The 5th graders, are making sexual remarks at me. ex. (He wants to make out with you, or he likes you, or he thinks you are hot.) What should I say to them without embarassing a child.
2007-09-29 07:42:05 · 14 answers · asked by Celi 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Just don't feel embarrassed, their intentions aren't bad.
They want to compliment you and to make a show to their friends.
Take it as a compliment, they only admire you, they know that there is a distance between you and them, be sure of it.
Act with humor. If you can't imagine something better say something like "Oh, really? Tell me when, I will see my schedule and let you know...".
Don't allow them to be rude (f.ex with gestures). Don't lose your courage, but explain them right away that this kind of behavior isn't right, they are coming to school for making themselves better than they are.
If they are... pigs and you can't get any communication with such persons, don't pay any attention and act like telling them "Give us a break, you important guy!".
They are teens after all.
Don't deal with it as a problem (I hope I said it correctly...)
2007-09-29 08:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Zoi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that those remarks are inappropriate at school
this is sexual harassment which is against the law, esp in schools
take the offending students into a private conference and have the principal and/or counselor with you
start off by telling them that the remarks are inappropriate and sexual harassment and that you do not like those comments then let the principal or counselor take over
they are doing it because they can and they must be stopped now
forget about embarrassing a child...they are embarrassing you and making idiots of themselves and if the behavior is not addressed then they will think that it is ok to continue the remarks.
they may not know better now but they should soon
remarks such as those may be appropriate at home or in their neighborhood but under no circumstances are those remarks appropriate at school
we just don't talk like that at school
2007-09-29 19:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They know what they're doing! They are
1) seeing if they can get away with harassing and upsetting a teacher
2) using you to harass and embarrass a fellow student
3) testing your control of the them and the class
You just have to punish them for each incident. They are not that frickin' naive. The next time it happens, make it clear: say, I'm you teacher, not your friend or girlfriend, and I know you're all madly in love with me but I don't want any more of those comments. From now on, anyone who makes such a comment will get to spend recess in here with me cleaning up. Which I sure no one will mind because you LOOOOVE me so much.
2007-10-02 11:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Farty McFly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them to the office. Don't say anything to them. They are at an age where the hormones are starting to rage. But, they should also know better than to tell any adult that they are hot etc etc.
edit* I wouldn't suggest'burning them' w/comebacks b/c some of these arseholes will turn it around and w/all the sex cases w/teachers screwing students you could wind up in trouble. You can thank the sluts Mary Kay L and those blonde Fl teachers for that BS.
2007-09-29 15:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about embarrassing them because their remarks are obviously causing discomfort for you. If they can say these things audibly, then they are asking to be publicly held accountable for their conduct. Tell the boy(s) that what they're saying is inappropriate and you won't be spoken to that way. If they continue, consider taking away privileges, such as making them clean the classroom during recess. Keep an incident log in case anyone questions you, detailing what happened, who did it, and how you handled it. Report their behavior the headmaster and send them to his/her office as needed. Let the regular classroom teacher know so she can be aware of what's going on while she's away; I'm sure she'd want to be kept in the know. The kids are awfully young to be this brazen.
2007-09-29 14:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was a student/substitute teacher, I got similar comments. I would use humour to offset the comments. Are you married? No, is that an offer? Do you have a boyfriend? No, but again, is that an offer? He likes you. Really? Don't you all? He thinks you're hot. Well, he's got good taste. If you can "burn" the kid making the comments, the comments usually stop because now the other kids are laughing at him instead of picking on the other kid or you.
2007-09-29 17:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would maybe talk to some older teacher friends to see if they know what to do....
But, maybe you should embarass him in a way so he never does it again...
I really don't think you should ignor the situation and hope it goes away....I don't know. I wish I did know.... I always freeze up when I've been in uncomfortable situations like that before.
Edit: if you do descide to try to talk to the child alone - take another adult/teacher with you...cuz I wouldn't trust that kid at all from trying to reverse the situation.
2007-09-29 14:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
They are embarassing you, so say what you want to say as long as it is appropriate and if it embarasses him, maybe he will stop. I teach first grade and I know you have to be careful, but they should not be allowed to treat you that way either.
2007-09-29 15:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They shouldn't be saying that, get the person on their own and tell them what they're saying is wrong and if they carry on then you'll report to the headteacher. If the problem persists, involve the head.
2007-09-29 14:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Look lil' boy, if you make another nasty comment I'll be sending you to the office and calling your mother, I will report you!" I wouldn't care about embarrassing them.
2007-09-29 18:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋