(continuing of the question) intellectual, like he would said he wanted to be perfect for you and he just need you to tell him how, but then you just tell him how -- just dress up nice and read philosophy/logic book, but he never do it; but he's ok kinda nice, can bring you citizenship to the country you want to stay in and really likes you and will marry you while you don't really love him (or maybe just a few minutes good feeling occassionally)?
2007-09-29 02:04:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
alright people seems confused with the question.
READ HERE:
I'm the PHILOSOPHICAL ONE, and HE IS NOT ----> that's the problem.
Thanks for answering :)
2007-09-29 02:29:59 · update #1
** Please also note that I'm NOT TRYING to DECEIT him.
I've always told him that i don't like him and don't love him and the reason for it. He just won't let me go.
2007-09-29 02:50:30 · update #2
Would I marry him? No. My wife would objecting to my marrying a guy. Or even another woman.
And I don't think you ought to marry him, either. He sounds like a great guy, and he deserves better.
You do, too.
2007-09-29 02:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a decision you will have to make, can you learn to respect his differences? can you reach a mid point compromise? can he perhaps dress up a little for occasions when the two of you go out, then dress as he wishes the rest of the time? can you go shopping with him to help him pick out some clothes? or just have conversations with him that concern philosophy, pick one area of it, rather then expecting him to read a book
it is very important to accept others as they are, then if they change a little by being around you, fine, if they dont, it has to be ok also
differences can be ok, you dont need to be exactly the same, if you can enjoy each others differences
also you should ask him what about you would he perhaps want to change? or have you learn,
it is not fair to go into a marriage on pretence, acting as if your main feeling is love if its not,
i suggest giving it time, love is often not something that happens immediately, it can grow over time, often true lasting love does grow slowly
if at this time, you are unsure of your love for him, be honest! if you do marry him now, there is no place in that bond for deceit, some do marry and have good marriages based more on other things then love, or equal love on both sides, its all in being honest with the other person,
2007-09-29 09:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is too funny. I dated a guy in high school who was like this.
He wore sweat pants and a polo shirt every day and read philosophy books, took latin classes, and violin lessons.
We broke it off, and ended up being better best friends than being a couple.
Later, he ended up getting a Ph.D. in Physics studying nanotechnology.
Maybe you're better off just being friends. :)
2007-09-29 09:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put your mind on too much bother.
Don't think about losing the good opportunities and conveniences in life that one wears in his sleeves.
They cannot buy your happiness.
There's nothing much fulfilling in the heart than being with the ONE YOU LOVE...any place you are.
2007-10-03 08:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if i want to be felt dumped
2007-09-29 09:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by mak_on_reach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋