Do you think?

Question

people these days give up on their marriages too quickly without going that extra mile to try to work things out?

Divorce rates have increased in recent years

Answer 1

I think the value of marriage has been lost. Most people think, "I can always get a divorce". It is very sad but true. That is why the divorce rate is so darn high.

Answer 2

In a sociology class of mine the prof said that their is an increase only because it has become more acceptable. He said that in the past people would just abandon their wives and go off and marry another. I thought that was a kind of interesting idea.

Even if that is the case I do think people give up way too easily. I know people that have been through hell and back and most people think they are crazy and they would have divorced much earlier on in the marriage. When they give marital advice to others they often say things like, Why would you stay? or That shows the ultimate disrespect nobody should stay in that situation! While I do believe there are deffinitely times to move on I think some people are too quick to move on even if it does actually take them a bit of time to do it. They could have spent that time rededicating themselves to their marriage. Maybe they were just going through a difficult time that ended up affecting their marriage as a result.

I also think that society does not value marriage as much as it should. Even for example my husband and I make too much money for financial aid for school but we don't really make that much money. I know other people that would be in this situation so they put off marriage to benefit from the gov. for help with school and many other things. Some people will flat out say, Why do I need to get married? I have it better now! Know that I don't think one should be lazy and not work and expect the government to help them and I don't want to get into the politcs of this as I have mixed feelings on it but I think it does impact society's way of thinking.

The concept for marriage purely for love is also a factor. People fall in and out of love over and over. This is normal, if you only marry for love, what is the point in staying when it's gone (it could just be gone temporarily)?

Answer 3

There's a little more to the increase in divorce rate than just giving up easily. The dynamic of marriage has changed. No longer is it about financial security and children. It's about love. People fall out of love. People are also much, much more stressed out. Working longer hours, traffic jams, everyone is irate all the time. Life is much more stressful than it used to be. And, just because the divorce rate is higher doesn't mean people are not trying. I got divorced and I tried like you know what...still didn't work. It had to work both ways. I was the only one trying.

Answer 4

I think a lot of people get married without putting the thought of what it really takes to make a marriage work. Plus - marriage is easy to get out of now days, IMO. I have never been married, because I had yet to find the person I thought I could actually spend the rest of my life with...much to the dismay of my mother...So, yeah, I do think some give up too quickly...

Answer 5

Dear,

To me, most of the marriages now are "MONKEY LOVE". Loving today and not love tomorrow. When see more beautiful or more handsome stick to the new one. Marriages is nothing to day. Marriage is just a shield. That's why divorce rates are too great everywhere in this world. There's no more true "LOVE" in marriage.

Answer 6

Yes I do. I think the people that should divorce dont and the ones that shouldnt do. Its like it takes a few extra steps to make it work why not try. I have seen people that have divorced later on try dating and I say you could of done that while you were still married instead of divorcing and then trying to reconsile.

Answer 7

Yes, I think some do......having said that though, there are others who after 100's of extra miles, stay in dead-end marriages when they'd both be happier if they would just divorce and move on.

Answer 8

Yes. They look at divorce as the easy way out instead of trying to fix the problem. However, sometimes divorce is the only answer.

Answer 9

Yes I do. While there are still not enough to see that it is time to get out, like in cases where ther is unresolvable abuse.

Too many now a days are ready to quit over minor problems, maybe if they had taken the time to examine whether this was real love they could have avoided being in a "bad" marriage.

Answer 10

And that is so sad. It seems nowadays it is quantity instead of quality. I feel marriages fail because one or the other partner saves a little in the heart just in case there is an opportunity for an affair. The total commitment just isn't there.