No matter how much you try to teach them or tell them what you like...
And yes s.ex is part of a marriage and my s.ex life sucks with my husband really bad...
He is done in like 1 minute or so and this is true.
2007-09-27 16:35:35 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try oral sex or something... not all men can go for more than a min... actually i've heard that the avg is like 2-4 min. women usually want/need more than that. try more foreplay or help yourself out... in the end it all comes down to one thing... if you are ready to give up because you want better sex then why are you in this relationship. true love doesnt depend on sex (although it does make it easier). if you arent happy leave... but remember no guy is perfect so if you love him except for the sex then you are in a normal marriage... it takes work.... marriage is never successful w/o constant upkeep
2007-09-27 16:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by avalon552 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can. I think it is filed under irreconcilable differences. I see what you mean though, s.ex is an important part of marriage and one that helps lay the foundations of respect and trust. If there is no passion or caring in the bedroom there may not be any in the relationship. Now I may be wrong, and he may be the sweetest most caring guy out there. That is beside the point thugh, even if he is a so called "minute man" he should still take the time and compassion to make sure you are fulfilled.
I firmly believe in taking any serious partner for a test drive, because honestly if the sex is not good, the relationship probably will fail as well. I know the coalition for premartital sex will be all over my butt for this and I expect many thumbs down. But you know what, I have been in a relationship with my husband for almost 8 years, and the s.ex is still as unbelievable as it was the first time, I still get goosebumps when he touches me, and he makes me see stars. So that is my opinion.
If you are unhappy leave, it would probably be best for both of you. Why live an unhappy life and be miserable all the time (and make each other suffer), when you could be out meeting someone who will please you all around.
2007-09-27 17:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by shannanm2783 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can leave him. But have you seriously talked with him? Take him to a local adult store and buy some of the gels they have that will help him last longer. Also there are some pretty good "educational" dvd's out there that will help him understand what a woman likes, needs, and wants. They also will give him some ideas about how to last longer. Pull out before he cums wait a minute or so then back at it. Actually premature ejaculation is common for men. They just need practice and patience to learn how to control it better. Another good trick is have him masturbate an hour or so before making love with you. That will take the "edge" off and may prolong his orgasm for a bit longer.
But to leave because he cums too quickly would not be right or fair to either one of you.
Sure sex is part of the marriage, but sex takes two people (except in the case of masturbation) working together to get it right.
Keep practicing, several times a day, pretty soon he'll get it right and then you can let him know.
2007-09-27 16:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because there's always the kitchen table. Sex was really boring in my relationship for awhile...same old stuff. Then I suggested A LOT of foreplay which can be better then the sex sometimes and eventually we were back on track.
But yea, you can leave your husband for any reason but there should be more to a relationship then sex. Did you get married for the sex? You probably knew what he was like before marriage.
2007-09-27 16:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is usually made up of many things that make it good or bad. Some men don't know how to make their action in the bedroom interesting for their partner and some don't care because sex is almost always good for them.
You have to look at the whole package. I find it hard to believe a woman who loved and respected her husband would leave him because he was not an incredible lover.
2007-09-27 16:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously there is a problem on your end if he aint hearing ya. starters you cant expect him to do all the work. why dont you play with your self or take control and make him ly there while you get off. if he is a premature then masterbate him just enough to ease some of his tension. invest in a few toys like dildos and get him to use them on you and you will find that you will soon be catching up in the o scores. and no devorcing over bad sex is no excuse you should love your parnter regardless. would you devorce him if he was paralysed or had a injury wher he could no longer have sex. cuz thats what you are suggesting.
2007-09-27 17:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You are so sad. Not to sound mean or anything, but why are you assuming the problem is with your husband? Could it possibly be that he is having an issue with you or your sex life? Have you considered speaking to the family doctor about possible medical issues? O gosh, or maybe even a marriage counselor if it is bothering you to the point that you are thinking of divorce?
2007-09-27 17:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by rmdybles30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not come out judging you because Sex is a way to connect/ bond and if it is bad it becomes an issue even though people are so quick to say "it's not all about sex" however if it is bad it is not good either i think he needs to know in a gentle way that he is not cutting it i suggest you two should go see a sex therapist who can help you both learn how to satisfy each other before you throw in the towel every one is capable o f being good in bed sounds like your man is lazy in the bedroom and needs to get up off his butt and please his wife. good luck dear
2007-09-27 16:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can leave your spouse for almost any reason you like. And if he's not paying any attention to your needs, then it may be a good idea? Don't be hasty, give it some time if you can, and TALK, TALK, TALK.
Unfulfilled needs have a way of getting filled somewhere else if you get my drift. It would be best to be single before that happens.
2007-09-27 16:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by poolplayer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to seek help from medical treatment first, if SEX life is your concern. There are many contributing factors to pre-mature ejaculation. Some from mental some from physical.
Most men suffers premature ejaculation because of mentally matters. Find out what is the root of the cause. If it is due to physical, you may seek help from a Chinese physician. As to I know, there is one type of chinese medicine, after a few courses will heal this sindrome. Good Luck.
2007-09-27 17:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋