17 years have made many false accusations that have made me and her unhappy and no longer sleeps ,talks kiss's or says hello or good bye ? She refuses help
2007-09-29 07:25:20 · 10 answers · asked by SCOTTYO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depends what she's falsely accusing you of, and how honest your being with her. i've discovered you have no power over someones actions or emotions but your own. begin evaluating yourself and make adjustments you may feel you can work on for the sake of your marriage. through example not just words, your wife can begin to appreciate this and let down her barriers as well. be the bigger person, and you may receive a different reaction.
2007-09-29 08:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by ladyintuitive21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if this is the case, I feel bad for you. But are you blaming her for everything? Perhaps she has some very hidden resentments and why the false accusations? Think there is much more to this story - like the otherside? I am not blaming you, but think it would take much to have a partner change so much and act in such a severe manner unless they really didn't want anything to do with you.
2007-09-29 14:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit a counsellor and resolve it there if you like or you just talk to each other so that both of you understand the other person's view. Tell her the truth is important so that the person can take it for what it is so the conversation would not be longer that it needs to be.
2007-09-29 14:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any opportunity to prove to her you are innocent than do it. Any chance you have to show her you love her do it. Maybe she was really hurt in the past and for some reason it is coming back to her. You have been married for 17 years, Don't give up just yet. Hopefully things will start to get better. Good luck:)
2007-09-29 14:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by becky p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little bit like my wife. Well, you both need help, however since she refuses, then you need to ask yourself if you should stay in this relationship or not. If you have kids, that makes it harder to answer. If you want to make it work, then you might have to go seek help and see if you can understand her better. With my wife, it took a while, but she finally came around.
2007-09-29 14:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by darken40 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like there's much left for either of you. It could be clinical depression, or maybe it's time to make other arrangements. Suggest, or insist, that she see a doctor. You, yourself, can seek counseling, of course. If she sees that you care enough to do that, maybe she'll get the idea and try to save your marriage. If there's anything to save.
Otherwise, you may have to accept that both of you might be happier apart. But please give the medical option a shot, first.
2007-09-29 14:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHO needs help? YOU have stayed married to her for 17 years...
2007-09-29 21:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ifTalk to your doctor about her and see what he suggests you do. Go to marriage counseling by your self and find out what your options are. Sometimes of you change what you are doing it changes your spouse. You need professional help in this matter.
2007-09-29 14:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has already left so help her out the door
2007-09-29 15:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by hill bill y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its time for a divorce
2007-09-29 15:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋