ok my language arts teacher seem normal. but i've noticed that he gives one of my friends extra attention and not in a good way. i'm not jealous or anything the guy's butt ugly. like he's always flirting and rubbing her arms or shoulders or back. and one day when she was bending over to get something he put his hand on the small of her back(near her butt). and he's always asking her ot stay after class to "help'' him. and he's always staring at her. i'm really worried because i've heard stories about teachers trying rape/molest students. what should i do?? i don't want to call him out cause i might get him in trouble and what if he's harmless? me and my friend both play volleyball and we stay after school for a good 3 to 4 hours, and sometimes her mom picks her up late and the teacher stays after school late to grade papers!!!!! what if he does something to her?? she's one of my best firends and this has been killing me. and please don't tell me to just forget it.
2007-09-29 10:08:43 · 16 answers · asked by Abba 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think u should report this perverted a$$ teacher of yours he has no business placing his hands on the small of her back, or rubbing on her in any way
2007-09-29 10:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by lisa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's your bestfriend why don't you just ask her point blank?? Don't "bff's" share everything? What could be happening is that your friend is being molested by the guy, she's in a secret relationship with him, OR nothing's going on & the teacher is just too touchy feely. In the latter, your friend needs to tell the teacher to stop touching her so much. But in the first two situations, she may or may not tell you what's going on, but you should be able to tell by her reaction when you ask her. If the teacher is doing anything to your friend, be very sure before going to your OWN parents.
2007-09-29 10:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your friend about this? She may have already spoken to someone about it. It will help her to know that you have also noticed the teacher's behavior. You both need to speak with an adult that you trust about this. The teacher should not be acting like that towards his student. This is not harmless. It is inappropriate. It needs to stop. You should not worry about getting this teacher in trouble. I repeat, do not worry about the teacher getting in trouble. Speak with an adult that can help you and your friend. You are right to notice and worry about the attention the teacher is giving your friend. Please speak with one of your parents or another teacher that you trust. Do not wait.
2007-09-29 10:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by aurora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Wow! Dr. Angel here to help:
Tell your parents! Don't just FORGET about it! Of course you want her to stay safe!! Maybe you two should go confront him with your friend after school...tell him that you do not like the way he is looking at her.
This is very easy to read, kinda hard to picture, and very hard to do. So if you don't feel like it, then go with a different plan.
Does your friend notice this???
It's not easy to confront him, so go and confront your princaple. Or tell your parents, and have them e-mail the school or call or even meet with the princaple about this. I'd go with the parents, because they'd be worrying about not only your friend's saftey, but your's and your classmate's. Tell an adult fast!
2007-09-29 10:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell your parents/guardians first about his behaviour because if you sense something is not right and judging by your describing you maybe be true and I wouldn't suggest leaving things to late,who knows his background and working around children might not be the place where he should be...Especially staying after school your probably in some sort for PE kit and with him acting like this I wouldn't want to be around him.I strongly urge you to tell your parents 1st and then get involved with the head teacher,but whatever you do don't confront him alone.:)
2007-09-29 10:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Clarissa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The teacher is exhibiting inappropriate behavior to a student. It's illegal. Talk to your friend. Report the teacher's behavior with specific instances and dates of the incidents to your counselor, the school head, your parents. Have your friend report it as well.
You haven't mentioned what your friend feels about all this unwarrented attention. Make sure she knows that this is inappropriate, and that it deserves to be reported, and that it will be.
Students have rights to be heard and protected.
Do it now.
2007-09-29 10:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All the things you are telling me; about what your teacher does to your friend, sounds very wrong. And anyone could tell between being overly friendly and "the wrong kind" of touching. He is obviouly a pervert. I think you shouldn't draw back from telling on him. Like my mom used to say, "If it quacks like a duck, it is a duck."
Most importantly do not worry about whether he is innocent or not, that will be all taken care of, believe me.
But what concerns me is if your friend knows about this. Have you asked her if she's thinking what you are? If you haven't, then do it. It will definetely help. And you could get you and your parents in on it. Believe me, it will be cleared.
2007-09-29 10:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by lusciousdivine77 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WOW! This sounds just like one of the language arts teachers in my school. Is his name Mr. Menzie? I would tell another teacher or principal if this continues and then they can keep an eye out for it. That's all I can say.
2007-09-29 10:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lena 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your friend. If she's really your best friend and something is amiss, she would have already told you. You are right to be cautious about accusing the teacher, it could have serious consequences for both you and the teacher if you are wrong.
2007-09-29 10:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Cecil n 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay that is a huge deal. you need to tell your mom. then tell your principle. it is very scary and i would stay with her while she waits for her mom, mabe you guys could carpool. it may be hard but you have to do this for your friend. it's better to find out that you were wrong then to find out that your teacher is a sex-offender. once, i had to tell my princlple that my friend was being abused by her parents. it was the hardest thingi had to do. i personally think yours is easier.
good luck
2007-09-30 09:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋