This guy was not my boyfriend. but we had feelings for eachother, he lives 2 hours away and i only see him about once a month. we were involved sexually. and i got extremely drunk one night and had a bi curious experience with his sister. i feel awful about it, he found out and now hates me and says he lost all respect for me and says any chance that there was for us is now gone. i was just soo drunk when it happend and i figured if i was going to do somehting like that it should be with someone who i knew well. its not like i would have not wanted him and wanted her. its not like i did his brother and got preg or fell in love or anything like that. it was just a one time experience thing. will he ever forgive me? should he forgive me? i truly am sorry and wish i never done it! b/c i do love this guy!! and i really want to be with him!! i just think if me and her can act as if it never happend then why cant he move past it and give me another chance?
2007-09-27 16:50:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
all i can say is post your question to him, email it. maybe when he reads your side without you there he'll think about it and forgive. if not i can't say i blame him. i would be pissed if my guy friend slept with my sister. just because it was a bi experiment doesn't make it any less than SEX with someone else, especially his sister, i mean he will ALWAYS be thinking about where your mouth has been
2007-10-02 15:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by myself1230 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are really in love with this guy. You only see each other once a month & when you do it's for sex. Sure, you can say "but we do eat dinner or something beforehand", but face it: it's a long distance sex buddy. The fact that you were willing to have sex with his sister (drunk or not) shows that your heart really wasn't into this relationship. If you were really as in love with him as you say you were you wouldn't have allowed yourself to get into bed with anyone other than him. I've seen guys & girls get slobbering drunk & still remain faithful to the people they really cared about.
I don't think he really was that into you as well. If he really wanted to be with you & have a real relationship he would have been seeing you more than once a month & would have moved down to be with you or asked you to move in with him. I think that he was hurt that it was with his sister, but I also think that he may be using this as a reason to end the relationship.
2007-09-27 23:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you get over him having a sexual experience with your brother?!! I highly doubt it. You betrayed his trust with someone he also trusted. that type of betrayal is very hard to forgive. It also probably wierds him out to think about you and his sister getting busy together. Even though to the two of you it wasn't or isn't a big deal to him it is. I hate to tell you this but I don't think he will be able to forget enough to date you. He may be able to forgive you in time but I doubt he will ever be able to forget. Sorry
2007-09-27 23:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk is no bloody excuse and this is your punishment - I bet he would've been ok if it was another girl but not his own sister! I would be angry too and wouldnt forgive you because I would always have it in my mind that you would sleep with another member of my family. You have been hurtful to him and is what you get in return, not trying to be negative but you wanted the truth.
2007-09-27 23:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Me, myself and I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you act as if nothing ever happen if you found out he was bi? and caught him with another man when he was drunk
knowing this is the guy you claim to love and want to be with?
2007-10-05 16:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ben 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone. Lesson learned, move on. Yes, he should forgive you, but that is his choice. However, you couldn't stand much chance of a relationship at this point, so it's best left alone.
2007-09-27 23:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by CB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an idiot...... His sister.... Guys usually like bi girls but only when there involved and not with there sister. He would never want to see her naked... You screwed up........ If I was him I wouldn't date you ever again and I sure as hell wouldn't forgive you.
2007-09-27 23:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by dreamover24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that its a really tough situation for him...he probably liked you alot, but by 'experimenting' with his sister, he probably interpreted it as you not considering your relationship with him seriously. i'd give it time...i mean, how can you expect a guy to be involved with you when he knows you got it on with his sister?! thats just twisted from his point of view...good luck, stay away from drunken experiences, and hopefully you can earn his trust back. step back and make sure he knows you regret it, but show him you're trustworthy by example.
2007-09-27 23:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by jelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is jealous.....................and cant handle rejection so now he is rejecting you..it is what it is it happened.. and thats that...he needs to just get over it..and if he dont forgive you then he wasnt worth it in the first place to be with...considering you where only sex buddies anyways... what the hell should he care who and where and what you do with.. if its just sex anyways...get over it
2007-09-27 23:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by hooteehoo2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys like "bi" girls, so if that was his reaction, then he was just looking for an excuse to dump you.
2007-09-27 23:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋