Do u really love your spouse or still u think of your Ex-Bf / Gf. if yes what is the intensity.
2007-09-27 18:43:30 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-02 05:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thinking and loving are two different things...I hope you know that! I've been married for almost 6 six years now...and though our romance seems to be fading...our love, care, concern for each other grows with each passing day.
Another thing, intensity, is a difficult to define, subjective term and may not mean the same for 2 different people, so, can't answer that one straight. but like most people here have said, 'I love my husband intensly", I will say the same.
Gone are the days when ex's were past, my husbands ex-GF is still in touch with him..I know all about her...and have even met her a few times, and have no issues with that. He talks about her, whenerver he gets an email or a call from her. He sometimes eats lunch with her, so what? Thats not love...but that's more than thinking..but I KNOW that he does not love her, it's me he loves....so "thinking" or even "being friends" with an ex is no big deal. The problem is when you still feel attracted towards that ex...yes, thats not a good sign! so, its important to identify the feeling deep down associated with one's thoughts...if thinking is not associated with "wish it was her/him (ex)" then its okay.
2007-10-05 18:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by jane doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for five, almost six years now, I REALLY love my husband, and it's very intense. The sex part fades, but every day I find a new reason to be thankful for him, and we still try and keep that part of our life interesting. Just because that fluttery romance feeling fades doesn't mean love has! Forget the ex! You're with your spouse so concentrate on HIM!
2007-09-27 18:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by hrgirl1701 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the kind of person, that always tries to remember, "we broke up for a reason" Once that ship had sailed, it ain't coming back, no way, no how. My marriage has been nothing but a roller coaster ride the entire time. Howver, I know there's a reason I'm married to the man I am married to, and there's a reason we're still both here. Only God knows why though!! But no matter how the relationship hurts, I never think of my exs because they're in my PAST for a reason.
2007-09-27 19:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by TMama 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We are all human! I have been married twice. And I am very much in love with my husband. And from time to time I think of old past loves, and even wonder what they are doing today. I think that is is OK. I don't get stuck on it. Just a little day dreaming. We all day dream. The reality is they are EX'S, and should stay that way!
2007-10-05 18:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Living Life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do really love my spouse or I would not be with him. That said, I have had the occasion to think about someone that I have loved in the past and I like those memories. Love is love whenever it happens. Also, I would like to say that there is not a man in my past that can hold a candle to the man I am with now, he is my heart and I want happiness in his life and I am glad that that happiness includes me right now, I believe he feels the same way. And, there are two other great men in my life one 74 and one 15, no one can hold a candle to them either.
Proud wife, mother, daughter, and individual......S
2007-10-05 05:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know your reason for tossing such a question but my answer would be the fact that, when you start living with a person or be married to that person it is obvious that you learn things about the other that you may or may not like...but then marriage in itself is a compromise on various levels..and the complex brain of we humans actually love to compare things!!! Its perfectly normal to wonder how it would have been with the "EX"...but then believe me "A known devil is better than an unknown angel".
2007-10-02 21:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by sabita k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honest answer. I so want to love my wife of 18 years but can hardly stand to be around her. I've worked so hard to give her every reason to be happy but everyday she has complaints. I stay because I love the children so much and I gave my word to God. I ache for a friendly loving woman in my life but have lost hope and will probably divorce her when the kids have grown.....
2007-10-05 09:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by radioman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do truly love my husband although he recently came out and told me he fells he is no longer in love with me anymore. So the intensity level is not the same as it was before. But I still truly love him and feel he is the love of my life.
2007-10-04 14:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by crazy_k_17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do love my spouse. But that doesn't mean that I've completely forgotten everybody in my past. I may not love them as I may have at one time (many types of love, ya know), but I am usually thinking about whatever it is that I'm doing at the time.
2007-09-27 19:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i won't lie to you i have been married for 7 years,idon't love him anymore.i leave with him,because i have a lot to thank him o owe him who Im now,but the love is gone I like him as a brother,but he destroyed all the love that at some point in my life i felt for him,been rude,ignoring me,putting me on a side,pointing to all my mistakes never my accomplishments,but my fam loves him maybe the diferense of age he's 20 years older than me.We have no kids.We so diferent i look for love attention he looks for perfection and money.I never think about my ex,but I think about the man that will love me and respect me for who Im.One day I will find the man.
2007-10-05 18:39:48 · answer #11 · answered by Bonita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋