Like, if your husband or boyfriend works.. and you stay at home while he works and you need something for yourself like clothes or something for the house/apartment.. do you ever feel bad he's financially supporting you.
Do you ever need to ask for money?
2007-09-29 11:24:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I don't feel bad. I am working too, I am just not make money. I clean, take care of the baby, pay the bills, etc.
2007-09-29 11:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
I used to feel guilty when I had just one, but now that we have two I feel a little less guilty every day! I just always like to make sure my husbands dinner is ready when he gets home, I lay out all of his cloths for the next day, and an outfit for when he gets out of the shower. I believe that being a stay at home mom is a job, but I also not only take care of the kids, but make sure my husband has to nothing when he gets home from a long day, but play with the kids. It's hard in the beginning when you go from working and contributing money to staying home all day. I would say enjoy every moment with your little girl, and don't worry about not bringing money in right now. I don't know you but you have to be a good woman, because I can tell you not only care about your daughter but also your husband very much. That being said if the guilt eats you up too much try to find a job a few nights a week if possible (I know its hard in this economy). Other then that you are doing a good job, just keep taking care of the good man you have!!!
2016-03-19 02:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do work. I take care of hubby's children and our home. When I need or want to make a big purchase...say I found a great sale and I want to stock up on something that is used only by me...I do check to see that hubby isn't planning on spending a large amount too and I make sure the bills are paid first. But do I feel guilty spending the money? No. I earn it and hubby gets more frustrated when I do double check with him than if I just buy what I want/need.
2007-09-29 11:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Trackerrrr 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't "ask" for money. I handle the finances. I don't feel bad because it's not like I'm not working. I am contributing in the most amazing way possible. It's also not like I just "stay home." I am a very ACTIVE and INVOLVED full-time mother.
2007-09-29 11:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wizzle 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I do b/c until the past 3 months I was a working mom and after me and my husband got married, I am able to stay at home, but I feel bad when I take the money for myself, though I'm in deseprate need of new clothes lol I'm about 3 months prgnant and look 6...But yeah I feel guilty. Like I need to be doing more. But my husband is like you take our daughter to and from school help her with her homework, cook clean and are growing our new baby so dont feel bad.
2007-09-29 11:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope I don't feel bad at all. My husband tell me if I ever need anything get it. But I alway tell him what I want to buy and he alway says get it but I feel it gives him a little respect when I talk to him about it.
I don't have to ask for money, I have the debut card;)
2007-09-29 11:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Shortie1981 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only time I feel bad is around the gift giving seasons. But other than that. We work for free.... while he gets to get away from changing diapers, cleanign up after everybody, doing everybodies dirty laundry. We stay behind and clean up their messes. I have been a stay at home mom for 2 years. All I ask from my husband is to take out the trash.... and he has yet to do that in the 3 years. My husband gave me a credit card and he puts 400 on it a month. I can buy whatever I need besides food on it. Like diapers, wipes. Or anything the kids or I need. He pays it off every month for me. That is the only thing that keeps both of us happy. Except when I go over the limit. lol. Which is just about every month
2007-09-29 11:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by crazy_cat_lady 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I buy myself and my daughter whatever we want. My husband works about 60 hours a week and makes all the money, and I have never had to ask him for a red cent, I handle all of our money, he gets $200 a week for himself and the I pay bills, shop or buy things we need. You shouldn't feel guilty, you have a very important job raising a child. I just went out last week and bought a new couch and loveseat, he didn't care. As long as he has a hot meal and somewhere to sit and relax when he gets home he doesn't care what I do.
2007-09-29 11:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rearing children and keeping house is not somehow a lesser contribution than bringing home a paycheque. And frankly my husband and I have a joint account it isn't like I have to *ask* for money. In fact if anyone has to ask around here it is my husband because I control the budget and pay all the bills as he is abysmal at it.
2007-09-29 11:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Taking money?
When a family makes a choice for one parent to stay at home, whether it be mom or dad, the income earner earns for the family, not just for themselves.
It is not 'taking money'. That is a very antiquated notion.
I never need to 'ask' for money. It's our money, not his. We have never considered it that way.
2007-09-29 11:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋