your husband or Boyfriend?? who will you choose if you dont want to loose both of them?

Answer 1

You made the decision to be unfaithful to your husband. You told your husband that you wanted to divorce him in order to be with this man. Now that he's giving you what you want instead of having a huge confrontation or making a big event of trying to reconcile, you are starting to regret it.

Sorry, but I think it sounds like your husband is all too willing to be rid of you. He's already told his parents that the two of you are splitting up & started the divorce proceedings. I think it's time for you to be a grown up & deal with what you've done. I don't think you really want to be with either guy. I think that your marraige hit a slump & you wanted to be desired. Instead of working on saving a marraige that you don't seem to want, you went looking for a new guy. I can't help but think that if your husband were to take you back you'd still be out looking for a new boyfriend (or continuing on with the old one) within a year. If you really wanted to be back with your husband you wouldn't be flip flopping over who to choose- you'd already know the answer.

Be a grownup & deal with the fact that your marraige was over when you told your husband you wanted to split. If he does by some chance take you back, I suggest couples' therapy for you both.

Whatever you do, don't stay together "for the baby". That is the worst decision you could ever make. What good is staying together for the baby if you're just going to scream at each other & be unfaithful? That does more harm to the child than good. I know this because for years my parents stayed together "for the children". We grew up being used to having our parents scream horrible things at each other. When it wasn't screaming it was uncomfortable silences & parents that were out "with a friend" all night. My parents would use my sisters & I as weapons to fight their battles. There was also some resentment that was unsaid towards my sisters & I, since they both knew that if we weren't here they would have been in happier relationships. I didn't know that it was abnormal until I started hanging out at friends' houses & seeing how their parents acted. If you really care about your baby you will try to get them a happy homelife before thinking about your needs. If that means that you have to stay separated, then stay separated.

Answer 2

I can see your not real faithful, not a candidate for a fifty year marriage, right?

I would suggest you see a marriage consular and see what your problems are before you start having children, unless you already have.
Marriage is a sacred duty, I still believe in that bond, like most young people, you don't seem to. It's to bad. What are you going to do when you get older and your alone. You can't be trusted now? who's going to raise your kids?
Don't ask us to choose.

Answer 3

You can't keep them both coz they are opposing force.
Just like a buying a shoe.
You let go off your money then you will get the shoe.
Which will I choose? Assuming they both good. I will choose the husband.
In your case that's for you to decide.

Answer 4

Only a nasty woman will sleep with another man, when she's married. Choose the boyfriend, so your husband can find himself a decent wife.

Answer 5

Well i would probably dump them both,cause when they found out about one another my life would be hell anyway.I'd loose them both unless they both decided to share,or maybe i wouldn't have got married to begin with knowing i was going to screw around on them.Are there not real people out there anymore or are there just abunch of fakes.

Answer 6

Which one do you love the most. I think you will loose them both anyway.

Answer 7

Leave the one u r cheating coz he will leave u for sure wen he gets to know the truth

Answer 8

You've already lost the husband, too late to be sorry now.

Answer 9

I'd probably choose my husband b/c my bf will understand why.

Answer 10

husband. you may end up not being happy with your boyfriend and regret it.