I got pregnate and then he left he said i need to get an abortion but i didnt want to now he says adoption im not up for either im 20 and he is 18 he says if i have it and keep the baby that me and him were threw and he wanted to be left out im so stress and sad about this whole situation?!
2007-09-27 19:29:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If i were you i would never get an abortion just because he wants you to,or give my baby up to adoption which is also not an option because you want to keep your baby and you have all the right to do so.
I would leave him alone and not stress about it because you are pregnant and stress is bad for the baby.
After your little one is born you can talk to him and try to solve this but for now just worry about you and the baby.
Good luck
2007-09-27 19:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is one hat will not support you what ever the option. If you think that you honestly can not give that baby what her or she needs then giving it up for adoption may be the best for the baby. Than really needs to be your priority.
To many people think of Mom will help or Dad will help....well guess what? that is not best for the baby and it doesn;t happen so you get stuck on welfare and are not able to make something of yourself. There are so many adoption options are available. he has so job I would be or a very low end job at this point and It may not in the babies best interest. You may be tempted to fight it but he is the picture of a deadbeat father. Being a single parent is not impossible but it is hard.
Abortion would not be an option for me personally but you need to be only a certain number of weeks along to safely do that You need to talk to a professional a planned parenthood or your GYN. Talk to you clergyman. Get to a counselor and explain to them what you are up against. Even if you get the support from the BF it is only a certain % not a lot. You need to talk this over with somone before you m ake a decision. Open adoption may be for you.
2007-10-02 00:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by littlerascal711 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was having casual sex with a guy although he was older, he more or less ignored her after she refused to have an abortion. By the time she was 7 months along he decided he wanted to be a part of his childs life and he moved in with her, he is in and out of the country now and she fell pregnant again, he was not happy and wanted her to have an abortion but she refused so he will deal with it. He hasn't been in our country for about 5 months though and he isnt sure he will make it back for the birth so who knows whats happening. My friend is happy and excited though about her babies, she is angry with the father for not being there but she knew what it would be like when she got pregnant so too bad for her, you just have to make the best of the situation, at 20 years old you are mature enough to make a good mother, My daughter is nearly two and I am 22, she is the best thing that I have ever acheived. Your child is worth it and the father may realise that or he may not, be strong and give your child all the love they need.
2007-09-28 02:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are just too young to have a baby in the first place...
Nyweiz, judging by the way you described the situation, i think your bf loved you but not enough to leave the comfort of his home and begin a new, more complicated life with you and your future baby. At 18 years of age, he is not yet ready for a commitment that will bind him with you. Its not that they don't love you, its just that they don't want the responsibility. Also, he's considering the kind of life you'll provide for your baby. Both of you are still undergraduates, and of course, financially unstable. He's just being practical.
If you really want to keep the baby, have an agreement with your bf. That the two of you won't get married, but he must accept the fact that he has a responsibility with your baby. tell him that when he's already working, he must not forget you and your baby.
2007-09-28 03:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. know-it-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Megan men can be ignorant people at times. If he loved you he would love what came with you. You didn't make the baby on your own. Lov wouldn't give you ultimatums. If he doesn't love the child that you bear how can he love the person bearing it? You are better of with out him, he needs to figure out what he wants. He's nit ready for this, so his answers will continue to change, a few months from now he may want the baby and not you. So don't stress, just relax and plan for you and your new blessing. Do whats best for you and the health of your unborn child.
2007-09-28 03:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i kno u might not want my opinoin cuz im only 14 but i think that you should have that baby. If hes man enough to have sex with you hen he should be man enough to help with that baby. And if he leaves you because you decide to have the baby then good riddens to him cause you can do better han that. Maybe you'll find a man who will accept you and your child. I really dont think an abortion is such a good idea. I really cant say if he truly lovcause he es you. Hes probably just scared becauses he so young he ma not be ready to be a father. You to need to disscuss this on your own terms.
2007-09-28 02:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by SpongeMama 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At some point in your life you are going to realize that he just wanted to get laid, and you were willing so he went for it. That has nothing to do with love, it has everything to do with an 18 year old guy who wants to experience sex.
Sounds like the most you can hope for is getting child support from him throughout the years. There are so many children out there that never do get to know their fathers because of this same reason. And unfortunately, it sounds like, from what you wrote, that this will be the same situation.
2007-09-28 02:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one that's what happens w/ younger guys... have the baby and say you will see him in court
think about this even if you did have an abortion would you still want to be in the relationship w/ him after he did that to you and the baby?? i would really just tell him you guys are done since he can't take responsibly...hes being a major jerk and a child about the whole thing
good luck
2007-09-28 10:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep the baby.
Please.
It will grow up in an environment with a distant father who does not care about it...etc etc.
It would be so much happier with adopted parents.
And you would be happier with this guy.
He's probably just under a lot of stress because he's 18 and his gf is having a baby!!!
No guy wants that at 18. He still has a life to live. Don't take that away from him and yourself.
I wish so badly that I had been put up for adoption...anything would be better than what I've been through with my parents.
If he's not going to stay with you if you have the baby, don't keep it.
I've been pushed to the suicidal point of depression because of my family situation. I wish I'd never been born...or ATLEAST not into this family.
Please, don't keep that baby.
It's better for everyone...
but mostly you need to think of your unborn child.
2007-09-28 02:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Bambi 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I can't believe you're surprised. You do NOT "need" to get an abortion! He's just trying to avoid any responsibility at all. If he told me that if I kept the baby that he and I were "threw", I'd laugh in his face and tell him to go ahead and leave. Don't ever choose a stinking man over your child.
2007-09-28 06:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋