We've been friends for 4 yrs. I'm 24 & hetero while she's 28 & BI. She's always a shoulder to cry on when I'm feeling down. But lately, she's been trying to fondle me & I don't feel comfy with that. I told her I don't like that, & I'm afraid she might turn against me & not wanna be my friend anymore & use my flaws against me & throw them in my face, even though she said she's not gonna do that. She's my only friend, but I'm starting to sense something fishy. Our friendship seems too good to be true because many people tell me that no one is gonna be PERFECTLY nice to me. & me & my friend almost never argue. I'm wondering if she's thinking I have to pay her sex to tell her my problems. I don't wanna live like that. I thought she was understanding & caring but now I'm not sure. She was molested as a child & she's a bisexually promiscuous nymphomaniac. I need help. I sort of sensed our friendship tearing apart when I started having nightmares of her treating me mean. Is she a good friend?
2007-09-27 17:42:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is really a rough problem. If you have told her that you are not comfortable with her fondling and she continues to do that then she is wrong and is not being a friend. However if she has been a good to friend to you for a long time, then perhaps she is going through a bad time right now and feels she needs more from you than you are willing to give. Have you been able to talk this over with her? If you have not yet, tell her that you do not want to lose a wonderful friendship but that you are not available for a sexual relationship. Tell her you will always be her friend and that you hope that this is enough for her.
I hope you can work it out. Good friends are hard to find.
2007-09-28 07:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to accept you are not that way, just tell her how you feel, and if she has a problem with it then you will know she is not a friend at all. In my opinion she is not a friend, but my opinion don't count. She should not make passes at you since she knows you are not comfortable with it. Friend's are there for you in hard times and help you through them, not to add more problems to your life
2007-09-28 01:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like you just need to sit her down have a good talk with her and tell her that you are not bi that you love her as a sister or whatever and you will always be there for her but it makes you uncomfortable when she trys to feel up on you. and your not like that. tell her that you dont want to lose her as a friend but how ever if this keeps up it is just going to push you futher away from her andyou dont want that to happen. good luck with that need more advice my email is bigrb0006@yahoo.com
2007-09-28 00:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by robert p 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe u shud have a heart to heart with her. if its her nature to be flerty, she may not realize this is making u uncomfortable, tell her how u feel, if she ignors u then, then she is a bad friend. she cent read ur mind tho silly *smiles an pokes u* plus there can be relationships with no fighting~! its called a best friend :-} it sound liek u have a lot of fears and worries, maybe something else is bothering u lately? *hugs* always follow ur heart please, an do whut makes u happee *smiles*
2007-09-28 00:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
drop her now, I think she is trying to take your relationship to another level, and if that's not what you want, tell her this makes you uncomfortable and stop seeing her. Don't worry that she's your only friend, get out more, go to social functions, you will make other friends. good luck.
2007-09-28 00:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by onyx1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she hasnt done anything yet she probaly wont. You should try and ask her. She seems to understand you.
2007-09-28 10:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut her loose, be casual..not dramatic. find other things to do that does not involve her. I feel bad for her past drama but it is not your problem. you need to join a club or group that interests you and keep yourself busy. do not make yourself a victim. good luck to you.
2007-09-28 00:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋