My husband and I live together. We have agreed that we are both unhappy. He has cheated on me and I have finally decided not to try and work things out anymore. My problem is I need a place to live that I can afford with my children and all the other expenses I will take on. Do you have any suggestions where I can start?
2007-09-29 05:20:29 · 11 answers · asked by dimples 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start with a good friend... every woman needs a good friend to get her through this kind of thing.. If you need one.. EMAIL ME!
There are alot of variables in this- trust me I have been there done that! Do you have a job, things like that, and depending on what state you live in there are different programs. Most of them are free of charge and will help single Mom's get on their feet. They generally have lists of discounted apartments and will sometimes fork the bill for your first month, deposit and utilites to help you get on your feet.
There are also a lot of us Single Mom's that would love to stick together with other single Mom's and you can share the rent while you get on your feet.
Good luck and good for you for being strong enough to realize you deserve better! Your kids will thank you in the end. Kids want their parents to be happy too!
2007-09-29 05:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? If so, just take your monthly income and budget it against apartment rent/utilities/ and car payment and insurance and see where you stand. Do you have family that can help you get started? What about a best friend that will take you in until you get on your feet? How many children do you have? Please be sure to get yourself stabalized in a home and financially before you start your divorce, or it can turn ugly if your husband fights you for full custody. Also talk with him about child support. Being open and honest about what you both want to do with the divorce, and financially and most importantly, can help both of you with an easy no-contest divorce. Make sure you both talk with your children and let them know that just because Mommy and Daddy are not going to live with each other any more, doesn't mean that we don't love you. And both of you express your love to your children and keep doing that througout the whole process and afterwards as well. This will help the children adjust to the new lifestyle they will have and they will adjust knowing that both their parents love them and it's not their fault that you all are getting a divorce ok. Children and their welfare come first and that includes making sure, and reassuring them that they are loved by both of you unconditionally and that things will be ok. I'm sure you know that part, but I just thought I would put in a friendly reminder because thinking about a divorce, and going through a divorce can be so overwhelming and we sometimes forget about some important things around us. Like children. :-)
I hope this helps and I hope that you and your husband (soon to be ex), can work this divorce out "together" for the sake of the children. Best wishes to you and your family!
2007-09-29 12:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by lady_bella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already living in a place with your children. How is it that you decided to uproot yourself and your children instead of your husband moving out? You need to talk to a lawyer. It would be much easier for your husband (just one person) to find new digs. And, a good lawyer can help you achieve that.
2007-09-29 12:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you willbe awarded custody of the kids,you do automatically get the house as the Judge wont let the kids be on the street. He will get an order to vacate premises and told to pay he mortgage unless you move out on your own. So take advantage of the law here and stay put
2007-09-29 12:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
classifieds, internet, driving around neighborhoods you'd consider - looking for 'for rent' signs, put up flyers in your church, your children's school, ask neighbors, relatives, and friends. If you're renting now - ask the landlord if he has anything available you could afford. Any chance you can stay where you are and HE can move out?
2007-09-29 12:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the state the social services office they will help with money and other stuff like housing
2007-09-29 12:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by shy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mcloan
2007-09-29 12:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Liam B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look up the number of a local apartment hunting company. You can give them the size, price and any amenities you want and they will find you one to suit your needs.
2007-09-29 12:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classified section of your local news paper, online, etc. Your local social services if you have financial trouble.
2007-09-29 12:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Slow Hand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to work it out.
2007-09-29 12:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋