of trust too...need to trust a partner.
Only you can decide on what to do....get some help and remember you have a baby on the way...that's great and there is much responsiblility with that and also joy...focus on the new baby and get a counselor to help you...community or private...whatever helps. I need to follow my own advice to...all the best to you.

Answer 6

I would say that your husband is cheating....staying at work longer, smelling like perfume, sneaking online, starting arguments, withholding affection, withholding sex, going off for 12 hours.....these all are signs that he is cheating on you....he has both emotionally, and sexually withdrawn from you...because he is giving it to someone else.

Answer 7

Okay - here goes. If he cheated before - the odds are that it's happening again. His "argument" this time may be that you're pregnant and he has "needs". BS - you hear me? BS.

You have the right to a stable, loving partner - doesn't sound like he's the one! Take care of yourself and the baby - that is your first priority.

Answer 8

hi there,
I have learnt from my past relationships that once a cheat always a cheat! From what you describe it does sound as if he may be cheating again, however you need to be certain of this before you start to questioning him. Do some investigating first, then go from there.

Answer 9

well that might be one of the sings of him sense hes not getting the attention from you the way he wants he might be doing what you said like the old and wise say once a cheater always one.im not here to make you feel bad but the things you say I would not trust him.Id just keep on looking for those signs and if they get worrser then confront himof course he will diene it.

Answer 10

Hello,, he is cheating. If your senses tell you this they are right. Since you've been there before the instinct is better. Since you are pregnant and not in the mood, you must realize this does provoke some extra marital affairs. Perhaps you should reconsider the "mood" for your future.