ok so I have been having an affair with this asshole, he talks crap to me for stupid reasons, all the time when he gets dri\unk, he leaves me like 11 voice mails in a row all saying the same thing..just annoying! But Iam married, I have 2 little ones a cool hubby, WHAT IS MAKING ME STILL WANT TO TALK TO THIS CREEP? He ismy ex boyfriend from about 10 years ago! He is cool when he is sobar, he just has a total different life style then me. What is my problem? He used to get on my nerves before, but for some reason this time, iam attatched to him and I cannot figure out why!!! Can some one help please!>!?!?!?
2007-09-29 11:27:36 · 34 answers · asked by Tina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like the two of you are meant for each other! Leave your husband and marry this wonderful drunken SOT!
2007-09-29 11:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe deep down u always loved him and never got over him..
He is so not ruinin ur family life for..
he's into u when hes sober but when druck he is rude to u..
make the right choice and end it with him
i also think that ur in an unhappy marriage.. therefore he is like an escape goast .. although not a very nice 1 but a way out which uv been lukin for for a long time..
Think about it
Are you really happy in your marriage? If yes then leave this guy and get on with this marriage.. it can work
If ur not then think more and sort it out because ur kool hubby does not deserve to be treated like this
Sort it out sooner then later ok
good luckxx
2007-09-29 11:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by lebanesebabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently the hubby isnt that cool. it might be that it excites you just having the affair, or he jumps at every bootycall, he pulls you out of the humdrum marriage mindset, you dont think your worth better than that deep down inside, assholes can be good in the sack too. Anyway you slice it tell him your dead or moving, etc. and stick with the family and consider it a lesson learned. ps- get the hubby to spice things up a bit
2007-09-29 11:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by satyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a little more on the wild side than what you have now and that is what you are missing or wanting.
Is he worth losing your kids, reputation, and everything else over?
Find a sitter and get your husband and go get crazy wild. Start trying to restart the fire with your husband.
If you need ideas there is a book called 101 erotic nights. It gives you all sorts of ideas at all different price ranges. It is worth the money.
2007-09-29 11:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only know why you are jeopardizing your entire family for this man. Are you wanting to be caught? Maybe you should look inward and see what you feel you are lacking in your marriage that has led you to be with this OM. I know you are attached to this guy, but it is not worth all the pain you will inflict on your husband, believe me, I know. Stop it right now and be grateful and happy for the family you have; you will end up the loser in the long run, if you do not halt your activities.
2007-09-29 12:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to decide whom you want to be with. If you choose your hubby, then you have to remember what you've promised to your hubby when you got married. You have to tell the truth. He will find out in some how anyway even though you never told him. Maybe he won't forgive you what you've done but you have to remember in marriage life, you can't keep any secrets from him. Just remember.... no one can keep a carcass cause someone will find it. So you have to apology and you mean what you said. Then you have to change and show what you mean how sorry you are. If your hubby still loves you and forgive able, he will forgive you but it will takes time to forget what you've done. Just be patient....
The second thing is you have to remember what the loser's done to you... maybe you are in love with him in some how but he is drunk. Drunk people...never think clearly. Just remember that. He talks crap to you... You are lucky he hasn't hit you yet... but you've never known in the future... I think this loser is not a good person and you shouldn't be with him.
I hope you can think careful and decide whom you want to be with... Just remember you never can lied and don't lie....
I hope my answer will help you...
2007-09-29 12:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by blueice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the excitement and the rush it gives u, u can escape every day boredom with this guy. but its not a good plan for every day living and someone with a good husband and children. sometimes we just want to escape to a place where its different. maybe u need to begin communicating with your husband more, and investing in something in life worthwhile because this guy is going to eventually ruin your marriage, and life as u know it. he might seem exciting now but when he's all u got your going to get really angry that u allowed it to ruin your marriage. u need to cut all contact with him, because eventually no matter how hard u try to hide it your husband will be able to feel there is something the matter. have u tried christian counseling, or getting to know the lord, because when u know the lord u won't be so tempted to cheat.
2007-09-29 11:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That old feeling came back and since your husband been so nice to you and the children maybe you want a little excitement in your life which you have not had in a while. maybe you like the attention and feel young and stupid with this guy and not tie down when you are with your husband. you are not a child anymore. GET RID OF HIM!!!!!!!
avoid the calls. before it get out of hands.
2007-09-29 11:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by mom of 4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself who the loser is. He has you even though - from what you're telling us - he's no good. You say you have a "cool" hubby and 2 little ones.
Isn't it a bit ironic for you to say that he's the loser? Clean up your act, be faithful to your family and stop abusing yourself. The harm you're doing is not only to you, it will affect 3 other people I assume you care for.
2007-09-29 11:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by whuz007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
old feelings come back but now you have a wonderful husband and 2 kids don't mess up your life like that think of your kids you could lose them if your husband finds out you having an affair is very wrong you really need to end this asap and be a wife and mother to your family
2007-09-29 12:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by mxwife38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe b/c your husband is nice, and the asshole personality turns you on to some degree, and it's exciting. You may like the drama. Not to offend you, but some people do. Especially if they come from a different setting.
2007-09-29 11:31:04 · answer #11 · answered by Shannon 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋