Im 16 and I have a license. My parents & I are so different. I am crazy & love to have fun & stay outta house. My parents r boring & all they do is stay in the house & watch news & movies & crap. Literally they NEVER get outta the house. Me, I have friends, & i have a life, but bc of them, im not able to have a life. U don't know how many times I stay in the house. Pretty much every weekend/fri, I'm stuck in the house. They always say stuff like I'm too tired or can't you find a ride? I am sick of always having to ask ppl 4 ride. I have a license but they won't let me go anywhere b/c im not "experienced enuf."
I am a good driver and they've been with me, i make all As in school, i do not get into any trouble at all. What more can I do for them? I also have a job. They won't let me do anything & I feel like living at home w/ them is now like living in a depressed-lonely hell hole.lately have gotten soo pissed off that I'm really about to lose it. Evrything would b easier if I had a car
2007-09-29 01:30:58 · 12 answers · asked by whozyomama778 2 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Other - Cars & Transportation
Well the thing is they won't even let me do what I want with my money. I said that I was going to buy my own car and they were like... No. Also, I was going to buy my OWN class ring since they also never give me any money and they were like no, save your money for a college ring. First I got a job to use my money for what I want, second, why do I want a college ring? What's the pt of having a job if I can't use my own money ya know? I started saving already too btw...
2007-09-29 01:46:55 · update #1
Yes, I am allowed to drive. I do drive myself places, but my parents don't want me taking their car. I can go to places like Bible Study and to Wal-Mart, but when I ask to go to a football game, it's like.. No.
2007-09-29 02:25:10 · update #2
How I treat my parents? I do everything that they say. I do chores and I am very respectable towards them. I do nothing to get myself in trouble. I love them very much, but this subject is what frustrates me. My parents want me to get good grades, and I have done just that for all my life, All As. I do not argue with them in fact, I just go along with what they say, because I'm beginning to think that what I have to say doesn't matter. But overall, I give my parents no trouble and don't intend to.
2007-09-29 03:04:10 · update #3
I see more then one answer in your story, so let's go step by step.
For once, stop judging your parents and take them they way they are. You would not be so 'gotto be outta house' in couple dozens of years. Also, the problem is clearly not with them, but with you.
I hear that you have DL, but not allowed to drive. There must be a reason. Seat with one of them (mom ;-) and ask nicely what you can do so they allow you to drive. Start from that you will be able to do some chores that involve driving (small shopping, dry cleaning, etc). Mention (not as the top priority) that this way you they be less of your chauffeurs.
If you so much fun why don't you organize someway of being picked up? How about inviting one of you driving GF before going out for 'home spa', mini make overs, doing each other up-does. If a GF in your house it would be natural for you to jump into her car to go out. This would not even be a favor.
And why don't you buy yourself a car? If you work and this 'car thing' is your greatest desire just get yourself some cheap wheels and be gone.
PS: It all bring to mind, a sign I seen: 'Teenagers move out now, while you still think you know everything'.
2007-09-29 02:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Remodeling Diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents may be over protective, obvously they love you.
you should try talking to them about this. but some words of advice :
1. don't expect much change at first.
2. when they say "no" drop it and move on [accept this minor defeat with the grace of an adult not the crying or tantrums of a child]
3.. always when youth is given an inch of leeway they seem to take a mile. don't do this as your parents deserve slack too..
4. when set upon a chore do it and do it well without waste of material or time
5. when you are givin a time to be back home. be there. if there is a reason not call
6, upon arrival to your destination [weather across town or country] call and let them know all is well.
7 last but most important. you will always be judged by the company you keep [right or wrong] so ask yourself ,[as if you were the parent] would i want my child hanging with this person or that group? if the answer is no, cut your ties with them and move on
good luck have big fun without trouble or hurt.
and know this as you assume new responsibilities your parents will let go and letting go is never easy. [i am the proud parent of a 3rd year bio major/chem minor who has maintained an a/b average from day one, and when she drives i can fall asleep in the car without worries, but the letting go has been hard for me too.
2007-09-29 02:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by hobbabob 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a job, then buy a car with your money. Parents are settled down hon, they don't require the parties and going out to be with all their friends like someone your age does. It is hard to understand but as the say, "can't you find a ride" I suggest you show more Independence, then they Will take notice. Good luck.
ps. Love them now because you will miss them horribly when they are gone.
2007-09-29 01:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents seem to be overly protective of you, but this is a situation that also shows they care about you. Offer to do little errands, so that you may get the use of the car, but do not abuse this, and you can show them that you are gaining experience, and can be trusted with the car. In less than two years, you can be on your own at 18, and make your own decisions.
2007-09-29 01:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 07:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by giardina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention Bible Study. You could speak to your YOUTH pastor about the problem and then later, when he thinks it might be the correct time, get your parents involved with you and the pastor, in speaking about the problem.
My problem with answering your question, and you have had many good answers, is that you don't say how YOU have treated your parents up to this point.
2007-09-29 02:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by escort500xl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not experiencing anything that all teenagers haven't been through. Try to make peace with yourself for about two more years and try not to do something stupid like to jeopardize your future. Everything's going to be all right. Opportunity is just around the corner.
2007-09-29 02:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by butch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they keep you in or do you choose to stay in. They are not required as parents to let you borrow the car. It is probably smart of them not to. It builds character. Just be happy they don't beat you and go find a ride to a friends house.
2007-09-29 01:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Stinky Badger 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well save up and get a car. I am an old guy with three teenagers at home. I am tired alot also. It happens..they are working for a living and to support you. So get off your butt, stop feeling sorry for yourself and go do something...
2007-09-29 01:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bob D 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
keep buggin' them 4 gas money 4 other peoples car and they might think, it would be easier to put in your car instead....
2007-09-29 01:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by charlie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋