Late last night when I got home from dinner with my husband, I asked him if he wanted to go outside to smoke a ciggie with me (and drink a beer). He said no. So I stayed outside talking iwth our neighbors (2 boys who are about 16). I stayed on my front step the entire time. It was about 2 when I came back ( about 1.5 hr later), I knocked on the door because he'd locked it. When he opened it, he started screaming at me that I'm a prostitute, a ho, and worse than trash and said I would have gone home with the boys. He yelled so much and put his finger in my face and pushed my arm away when I telling him, What are you talking about? He basically went off calling me all of the above, said I had no respect for him and I have no responsibilities and I needto stop acting like a child. I am very hurt by this. He'd never done this before. He wouldn't listen to me and hasn't talked to me and apparently won't talk to me since. I've tried). Please tell me what I should do.
2007-09-29 02:22:20 · 12 answers · asked by Mimi 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him some time and approach him again and try to get
this resolved. He had no right to say those things to you and
to act the way he did.
Apparently he has a temper, just be careful and don't let him
get the best of you.
A temper is hard to deal with and can sometimes go to
extremes if you know what I mean.
2007-09-29 02:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by ittybitty1962 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Were you really skipping out on your responsibilities or was that just an excuse to make you sound bad?
Maybe instead of him saying come in after a few minutes because I want to be with you he got mad by just waiting and waiting. He needs to understand that you are an individual and deserve to have the freedom to talk to neighbors if you would like.
Also, think about how you were talking to them, maybe he was listening, were you laughing and being funny - that can make a guy get jealous and be mistaken for flirting.
Let him cool off and just keep communicating with him. Ask him what it is he expects from you and maybe you can compromise. Maybe if you just stood out there 45 minutes instead of 1.5 hrs it would have been better. He sounds like he was wrong and reacted very inappropriately but he is your husband and you need to both communicate and work through this.
2007-09-29 09:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He defiantly is overreacting to this. I mean there isn't anything wrong with what you have done, you wanted a beer and smoke a ciggie, if he didn't want to than that was his decision. Maybe he may think you gave some beer to the 16 yr old. He handled the whole situation wrong, calling you names like that, he is very insecure and acting like a child. You are an adult and should be treated like one. Try to give him the cold shoulder for awhile ( i find this works for me sometimes) eventually i feel he will admit to being wrong and hopefully apologize for it. Best of luck
2007-09-29 09:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He overreacted a lot. I can understand him being upset, but not calling you out your name. You were outside extremely to long with those BOYS. You could have smoked one and went back in the house. What is there to talk about with teenage boys? You're not setting a good example by smoking and drinking around them, regardless if they do the same.
Let your husband cool down. Don't bother him. Treat him the way he is treating you, meaning if he doesn't talk, you don't talk. Eventually he will talk and then you can explain to him that you were wrong and that he was wrong for disrespecting you. Tell him you will not tolerate him disrespecting you or putting his hands on you under any circumstances.
2007-09-29 09:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by KSR 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a nut case here really, so what you were talking to these boys, no harm done he has a big time problem and should seek help.
2007-09-29 09:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the man has issues he needs to control his jealousy sounds like hes insecure theres something else going on with him i say hang back and when hes ready he will talk to u trust me after awhile he will come around good luck
2007-09-29 09:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by rhodeislandbornandraised 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A crow bar comes in real handy for shutting up screaming fools. Try it. You'll see for yourself.
2007-09-29 09:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well well......wait for him to calm down and tell him you won't put up with his insecurities one more time. Tell him to get a grip or get a pill.
2007-09-29 09:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg! He has major issues!! Tell him to cop on to himself and stay away from him until he does!
2007-09-29 09:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a food sign, but your women power can only handle. patience, cushy etc
2007-09-29 09:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋