I could go far to into things. I'll be breif. I was suspect of infidelity but chose to not accept this. Realizing now it would have been better to bring it out in the open and deal with the lies and wrong. My wife left - abruptly- has not spoke with me and took my children away. i am allowed to see them every other week for three hours. I am sad and lonely of not my own accord -although owning 50% of the end product. I want to start over, be me and with another but , one thing. I still love my ex? dearly and would do anything for what was. I know its time to move on but ,I was with her for almost twenty ( 18 very good although difficult ) years. I am having trouble not talking or concluding anything. kinda vague but my heart doesnt have it to be remorseful/angry. Thank you peace allways
2007-09-29 07:45:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you settling for six hours a month with your children? They are just as important, and maybe this will help you if you spend more time with them. Screw what your wife does. Get yourself some quick help on that custody matter, it sounds like she's being an a--.
2007-09-29 08:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Shell Answer Man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry but the belief and trust she had with you is gone and even if it could it would never be the same.I am sure that she is sad and lonely to and feeling the devastation from losing a world that she thought she had. Sometimes so much heartache and damage is done in a relationship that you just have to respect the person and let it go. All you can do now is learn from your mistakes and never repeat them if you are lucky to ever find that kind of love again. It is so sad that some people in a committed relationship only know and realize what they had when it is gone. Betrayal is just not worth the price that you end up paying for in the end and ....cheating is always a choice and the one doing it is totally responsible and accountable for it. Nothing a person is and isn't doing for the spouse gives them reason to cheat and is never a mistake. When someone crosses the line in the worst way that is the bottom line for some people....... because if they cannot count on you to protect them from life threatening diseases and guard their emotional well being they feel that they have nothing! The only thing you can hope for now is that your wife truly does find peace and happiness someday and you find it somewhere to. The most important thing here for the both of you is to respect one another at this point and be there for the children in the best way you can. Only time will tell if it is all for the best.
2007-09-29 09:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this female isn't waiting thus far... she's emotionally tied up in her divorce, and needs time to grieve her loss. even if her marriage replaced right into a nightmare, courting and getting in contact with a sparkling guy in the present day can no longer convenience her. She has no longer something to grant to you or every person else on an emotional element in the present day, and her concentration must be on herself and her children. in case you get entangled with a woman dealing with a divorce or perhaps individual who has lately pop out of any lengthy-time period courting, you're the Rebound guy. i imagine that this female has stopped seeing you a lot because she replaced into utilizing you. You paid her legal experts? She talked about you coming. enable this be a lesson. i'm sorry you're damage, yet she would not care about that, both.
2016-10-20 04:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by nedeau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is always a painful thing, especially if you still love your ex. Counseling may help you get through this rough time as well as socialization. Get out and go window shopping. Have lunch at a bistro or a corner cafe. Say hello to strangers. Try and keep your thoughts positive. Good luck my friend!
2007-09-29 07:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you were suspected of being unfaithful to your wife and that is why she left? Or were you unfaithful? Kind of hard to tell by your question.
If that is so, than all you can do now is move on. You are grieving. Seek counseling. Adultery is a sin that comes with dire consequences as you are well aware of now.
You can love again, for love is a choice.
2007-09-29 07:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend counseling.
If you want to attempt to get back with her then you need to realizet that it must be something you both want. If you want it and she doesn't it will not work out and yourlife will be miserable.
Why does she think you cheated? If you did not that is a starting point to talk to her.
I have been there and it reconcilitation did not work out.
2007-09-29 08:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your ex need to sit down and work out your problems
and talk about what really happen between the two of you. Do
NOT BRING NO OUTSIDES IN YOUR BUSINESS.
2007-09-29 07:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HOw about next time you dont Fck over the person you love for something as trivial as sex. And then she wont leave your pathetic ***.
2007-09-29 08:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant believe that you were a faithful and honest husband. Maybe it is karma come calling for back pay?
2007-09-29 08:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by sandra b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're rambling. If this is your state of mind it's no wonder she divorced you. When you can come up with a coherent, complete sentence then you'll get answers.
2007-09-29 07:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋