between me and my husband there is a27year gap.On the other hand I have feelings for him and we have a 2 yrs old child.
2007-09-29 02:39:15 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 28, and my husband is 54, and we have the 26 yr age gap... and it's not working so well.
So I don't know what to tell you.
If your sex life doesn't improve and you've tried several things together and it hasn't worked, then I'd say yes, it's time to move on, but it's really up to you if this bothers you as much as you think?
2007-09-29 02:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you understand what a marriage is? Do these words ring a bell? .....I promise to love, honor and obey, in sickness and in health..... IT ISN'T A REASON, PERIOD. He is not breaking his vows to you, if he is unable to take care of your sexual needs because of his age. I take it, this is the reason or you would not have mentioned it in your question. Besides, you have a child to think about. You made a child and you have a responsibility to it. As a responsible parent, the child's needs come first. That child's need to have a mother and father in it's life is greater than your need for a regular orgasm. I think that instead of contemplating a divorce, you need to be contemplating a way in which you and your husband can keep your sexual needs taken care of given his limited ability to perform. Sex isn't only about the orgasm, but also about the feelings of closeness and stress release. There is more than one way to accomplish this. Have you discussed this with your husband? Have you considered a sex councilor? Divorce should be the last resort and only then when your failing relationship becomes detrimental to your child.
2007-09-29 03:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A poor sex life is a good enough reason for divorce but on the other hand there are other things to try first. Get him to get a physical exam to make sure he is okay that way and perhaps talk to him about this and see how he feels about it. Perhaps you can find a way to put more interest into the sexual aspect of your life with a trip to Victoria's secret and a few doses of viagra.
2007-09-29 02:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well... with a 27 yr gap, this is something that you should have considered BEFORE you married him. It was bound to happen.
If you want your son to have his father and family think hard about what the right thing is to do.
If you need sex as much as you think, get yourself to an adult store and buy some *toys* to help you out when he's not in the mood.
The bottom line... is no sex or little sex worth breaking up your marriage? and your son's family?
You tell me.
2007-09-29 02:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by teritaur 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why you have to divorce someone you love just because of a poor sex life. I f you claimed to have feelings for him and you have a 2 yr old son, why think of divorce just because of your sex life. Isn't it more important to have a happy and whole family? There are other areas in a married life that is more important than being satisfied in sex. I, for example, do not have a satisfying sex life with my hubby, it's not that i did not complain and never get irritated about it, but i always think of him and my kids as my priority in making them happy and enjoy family life with me. Life with someone you love is a source of joy and happiness and satisfaction, no matter how imperfect life is. So, take sometime to listen to yourself if your sex life is more important than your family life. Think of the people you're going to hurt if you choose to prioritize your sex life.
2007-09-29 03:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by tee 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That depends on what is happening outside of the bedroom. If you have communication, trust, and parenting issues, then you need to assess whether the marriage is worth saving. The fact that the age gap is there might be a problem; you and he are in different stages of your life. You may need to talk to a marriage counselor to sort out your discontent, as well as letting your husband know that there is a problem. It may also teach both of you how to communicate, in and out of the bedroom. Good luck and God bless.
2007-09-29 02:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Judy W 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey, u married him and u got a child from him , well first just get the divorce idea out of ur mind.
then, do u love him?? do u trust him ?? if yes, be his crazy naughty sexy good listener wife, men like to have a woman for every moment lol , like a woman to be his wife, one to be his gf, one to be his fiancee, one to be his mistress, one to be his mother, sister, everything, be smart and make his eyes fall all the time on u, get naughty clothes, make him chase u and dont let him get u that easy , make his head spin around , make him crazy about u, GET ENERGY INSIDE OF U AND JUST MAKE HIM TOTALLY NEEDING U ALL THE TIME.
love him and show it to him , care for him and make him comfortable, understand him and share all with him, his problems must be urs too, listen, comfort, be his reasonable wife, and also the silly wife, try 2 make it work.
Good luck ( life is so simple to live if u see it simple, smile to it lol NOW , smile lol kidding ).
2007-09-29 03:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by michael 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sex is part of a relationship but its not everything if your love is real and your open with everthing you can find a way to work things out
2007-09-29 02:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by wessalan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in Florida not at all. But for you, is he older than you.? If so you have to understand you married him knowing this might happen. You may have to satisfy yourself untill he dies.
2007-09-29 02:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Life lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yuck!!
I'd have a problem with that too!! God!!!
I dated a guy about 5 years older than me and he had problems in the sex area and I couldn't stand it. I hated it. I couldn't imagine having that age difference.Gross!!!!!!
2007-09-29 02:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by tammy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋