Is it really a bad thing since they may never meet or even lay eyes on each other?
Or is it really OK since it is just something they do for entertainment, like some people get into gaming on line?
2007-09-29 03:05:20 · 21 answers · asked by Rhiannon 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Cheating isn't just a matter of the physical, it also concerns the mental, emotional part of people. Most people who physically cheat surely start out by just thinking about it, then acting upon it. It always begins with a thought. It never JUST HAPPENS.
Anyway I would be extremely hurt if my "significant other" was having an emotional affair with someone else. It says a lot about a person character. It speaks volumes about what's really in their hearts.
2007-09-29 03:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Honee-Bee93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer will vary.
Yes, it may be considered cheating, the one doing the IM or emailing might not think so.
Mostly, it is the mind set of the one doing it. If the fantasy is to hook up and have an affair, well it's cheating.
Otherwise, it just could be some kind of foreplay and the emailer is looking for some hot steamy intimate time with their partner at home.
Either way the significant other is posed to play and If the other partner feels that it is cheating, it is. Cheating is all based on how the parties involved feel about the situation.
2007-09-29 10:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Older1 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
while it may not be physically cheating, it is mentally and emotionally cheating. The mental aspect of a relationship typically is much stronger and deeper than the physical aspect.
If your partner is is using the internet or telephone as an outlet for sexual fantasies and experimentation, they are taking their mental and emotional needs elsewhere to be satisfied so yes, in effect, they are cheating on you.
if you are tolerable to this type of behavior then you may have just opened the door for your partner to cheat "IRL" eventually.
if it is the spice of it all they are after, try getting on separate computers and having a sexy chat with one another; this is also an easy way to explore role playing without seeming so silly. The plus side having a sexy chat with your partner from a separate room is know that once you get really turned on, you can act out your fantasy for some instant gratification.
2007-09-29 10:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by jacks_insanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on "their" heart. Are they flirting, or are they enjoying a pen pal. I am always discussing this with my wife. It's the reason she has full access to my e-mails, my passwords, and all my accounts. I have cultural pen pals all over the globe. There for awhile it was come and go with no one communicating more than a few months and then we would part company and find other interests. However, now I have 7 ladies and 2 men form all over the place and we have stayed the course for 6 months or more. A few have jumped ship from time to time, but, then they always come back, longing for friendship without a relationship. If the focus is on stroking my esteem, then it's wrong, if it is focused on creating a close friendship with the knowledge it is just for the trading of cultural ideas and thoughts, then it's fine.
2007-09-29 10:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are they connecting? Even if it's online, are they connecting in a way that the significant other should be connecting with you? It's all in the connection.
Think about when you and you and your significant other got together. What sort of a connection were you making? Where was it leading? Now translate that to now.
No, it's not ok. Cheating takes on many forms, and it doesn't have to be physical.
2007-09-29 10:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Second Hand Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is being unfaithful. Even if you never meet the person or lay eyes on them it is still in your thoughts and wrong. I would be upset if i found my hubby writing to someone else [ female] and say cutie-pie things to her. When you get married you make a promise to honour the person and that is how it should be, those who mess around and always intend doing it should not get married.
2007-09-29 10:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People seem to speak from a position of authority here about something for which there is no "official" rulebook for what is cheating and what isn't. There is no set "rule", so those who exclaim "yes, it's cheating!", are only speaking from what they define as cheating. In fact, each person's partner decides what is or isn't cheating. To some people, it's a turn-on when their partner sleeps with another person.
I wouldn't like it if my wife had an online relationship, but it probably wouldn't mean divorce.
2007-09-29 10:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First things first.
Ensure that the antivirus is functioning and the mouse is wearing protection.
Deduct one degree of horror and disgust for every 200kms distance the object of his friendship lives away from you.
Reduce his sleeping-on-the-lounge sentence by one month if she lives on another continent.
Deduct another week if it's a bloke.
Or that's what my wife does,
Danny.
2007-09-29 10:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Danny Dix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are giving to the person on line any emotional energy all, and their partner is unaware, then it is cheating. â¼
2007-09-29 10:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Faedra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it jsut sounds worng. i mean it is one thing to talk to friends online, but to have an affair over the internet? where do people come up with this stuff?
2007-09-29 10:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Simfreak111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋