Is it wrong to be gay?

Question

Ok so i'm gay, i have tryed to have boy friends and the same thing happends everytime, they try and thouch me and i run away and they never see me again, so it has been one year since my last try to have a bf so i desided to try again i met a guy who was a real cutty and very nice and things were going good for about a week, then he tryed to hold my hand and i pulled back i told him i wanted to take things slow and he was fine with that but then another 3 weeks past and he tryed to kiss me and i pulled back and got sick all over him we never talked again, and i think everyone could understand why. i have tryed not to be gay since i was 12 and now i'm 20 and i will not go through the embarrassment of trying again so if i can't be gay i'll be along the rest of my life and i'm willing to do that because i am a christian and want to do the right thing by god .So this is my last try i need to know is it really wrong to be gay and why? it would help alot if you could maybe add a bible veirs

Answer 1

well if there was a pill i could take that would make me str8 i would`nt take it,i like being gay it who i am i would`nt wanna change.

Answer 2

NO mate, there is nothing wrong of being gay, u r who u r, there always some people who love u, trust me. as the "untouchable" thing DON'T u worry, believe or not, I had the same feeling before, well, I felt sick after a guy touched me, then I was even thinking I will walk my life alone... crap that feels like ****. anyway, be brave, be sure, be confident, be smart. keep finding and just tell urself when u feel bad, hang on just for a little longer, u will be perfectly fine!! find a guy u like/love or who interest in u, tell he the truth, someone will help u get through. don't tense urself up when it comes to physical contact, try it again, again, again, again...and again. well, of course if u want to do this (don't get me wrong)
u will have every thing mate. cuz u DESERVE it!!

Answer 3

The way I see it, the fear of being gay is *culturally conditioned*. You hear about it being an against the Bible, you hear your peers talking down about it, and a majority of people are straight. You see people around you expecting to be straight as well, and if there is anything natural about the fear of being gay, is the urge to want to fit in.

One problem about asking if it is wrong to be gay is that there is a mix of opinion, and some people have bias. Some people say yes, it is wrong, others will say it is not. I personally don't find anything wrong with it. I don't feel threatened by two people loving each other, regardless of their gender.

Perhaps what you might ask yourself is what you want. If what other people thought about you being gay was not a concern, how would you feel?

Answer 4

*hug*
I was gay for 9 years. I completely understand what you are saying. I know you want proof of it being right or wrong. You will find equal evidence both ways. It is about interpretation. I believe it is wrong. I choose that belief b/c all the reasearch proving it was simple and to the point. All the research claiming it was ok had to stretch farther for their answers. I don't believe the Bible should have to be stretched to fit my life. I should have to stretch to fit the life that God wants me to live. I admire you SO much for putting so much effort into this and trying to do the right thing. I can't make up your mind for you. I will tell you this and you can do with it what you please. I spent 9 years gay. 9! At age 24, that seems like a pretty huge chunk of my life. I lost myself in those 9 years. I spent 9 years fighting to be "1" part of who I thought I was and lost EVERY OTHER PART OF ME. Have you ever noticed that gay people are 90% all about gay pride and gay rights and gay this and gay that... it's always about being gay. I got to where I coudln't hang out with gay friends anymore b/c gay defined them. That's ridiculous. No one thing defines you. (except Christianity. I think that should define us. But Christianity is very complex, it's not just who you sleep with or who you are attracted to) I'm single now. I almost married a guy not long ago. Didn't work out. I'm like you about the being touched thing. I have my reasons for that I believe that aren't related to being gay though. I dunno about you. I'm single and I'm happy. Not everyone gets married. I believe that those of us that don't get the privelege of being closer to God than we would have if we had gotten married. Also, I think we get to do something different with our lives, something bigger and just as fulfilling. You are 20, I'm 24. We are really silly to even think about never getting married. :) We have so long to find out ya know? I would suggest that you talk to a therapists about the way you feel towards guys. You don't have to talk about being gay. There are gay people who don't feel that way towards the opposite sex. I believe it is something you could work through. And it would be well worth it. Sometimes I think I don't date just so I don't have to get married so I don't have to have sex. Yeah.. I need therapy too. :o) I'll go if you go. Anyway, I'm a rambler when I'm passionate about something. 9 years was a waste. I fought for 9 years for somethign I felt in my gut was wrong. Don't become me. Just learn to be happy with you. Good luck! *hug*
PS. I have email if you wanna chat some other time

Answer 5

You're scared.
and that is so understandable.
it isnt wrong to be gay, just like it isnt wrong to be straight or bisexual.
the bible wasnt even written by God, it was written by the people of the time, who claim to have been observing these events. So god doesnt condemn homosexuality, these people that lived thousands and thousands of years ago did. and only because they didnt understand it. and anyways, there is no evidence that even they condemn it, its just people have twisted what is said, and tried to feed you lies. break free.
think about it this way:
say homosexuality is a sin.
all these people are telling you that right? and condemning you for it?
well guess what; that's a sin too.
and they will be punished for it, if God exists.
He made you like this, so it isn't your fault that you feel this way.

Personally, i think that you are still coming to terms with being gay.
Maybe talking this out with a trusted person will help you.
Good Luck mate, and you are in my thoughts.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with being gay and the people that interpret the bible are usually the ones with agendas.

Answer 7

Your problem with becoming physically ill is because of stress induced by fear that people (or God) will be upset with your behavior.

You can worry about everyone else, or you can worry about yourself! The only thing that is WRONG is you trying to change who you are because of an arbitrary command from 2000 years ago.

Answer 8

Far from being wrong, being gay is being at the vanguard of human evolution. You are just a few millennia ahead of everyone else. By the way, as to being a Xian, forget it. They would see you dead on the street before they'd recognize your sexuality. Religion is a choice; sexuality is in your genes. (And speaking of that, get out there and let someone else who is gay into your jeans as soon as possible!)

Answer 9

Do whatever feels right to you in your heart. If you spent a good portion of your life worrying what peopel thinks is right, you are in soo much trouble. What is considered the norm in one place, may not be someone place else. Try talking to a counselor. that might help you with your true feelings, no matter they are.

Answer 10

You need to seek medical attention pal. In the mean time, quit teasing guys. You are Gay though, a real Drama Queen.

Answer 11

Hell...NO!!!Of course it is not wrong to be gay!Everyone is the way they are.You are gay?Accept it!It's neither wrong nor right it IS just what you are...
The bible doesn't say anything about it.The church is what condemns us.But doesn't "God love every criature he created"??Doesn't He say "you have to respect and treat other as you'd like to be treated"?
So you believe in God,don't you think he made you this way?
"He made all of us in His own image and likeness" right?
Don't try to deny or hide or reject WHO YOU ARE,or you'll never be happy...