ok my friend is pregnant with her second kid except the first one she had she ended up giving up for adoption last year cause she didn't want it(she's not a bad person)..... but now she's saying that she's gonna give up this baby also because she feels that it's kinda wrong that she can keep this baby but than give up her first one and ya it is wrong to give up one and keep another but why lose 2 kids?? what should i do to help her and convince her that wat she did before was a mistake and that she needsssss to keep this baby???????
or is my friend right that it's wrong to keep this baby if she gave up another for no reason??
2007-09-29 06:44:11 · 13 answers · asked by SW33TZ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It sounds to me like your friend is a little selfish. If she is an adult and can care for a baby, then there was no good reason to give up the first baby. and now she is pregnant again!!! If she doesn't want to have a baby, maybe she should use birth control or not have sex. If she is a good person like you say, then she needs to learn from her mistake and either keep this baby, or give it up and not have another one....EVER!
2007-09-29 06:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend shouldn't just give this baby up because she feels that it's wrong to keep one and give away anther. She should do what is best for her, and if keeping this baby is best for her and she is in the right place in her life now then she should keep this baby. Also she should really think about getting on some BC if she doesn't want to end up pg again.
2007-09-29 07:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong here is for her to have children and bring them into the world and not want them in the first place. There are many good methods of birth control, and to not use them when you know you don't want the baby is criminally stupid. Don't try to convince your friend to keep a child that she will not love and care for. I would suggest though that she make every effort to have the agency that placed her first child seek out the adoptive parents of her first and see if they wouldn't want to take the biological sibling of their first child. At least then, these kids would have eachother.
2007-09-29 06:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason that you could not keep a second child after giving first up for adoption. What were the reasons for putting the child up for adoption?? Can't afford it, didn't want it, too young of a mother?? If she feels she is ready for motherhood and can take care of this child...then there is no reason not to keep it!! If she is not ready then she should put it up for adoption and let a family that can take care of it have it!! Also she needs to go on some type of birth control to stop this from happening!!
2007-09-29 06:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to be behind your friend... Tell her how you feel but I think that she knows whats best for her.. If she wants to place the baby for adoption because she can't provide what she needs for it then she is better off to do that and give the baby more out of life... If your friend would like to talk to someone that doesn't know her and doesn't know me.. I could give her my advice and see if I can help out in anyway if you want to email me.. Try to be there for her...
2007-09-29 18:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me personally i believe that you shouldn have sex if you are not ready for the responsibilitys for my adoption or abortion is NOT an option i believe if you have an abortion you should have to get your tubes cut n burned(my opinion) but if she gives this baby up then if she has a 3rd she will feel obligated to give that one up so its a never ending cycle for her
10 weeks pregnant
2007-09-29 10:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not believe relaxed with what she did, you'll file is as sexual harassment But considering the fact that she is a pal, confront her approximately it. If she asks to return alongside, ask her why she desires to return. She probably drawn to you or simply now not desire to permit get of your near dating. Talking to a counselor probably benefical
2016-09-05 11:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have learned from what happened the first time, and if she didn't, there's nothing more you can do. Just be there for her, she's going to need you.
2007-09-29 06:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by x_beforethedawn_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may feel that she won;t be able to cope with keeping the baby but it is her choice. just be there for her and support her decision.
2007-09-29 06:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jacqui in aus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend doesn't want these babies, she should stop having unprotected sex.
2007-09-29 07:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by xchasingsummerx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋