I'm sure I'm touching a nerve here in 2 ways, claiming that women have communication problems with men along with hypothesizing that PMS is a big contributor to this problem. So, go ahead and react. Try to understand that I have great compassion for health problems, having fibromyalgia, depression, GAD, and food sensitivities myself. Also, many men have PMS-like symptoms, although they aren't as related to such a reliable syndrome. My ex was pretty reasonable 25 days of the month, but said horrible things during her entire cycle. I tried different methods to manage it, but she always found a way to sneak in nastiness and disingenuous indirectness during her cycle.
Any thoughts?
2007-09-29 02:12:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Mafiagirl, I have to politely disagree. I think women should get a pass for this, if they'd help their man help her with this problem. Of course, they'd have to admit there's a problem, which seems to be extremely difficult for a lot of women.
2007-09-29 02:20:55 · update #1
DiedreO, I tried to communicate with her about it, to find out how I could be most helpful. But, you're right, she had very poor character, and this was one of many deathnells (sp?) of the relationship.
2007-09-29 03:30:28 · update #2
As ancient as I am I should be going through it; now the good news is there is good news so that many of us won't have to suffer, and when we don't suffer we are far better people. I for example take Genseng for woman, maintan a good attitude, involve mysel in things, such as coloring, as I did when I was a kid, never watch news, try to watch as many cartoons and funny shows I can, and always maintain that string of communication unwound and untangled. What I'm saying is that it doesn't have to be and it doesn't need to be a problem with our communication with men.
2007-09-29 10:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that PMS should be detrimental in the least. If a couple is open and honest communicating in the first place then this, if an issue would already have been recognized and some interventions could be established to cope with PMS. Not all women have this issue but it has been shown that some have been identified as problematic. Some women suffer moodiness, migraines headaches, body pain, swelling and bloating and other physical issues that might cause an otherwise good day to be more stressful.
In my experience of thirty years of dealing with males and females I have noticed that women were far more communicative then men. So if there was an issue I would have to say that it would be more with men not wanting to discuss or else having been socialized to have less open ways of expressing what they feel.
Just out of curiosity Port? Did you ever openly ask her what it was that you as a couple could do to combat this problem or was the nastiness just a part of the general disintergration of the relationship? I am honestly curious because this may have been a byproducts or a poor relationship from the beginning.
2007-09-29 02:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'd have to say it depends on the woman. Some experience severe symptoms, and some none at all. Also a factor would be the communication skills she picked up in her family growing up.
I appreciate your compassion for a person experiencing discomfort due to health problems, and I agree, such people deserve extra consideration. But I would hesitate to generalize about PMS. It simply serves as an easy excuse for poor behavior. People in relationships need to continuously work on improving themselves and their interactions with each other.
Good question.
2007-09-29 03:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by not yet 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the "communication" issue you discuss is limited to just men. I am a teacher and I have to be VERY careful around my monthly that I do not traumatize any unsuspecting adolescent! It also depends on the severity of the PMS which can vary for every woman and from month to month. Some months are worse than others I've noticed. The better I eat and the more I exercise usually the less severe my symptoms. But I am one of those that for one week out of the month can turn my head around like that chick in the exorcist movie. I do not like this about myself and over the years I have learned to control more of what I say and how I react but the feelings inside make me want to explode! I have no patience and I cry at everything...It is difficult not just for the man who has to live with the PMSing woman but for the woman herself! My boyfriend just accepts this about me and we have "alone time" for three days out of the month if we need to.
2007-09-29 02:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Pink 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In truth, I think it varies from woman to woman. In some cases, I think it may play a very large role...in others, those who truly don't experience PMS symptoms, I think that it plays no role at all.
I think women need to be honest with themselves and realistically recognize the impact of their cycle on their emotions. I, for one, denied PMS symptoms in myself all my life. But now, living with someone, I have learned that I do - in fact - change a bit each month. My emotions are more intense, resulting in a minor breakdown in communication. But the reason I suggest that women be honest with themselves is so that they can recognize the changes in mood or behavior and work from there. I have, in fact, charted my cycle with respect to emotions...so I can now map out my month in advance, knowing what days will be more productive and 'sane', and which ones are best suited to staying away from my mother in law! LOL!
2007-09-29 03:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It mostly depends on the idiot whoops the man you're talking to. If he has done his homework and is compassionate towards YOUR feelings, knowing
that you're hurtin', it will help. If he doesn't understand the deal about menstruation and thinks that you have a choice about being a witch, either educate him (if he is willing) or lose him (or don't be around people that don't get it). I realize that the 1st choice is the best, but I don't know your situation.
Get ready for the long haul. There's always gonna be somebody askin',"What's her trip, man?" (¦<)
2007-09-29 02:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Viagra
2016-04-06 06:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother claims that she doesn't just have PREmenstrual tension...she says it's pre-, post-, AND during! LOL
I know there's a day or two out of the month where you'd better not even look at me wrong.
2007-09-29 02:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Women don't have a problem communicating if they're PMSing. The problem with men is trying to UNDERSTAND it. If a man understands what's going on....this too shall pass!
2007-09-29 02:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by poutine 4 · 3⤊ 5⤋
You have it wrong sunshine. It's males who have communications problems. Certainly they are lot worse when our hormone levels equal men's - naturally!
2007-09-29 03:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋