Me and my broyfriend have been together for almost 10 months. The very first moment I saw him I knew he would change my life somehow. We were really good friends for about 4 months before we started dating. Since we have known each other a lot of drastic things have happened in my life that one would think he would leave me for, but he stood by me through every moment of it. He is always there for me when I need him. When I listen too my heart it tells me that he is the perfect guy for me and that I will never love someone as much as I love him. We started talking about getting married and have even set a date in about 8 months. He hasn't formally proposed, and states that at the one year mark he will make things definate. Either way we are still planning on getting married in May. Every part of me tells me that this is the best thing to happen to me and I am the luckiest girl in the world. I pretty much just want to know if you think that we are moving too fast or not.
2007-09-29 08:44:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you both are completely in love. He is probably waiting until the 1 year point in order to be able to save up and buy you a nice ring. I don't think you are moving too fast. When I met my husband I told my mom he was going to be the one I married and sure enough he was. My mom also said the same about my dad. When it's right you know and nothing is ever too early. 10 months is enough time for you too to have really become to know each other. Good luck and Congratulations on the engagement.
2007-09-29 08:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are planning on getting married after being together for 18 months. By then, the infatuation hormones will be gone and you will surely know if it is true love. It takes about 6 to 12 months for the infatuation hormones to go away from the start of a new relationship. Sounds like about an average time for couples to decide it they want to commit or not.
2007-09-29 08:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean its up to you ofcourse and peoples opinions shouldnt matter so here is my advice
if you guys are sure you want to get married then i suggest a long long engagement. If its real love then it can wait. It also depends how old you are and if your in college. You must take these things into consideration. Just know that there is no rush so why rush into a marriage. Take the time to just be with each other and if your sure about this then best of luck and congratulations.
2007-09-29 09:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by lexxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea man i think that there is nothing wrong with what you said. it's not fair to you that she is doing what she's doing. Now i mean have you told her that you think that she's moving to fast. i mean i a way i am in the same state that you are getting her into. the girl that i like and all that just asked for space and that's what i am giving her until something will happen hopefully. man i really hope that all goes well.
2016-05-17 04:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard i mean usually people get married after 2-4 years of dating. If i was u i would give it about another year. U want a healthy relationship right? You need to make sure because u might have doubts once married which will lead to depression and u want ur kids to have a good dad. So give it awhile!
2007-09-29 08:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it seems right to you then it must be. You and your body know better than any one of us. My parents never formally got engaged either. Everyone knew they were going to get married and my dad's proposal was, "So should we set a date?" and now they have been married for almost 25 years. Hope I helped!
2007-09-29 08:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by *Scandinavian Sweetheart* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, how old are you? i mean, if you're 30, its completely different than if you are 18.
second, why start planning a marriage if you arent engaged? you do realize that many places require you to book the location almost a year in advanced right?
also, how are the job situations for you guys? school if thats happenin too? where are you living?
there is a lot you need to make sure you have in order. just be ready.
2007-09-29 08:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a great guy and it's good to hear that you have found each other, but make sure you can see yourself with him for the rest of your life...
If he hasn't proposed, why are you making wedding plans?! I would talk everything through with him and make sure that marriage is what you both want at this point.
I hope I've helped... and good luck with everything!
2007-09-29 08:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you and your boyfriend don't feel that you are moving too fast...what does it matter what any of us thinks? You said that you feel like he is the one...and that he is the best thing to happen to you.....Congratulations and live a long happy married life with one another!
2007-09-29 08:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask a bunch of people who don't know you, then deep down, you know you need more time.
My husband and I got engaged 14 months after knowing each other.
2007-09-29 08:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋