i hate the idea of going to acounseler i have been depressed for about 6 months and began cutting myself after my friends told me to try it i dont want to see a shrink i am finei think i am gonna run away
2007-09-29 06:31:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
please tell me how i can convince them to not send me to a councelor
2007-09-29 06:32:17 · update #1
to answer your question hanz2602 or whatever i became depressed right after my dad died and my mom remarrie dto this guy who abuses her and my sister i just stay upstairs
2007-09-29 06:43:37 · update #2
you guys dont get it my mom is the only one that cares the only reason my abusive step dad agreed is so that he looks good
2007-09-29 06:58:37 · update #3
I know how awful the thought of going to a counselor is. I remember when I was a kid (younger than you--about 9 or 10) my mom sent me to see one without even preparing me because I had been acting depressed. I felt so betrayed!
However, you really aren't fine. You have been depressed for a long time and you are using cutting behaviors to try to feel better. Here is the thing--a good counselor can help you feel better if you give him or her a chance. And it is a good opportunity for you to get all kinds of stuff off your chest that you can't talk to your parents about. Plus, you might be having an imbalance of some sort that can be corrected fairly easily with medication.
The counselor is on YOUR side. He or she isn't just someone put there to spy on you by your parents or to do what the parents want. This is an ally for YOU who wants to help you feel happy and strong. It's a good opportunity to have someone like that on your side.
Running away is scary, dangerous, and a whole lot more stressful and depressing than seeing a counselor. And you can bet that when you are found, you will have to jump through a lot more hoops than just talking to a counselor.
I know you feel pretty awful right now, so hang in there, okay? It won't be as bad as you think, I promise!
Okay, hon, I'm back! I saw what you said about your stepdad. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that! Here is the thing. Take advantage of the fact that your stepdad feels pressured to go along with sending you to the counselor--this will work to your advantage! The counselor can help you with the family situation. They do this kind of thing all the time. Know that the counselor will truly be on your side and may be able to help make changes that will make your and your sister's lives a whole lot better. And you deserve the chance to get all of this on the table. The counselor isn't supposed to "fix" you, the counselor is supposed to listen to you and help make your life better. If it means telling your parents to work on the family situation, that's what will happen. Give it a chance, okay? You and your sister both deserve it! Good luck!
2007-09-29 06:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get new friends! No real friend would tell you to hurt yourself, that is horrible. What would you think if your Dad told your Mom to cut herself? Well, your friends telling you to do that is NO different.
Second, you know you have been depressed, time to face it and do something about it. Your depression will only get worse baby. I know it is a scary deal, but you are not alone...Your parents love you and will do whatever it takes to help you, let them baby. Give the counselor a try and try to be as honest as you can.
Third, this can really do something for you...go to your Mom and Dad right now, tell them you are so sad and you need their help, let them hug on you and love you, and cry in their arms. Let them love you.
Take Care sweetie
2007-09-29 13:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting yourself is only a *temporary* way of feeling better. Going to a counselor may help you feel better without cutting (which can be dangerous, not to mention leaves unattractive scarring). Seeing a counselor isn't something to be frightened of. It doesn't mean you're weird or a freak or that you're crazy. Plenty of people see counselors because their problems, depression, etc. are too much to handle alone and they need advice. Your parents are concerned because they love you - this isn't a punishment, it's their way of trying to help you when they feel they can't do it alone.
If your car kept stalling, you'd take it to a mechanic, right? Doesn't mean your car needs to go to a junk yard, it just means it needs a little "tune up" so it can run better. So, you need a little tune-up - it's not a big deal. And listen - living with depression is no way to go through life. If a counselor can help you find ways to cope/overcome this, wouldn't that be better?
And running away won't solve anything. It's in facing our problems and dealing with them that we grow.
Best of luck, hon.
2007-09-29 13:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by SpedBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give the shrink a try. It won't do you any harm, and it might do you a lot of good. If you've been depressed for 6 months, and have even *tried* cutting yourself, you need some new ways to deal with things. (Cutting yourself is a very *extreme* way of dealing with depression -- please don't take any more advice from your friends.)
2007-09-29 13:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Diane H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to a "shrink" that your step-dad has no connections with. [Refer to my previous answer for tips with dealing with "shrinks".] But tell whomever you see about what is going on at home. Ask them to contact the police. Abuse doesn't just go away. It may seem like it does but it really doesn't. It may make things worse for a little while but trust me, it'll get better after everything is setteled. If anything, do it for your mom. She doesn't deserve that. No one does...
2007-10-02 22:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help so stop trying to justify what you are doing...self abuse is an illness as is your depression...you need to tell someone who understands these illnesses why you are self abusing...what happened six months ago for you to become depressed...seek help while you have the chance...do you ant to go through your life cutting yourself...do you want your children watching you abusing yourself...will or would you allow your children to self abuse...get help please
2007-09-29 13:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. i feel so sorry for you. but running away from everything WON'T solve it. it'll just make you're depression worse. do you really want to end life at such a young age? obviously you're NOT fine if you're cutting yourself. you're parents love you, so i think you should do 2 things:
1) get new friends
2) go get help!!! i know you dont want to, but i think you'd feel better and in the longrun and you'll be so happy that your life isnt over. please dont run away!! =[[
2007-09-29 13:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by red_head423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, you MUST go to the counsellor even if you do not want to. Your behavior is something done by a troubled person. I'll pray that you find the right professional.
2007-09-29 13:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by SaturnMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've started cutting-what is the next step? You obviously have issues.
Please go to a counselor-you are NOT fine if you abuse yourself.
2007-09-29 13:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by CANDY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont run away.. but what is with your friends cutting your self doesnt solve anything, just go to a counselor but dont go with your mom its better to go without your parents there and jsut let it all out maybe just one session
2007-09-29 14:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by ABCD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋