Is it as bad as they've told me? Your birth story..?

Question

If you could, please tell me your birth story and include:
*advice for someone having their first
*what was the worst part
and
*what did you fear that didnt even hurt or need to be feared?

Thank you sooo much

Answer 1

Hi there. You must be avery brave lady to be asking this question if you are pregnant!
Advice for your first baby - don't be afraid to ask questions of your hospital staff. If you are unsure what is going on, or why they choose a course of action, clarify it before they begin.
Also, be prepared for anything. Birth does not always go as planned, or neither is there often a 'textbook delivery'.
Be flexible in your choices.Don't go to hospital adamant that you will refuse painkillers - no one expects you to do it without them.

Worst part of mine - emergency caesar. Was just going in for a routine check up and an hour later I'd had the baby - too fast for me!!

I feared the epidural, which wasn't too bad, and the recovery wasn't either.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

Hi, I have two daughters, and my body must be unwilling to release fetuses, because I got induced both times. Which forces you to forfeit all the helpful walking and squatting during labor and all those really innovative birthing positions I'm sure you've read about. I just had to lay there. But while the pain, is honestly, the worst thing I've ever felt, the moment that its over, its over. With my second child, I just kept reminding myself that one moment it would all be over and the baby that I was so curious and anxious about would be in the world and in my arms. I know it sounds so trite, but that makes it worth it. Let me reiterate, its the absolute worst, no doubt about that. But there is that moment when you have that little baby that wasn't in the room a minute ago and she is so wonderful, and that's the ultimate. I made it to 8.5 centimeters the first time before I had an epidural, but my labor was like 20 hours long. Now with my second, my labor was only 6 hours and I made it all the way through with no epidural. The nurse insisted that I have some stadol, which is an opiate for pain relief. It didn't really work, I just felt high. I think she just wanted to shut me up, I was a real hussy, though.
Keep focusing on the baby at the end, stay calm, and don't panic no matter how intense it becomes, and you should be fine.
PS, more dubious news is that if you're nursing, the first few days will give you contractions, to shrink your uterus, that was an unexpected pain, but it does keep the postpartum belly down some naturally.

Answer 3

I suppose each person's revel in is special - a few get discomfort meds, epidurals, a few don't, a few have very lengthy hard work, a few don't, and many others. I can let you know my revel in, which was once with NO treatment. I had an extended hard work, approximately 19 one million/two hours. It was once very painful, I'm no longer going to deceive you - the worst discomfort I've ever felt. That being stated, I am due to the fact that having an additional, and *THIS* time round, I'm going to select the epidural. During my first time, my OB scared me into having a little one sans epidural, claiming that it is more healthy for me, for child, and many others. Did I point out that OB was once a person? LOL. I suppose it is valued at the little threat there may be to make the revel in as cozy as viable. Why placed your self by way of such discomfort? Tell your medical doctors you wish to be as comfortable as you'll, and I suppose it's going to move simply exceptional. From what I listen from my peers that experience had youngsters with epidurals, it wasn't almost as unhealthy as what I persevered. Once the child is out, the contractions calm method down and the painful side is over - identical to that! Actually, as soon as I was once capable to push I felt a lot bigger. I do not quite bear in mind the discomfort of supply up to I do the contractions. So, sure, it harm, very crazily badly, however right here I am inclined to do it once more, so it are not able to be all that unhealthy, correct? :-) Get the epidural! That's my recommendation to you!

Answer 4

Here is my advice, you decide ahead of time what you want the birth to be like: write it down, that's called a birth plan.

If I had to do it again, I would go to the midwives the FIRST time instead of waiting for my second baby. They helped me have the birth I truly wanted and not the one that was most convenient to the doctor.

The worst part about my first was the doctor telling me that if I didn't hurry it up he'd give me a c-section. I'd ONLY been pushing for 2 hours WITH an stupid epidural. I was so angry, how dare he? It's normal and natural for a first baby to take do long. If I hadn't of had the epidural, it would have gone a lot faster. He was a jerk and I didn't go back to him again. The worst part was the stupid episiotomy that he gave me (that doctors AREN'T supposed to give anymore.) It made recovery so much harder.

Don't be scared of the pain. Does it hurt? Sure, but look, people have more than one, so it can't be that awful, right? Babies are worth it!

I recommend to all my girlfriends to skip the doctor and go to the midwives, they deliver in the hospital too, are less expensive, and you get WAY better care. Midwives respect you and your wishes. I had a much better second delivery with the midwife.

I loved my second delivery, I didn't have an epidural so it was really fast. I didn't have an episiotomy so the recovery was easy and practically painless.

Answer 5

I feared the episiotomy - didn't even care at that point, and since they used local anesthetic I didn't even feel it.
Advice: make a birth plan, and bring a stick of lip balm - I used blistex, and it helped a lot. If you're going to breastfeed, write on your birth plan that you would like to do so as soon as possible and no later than an hour after birth; also tell them not to give bottles or pacifiers, as this can cause nipple confusion.
The worst part: Contractions.
My story: I went into labor at 2am, but didn't know that was what was going on. I just knew I was in pain. About 15 minutes later, and 15 minutes after that I had 2 more contractions. At 2:30 I finally realized what was going on and started timing my contractions; they were getting close together very fast. Within half an hour they were 2 minutes apart, and we were on our way to the hospital. I checked in, gave a urine sample, and from there on I can't remember too much because they gave me stadol (narcotic). I had 'back labor', and the contractions hurt so much that I was actually RELIEVED whenever I vomited; apparently they thought I had eclampsia or something, but I don't recall hearing anything about that. After 6 hours I was only dilated to 4 (I was at 2 when I went in), so they broke my water. About 1/2 hour later I was dilated to 10, and the doctor barely got there in time to deliver my son. I was so happy when they told me I could push - it felt so much better when I did! My son's heartrate started dropping, so they told me to push between contractions as well. After a few pushes his head was out, but the cord was wrapped twice around his neck. The doctor untangled him, and after a few more pushes he was out completely and laid on my belly while his father cut the cord. They whisked him away to clean him up and perform the apgar, which is pretty much when I stopped paying attention to anything that went on. I was running on an hour of sleep (within the past 40 or so) and had been given plenty of narcotics, so at that point I was pretty oblivious anyway.

Answer 6

The worst part by far was waiting for the contractions to start in earnest. My baby was over a week overdue.

She wouldn't come. I couldn't get past 6 cm. I was scared about a c-section, but it was a breeze. In 20 minutes I had a sweet 10lb6oz baby in my arms smiling at me. She was beautiful too, not having gone through the vaginal birth, not a scratch on her, no redness.

I discovered the epidural. Heaven on earth. Sweet relief.

Second baby
He started coming in week 31. So I had to go through all the trips to the hospital, stay a couple of days while they get the contractions to stop. Complete bedrest 6 weeks. My mom had to take my 3 year old to stay with her in Houston. And we didn't even have cable. Talk about boredom!!! This was the worst part!!

Finally at 36 weeks and 6 days, they let him come. The epidural didn't work this time. There was some relief, but it wasn't complete. I pushed for 2 hours (my dr. wanted a VBAC), and baby couldn't come. We did a c-section, and I did a bit of screaming when they stopped the epidural meds so they could use general anesthesia instead. I didn't like that, but I understood. The baby was blue, so my hus went with him while the revived him. He had a few problems--inhaled meconium, enlarged liver, breathing too fast, but he cleared up well enough to come home with me. Poor mite, he looked like he'd been 10 rounds with George Foreman. I should never have pushed so long. He was 8lb10oz and his head was just too big for my pelvis.

Getting well from c-sections were a breeze, and there was no later complications. From the pushing with #2 I got a bad case of hemorrhoids, but so long as I kept things moving, they didn't bother me and cleared up.

Both of my pregnancies--the pregnancy was the hard part. So don't worry about the birth. They've got lots of meds, methods to make you more comfortable. Pregnancy was so uncomfortable. And afterward, you have to raise that child for 18+ years. Talk about the hard part!!

TX Mom
e-mail with questions
not an expert
Mine are 17 & 21 now

p.s. Did you see on yahoo mail yesterday? A lady in Russia, I think, this was her 12th child. She had a c-section and the baby was over 17 lbs. They had a picture of her--her name was Nadia. Mom said they didn't have much to eat so she just ate potatoes, noodles and tomatoes. My personal diagnosis is that she had gestational diabetes. That makes all the sugar available to baby and baby grows like a weed on all that sugar.

Pss This would never happen in the US, not to someone who had proper prenatal care.

You're gonna do just fine, honey. You and baby both. Congratulations in advance.

Answer 7

OK I'm not gonna tell you my whole birth story because it will be too long, but I was induced, pushed for 2 hours and finally the baby had to be delivered with forceps. She was what they call "star gazing", which means she was coming out face up instead of face down. I was trying to push the largest part of her head out instead of the top of her head. OK advice for first timers. Don't have that many people in the room with you because you might get embarrassed about your privates. The worst part for me really was them starting my iv. The nurses had to poke me 4 times. The epidural wasn't that bad either. It kinda burned and felt uncomfortable for a minute but the doc was so fast. you will do great I'm sure.

Answer 8

Enjoy your pregnancy!! You're life will NEVER be the same after you have your baby! I recently had my first baby and i wish i would have rested more. I delivered at 38 weeks. I was supposed to be induced due to Gestational Diabetes but I went into labor on my own.

Worst part ...Not knowing what to expect (what a contraction would feel like, etc) I planned on a natural birth but ended up getting an epidural (2x) - i was just plain tired and needed to rest a bit. My first epidural didn't work and actually made the pain worse. 1 hour later i had another one and that one actually worked and i got to rest up before it was time to push. Delivery didn't hurt since i had the epidural - couldn't feel anything! The nurses kept telling me to push at the contractions, but since i couldn't feel them i would just push when they told me. I've heard horror stories about deliveries, but for me - labor/delivery wasn't bad at all.

Answer 9

I went into my first one with such a feeling of dread it was crazy. I was a housekeeper at the hospital and they had me in ob my final week. This poor woman was in labor for 3 days. She would be screaming when I got there and screaming when I left. (( they don't let it go that long anymore) Then I went to have my son and I honestly only pushed twice and it was over. It was sooooooooo easy compared to the horror stories I had heard and even witnessed. What I am saying dear is just go have your baby don't worry about how it will be cuz no-one can tell you. We are all different when it comes to this. Good luck and congrats....

Answer 10

hi there,
with my first baby i woke up about 6am with back ache. thought nothing of it. went and had a bath and my back was still hurting. then about 11 o'clock i started feeling the contractions, phoned the hospital and they told me to stay at home as i could be like this for days. 12 o'clock and the contractions really hurt and were stronger and closer. i felt a little gush in my knickers so i went the toilet and suddenly felt the urge to push, threw myself on the floor (outside the toilet) and 3 pushes later had my little boy!

my second i started feeling twinges at about 2.20am but they wasnt painful, about 6am they started to get painful but pain i could bear. by 8.30am i was crying they wer hurting that much. so i left for the hospital. the soon as i got out the car at the hospital i felt the urge to push so i had to run down all these corridors (got lost a couple of time lol) got in the room pushed about 4 times and had a big (9lb 3oz) boy.


im now 14weeks with baby number 3 and hope the labour for this one is short lol

my advice is to just stay calm, and go with the flow. because if you panic it makes the pain 10 times worst. i know its hard because your in so much pain but just go with what your bodys telling you. it'll all be over soon and then you have your beautiful little baby, which will make it all worth it.

good luck (",)