First question: Do you think cheating on your gf/wife is OK?
Second question: Would you cheat or have you cheated?
2007-09-29 10:45:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jezzabelle24, I'm afraid you have been brainwashed by your "friend". A man who feels he is not getting enough in his relationship, and deals with it by cheating, is a self centered-pig. He should talk to his wife about his issues with her or simply leave the relationship. Men need to learn to control themselves. They are not animals.
2007-09-29 11:29:08 · update #1
I don't care what you call it, or what your friend calls it. Sex is sex. And if you have sex with somebody other than your partner, it is cheating. Surely if you were to walk in on your husband having sex with another woman, you woundn't say, "Oh, it's fine, honey. You were only masturbating."
2007-09-30 03:30:37 · update #2
Saved by Grace, I have not been cheated on, but I see it happening all the time around me. The excuses men make for their cheating disgusts me, and even more so when women begin to encourage the excuses. It IS hard to end a relationship, especially if you are married and have children. But cheating is the easy way out and causes huge hurt in the family as well.
2007-09-30 13:42:41 · update #3
When a man has cheated he has broken his vows and all trust. You cannot have a relationship without trust, so what point is there in staying with him? A husband who cheats is not a 'good' guy. I would not "give up my life" because of him, but move on.
2007-10-03 09:02:18 · update #4
No it is not OK, whether you are a man or a woman.
Treat others as you would wish to be treated - the golden rule.
On that basis I would not want to cheat - and I hope I never do, because I don't know if I could live with the shame that I would feel.
2007-09-29 10:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by emeraldisle2222 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
NO of course men will take it out as I have the right, being no sex in the marriage. But in reality, I think, cheating is just a painful way of giving up. The right thing, as suggested by xrx, is to work on fixing it and then if you can't fix it, divorce. Then go for it---it's not cheating.
I think it's one of the worst, most pain producing, things one human can do to another. No my wife hasn't but I went through a time when I thought she did. No I did not get it elsewhere. No all the years when sometimes I wanted to so so much--I don't. Those times of course was when we were having trouble and the sex not hap ping enough, etc.
And I agree with xrx men do NEED maintains, if that's all they can get, sex. God made us that way and it's not hard to understand why. (evolution)
2007-09-29 11:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by enigmatic1844 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry Sara, but Jezzabelle makes a very good point. In my case, it wasn't sex I was seeking -- it was attention. It was someone who was willing to be a "giver" instead of a "taker". I've been married 3 times, & I've never cheated -- but I've been cheated on in at least 2 of those marriages. When I insisted on something besides the brown end of the stick for a change, when I wanted back the same as I had been giving, I got forsaken. Jezzabelle's friend didn't suggest that it was OK for a man to cheat -- just that any woman who didn't concern herself w/ her husband's needs shouldn't be surprised when it happened! Why did you react so defensively to her answer? Did someone cheat on you because you failed to "apply" yourself to the relationship?
2007-09-29 12:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cheating on your wife is not OK. I cheated, got caught and it helped destroy or marriage. I would advise anyone thinking about it not to do it. If it is that miserable at home just get out then it won't be cheating.
It creates bad karma.
Honest Opinioner must have a wonderful relationship going. Sex is 10% of a healthy relationship, if there is no sex it becomes 90% of the relationship.
Normal men need a lot of maintenance sex and the sooner women learn this the better off they will be.
2007-09-29 10:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Married men who cheat are soft talkers. They understand precisely what to declare and the thank you to declare it to make the female swoon. She needs so desperately to be that 'savior'. To make his existence rather much less depressing, to guard him from his existence, to be the 'superwoman' in his existence. The undesirable me gets poured on rather thick and that they only take all of it in. whilst he tells her how lots extra appropriate his existence is now that she is in it, she believes him via fact 'she feels it, too'. women folk additionally think of with their 'womanly skill' that they have got the skill to mesmerize a guy and together with his soft speaking techniques can persuade the female that 'she is the sole one for him. women folk decide to belong and experience needed and properly, some men are in basic terms pigs. . .
2016-12-28 07:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a very dear friend who happens to be a psychiatrist. and asked me:"would you be mad if you walked in on your husband masturbating?" i said "no" he responded by saying women are very emotional and men are very physical. then he also said cheating can be a form a masturbation because the goal is the same thing "orgasm". you are just using another person to do it. and went on to say as long as the man is not taking care of and emotionally involved with the other woman than its simply masturbation. its sad when women think that they don't have to perform their "wifely duties" and expect their spouses to be faithful...that's setting your husband up to "cheat" I know some women be put off by my answer and that's OK. but i chose to live in reality not "fairy tale land" I'm not brain washed you posed the question. not i... which means either you have been cheated on or you think someone is cheating on you... in other words you may suffer from insecurity. its sounds good for people to say its wrong to cheat but women cheat too. The definition of cheating is broad one. i mearly gave you a professionals opinion who actually knows how the human brain works...
in response to your very emotional added detail... people are human and everyone makes mistakes. i dont choose to sit around and wonder if my husband is being faithful or not because i trust him. i also know that no one is perfect and if he ever cheated i hope he would talk to me and tell me so we could see how to proceed from that point. but i would not be foolish and give up my great life bec my husband chose to bang some tramps brains out. when i know that he is a great father a wonderful husband, and over all a good guy. that's why some women are so bitter when they decide to leave the marriage after they found out their husband has cheated and see that he has moved on with a younger and more understanding woman. best of luck! if everyone was perfect Jesus would not have died...
2007-09-29 11:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by idowhatiwant 2 · 3⤊ 5⤋
the second response was out of this world stupid!! people automatically think its okay to cheat just becuase they are not getting sex, that is the lamest excuse, you make it seem like thats all the relationship is about and that its way important then everything else, and if you dont get any 'buh bye im gonna get it from someone else" just pigs thats all they care about. hope they get STDs
To Sine: men May LOVVVEEE sex to death but thats still no excuse to run and sleep with 60 women, it angers me that men think this way sex is not everything. and i feel like all we're made for is just to please men with sex
2007-09-29 10:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
It's not okay. It is understandable in some cases, but not okay.
If my relationship was in bad enough shape, I think I would cheat, I'd hate myself for it, but I know my weaknesses and limits. So far I've avoided it by working on my relationship, and I hope to continue to do so.
2007-09-29 11:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No. it's very disrespectful, however, women is my one weakness if Hayden Panettiere flashes me a smile and beckons i would just wilt to her, i can resist most women but some are just too overpowering. does that make sense
2007-09-29 10:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by Instrukt * 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
i don't believe it's ok and so far i haven't
2007-09-30 07:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋