Ok people I know what you're thinking. It's not that I love my career more than my gf, but I cannot simply ignore what i've been working for for basically all my life. Part of my job is to go abroad, and like many people I simply can't afford (financially and because it's work) to take her with me. She thinks I don't love her even when I try to assure her that I really do, and that I cannot simply not go to work and go abroad etc. and I cannot quit/ change job either. What can I do to make her happy? without sacrificing my job.
2007-09-29 00:46:12 · 12 answers · asked by explorer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear Explorer, you, unfortunately, cannot Make her happy. That's a choice she and she alone can make.
If you like your job, and you're doing right by her in the relationship and she's not happy, she's not going to Get happy.
I mean, it's ok to miss you and say, boy, I can't wait for you to come home, but if she's wallowing in misery over this you might want to find someone who isn't completely overwroght by your employment.
2007-09-29 05:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a career woman and my career comes first, before any boyfriend coming through my life. You may start considering she is not mature enough to understand your situation. You may want to find someone who's also career oriented and would understand the traveling and the late night at the office. The fact that she things you 'don't love her' shows how immature she is. She thinks you'll pay for a house and a life together with monopoly money?
2007-09-29 08:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm gonna get a lot of the thumbs down symbols for this but if your going to be traveling abroad end your relationship and then concentrate on your career for a while.
{looking back on my life I wish I would have done that} The man that I just knew I'd be married to forever left me and his two sons for a woman that he works with but that's ok, I still have my children and my career.
Good luck
2007-09-29 07:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In the long run, it is the relationships (with people in general, not just romantic relationships: work colleagues, friends, family!) throughout your life that you will look back on and think about continuously, not about money or jobs or any other materialistic thing. ....BUT
... in saying this, I understand that you have worked hard to be where you are. she needs to respect what u want to do!
Just talk to her about it. Reassure her that time with her is what you enjoy the most, but we all have to work and you want to do something you're passionate about.
If she can't come to terms with that, you need to decide if she is really committed.
2007-09-29 07:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATE your schedule to her. My work is the same, and my bf feels as though there is no time left for him, until I would give him my schedule and I would work 3 hours a day dedicated to him, and one day every two weeks. A day did not go by that we did not talk, sometimes on lunch I would at least call him to let him know I am not SOOoooo busy that I could not think of him in the day.
2007-09-29 07:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about making her happy. She sounds like a spoilt, immature brat. Find a real woman, one who understands what your priorities in life are and has some of her own.
2007-09-29 07:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can have both a career and a relationship, as long as you know how to balance the two.
2007-09-29 07:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't you think she should respect that you worked hard to get where you are now.You are already showing her that you are a hard worker and a responsible man.i think she is being selfish.She needs to grow up.If she loves you then she will respect you and try to work this out.
2007-09-29 08:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if your really not read for a lasting relationship at this point in your life.
2007-10-03 07:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more wrong with your relationship than you think.
Your gf is too insecure. Maybe she is also too immature?
2007-09-29 08:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋