i have a 8month old boy.but accidently im pregnant again...now im 5 month pregnant. my son is very stubborn and he is crying everytime also he is in underweight. he didnt drink breastmilk.. my reletives all says,its all bcoz of my pregnancy. my pregnancy make him something like jealousy. is it true?????? how can be a 8 month old child know about my pregnancy????? what is the scientific reason??? pls help..
2007-09-27 16:32:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My first child was 3 months old when we found out we were pregnant again. It wasn't planned but we were still excited. I don't think my daughter grasped the concept until about 11 months old, and even then it was at an 11 month old level. I put her baby doll under my shirt and said there is a baby in there, mommy is going to have a new baby (about 1 month before the baby was going to be born) when I took the baby doll out, I said, where is the new baby and she pointed to my belly every time, until he was born and then she pointed to him, so I knew she understood a tiny bit. I wasn't able to breastfeed, but that was because i didn't have milk at the beginning. My kids are all big for their age, but proportionate. She did so good with the transition, she wasn't jealous or anything. Each child has different temperaments and are physically built differently. My boy (the second one) is fussy and has always been more difficult. Some days, he cries more than my baby, that is just him. I am sure they can sense charges but I assume he is just a fussy child, do you give him formula and make sure he gets the nourishment he needs?
2007-09-27 16:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by nanners454 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My children are 14 months apart. Do the math..that means I got pregnant with my 2nd when my daughter was around 4-5months. It happens. We think of it as our unplanned blessing. Just because your baby isnt drinking breastmilk does not mean that's the reason he is underweight or because he is jealous. I know you probably feel guilty right now because your first born isn't going to have as much alone time with you as you wanted. Try to just spend as much time with him right now as you can. As for him being underweight, if the doctor thinks it is serious, then go along with what the doctor and you decides best. As far as an 8 month old being jealous... they don't have that ability yet... so do not worry about it. He will probably be jealous when you have the baby and that is normal. I have friends that had babies 5 years apart and their 5 year olds were jealous. Just take care of yourself because when you have babies this close together, your body did not have enough time to completely heal from the first. My children are now 14 months and 2 and a half and are perfectly fine. It will all work out, trust me.
2007-09-27 23:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki in PA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop listening to people who are telling you that your pregnany is to blame for your baby's crying- that's mean and ridiculous! your 8 month old is NOT jealous- he's just an 8 month old and they DO cry! Maybe he is just a little more difficult baby- some are, you know! As for his being underweight... I have a 5 yr old grandson who is only 28 pounds and he's perfectly healthy per his Drs. so don't worry so much- make sure you offer him a wide variety of nutrtitious food and he'll eat when he's hungry- don't supplement him with junk food. Give him full fat dairy products, eggs, bananas, etc. Good Luck with your son AND your new baby!
2007-09-27 23:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by nanny411 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two children are 16 months apart in age, and never, and I do mean never, have they ever had any unusual jealousies. They are now 22 and 23 years old, and doing great as siblings and as individual adults. On a more personal note, my older sister and I are only 12 months apart in age, and we grew up as best friends and "playmates" throughout our younger years. We eventually developed different preferences and, of course, life takes us in different directions from marriages and careers, etc., but we have never, and again I mean never, had any unusual jealousies or disagreements that don't simply come from two people developing different personalities and preferences. I wouldn't worry about anything, and I do mean anything. God Bless you.
2007-09-27 23:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's bull. Your son is the way he is and it has nothing to do with you being pregnant. If he doens't drink the breastmilk make sure you get formula, and are feeding him solid foods. Take him to the doctor to make sure he is not underweight because of an illness.
2007-09-27 23:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with babies close together. It will make them closer later. They will probably be like twins because they will only remember having had each other all their lives. Mine are 14 months apart, 27 months apart (the hardest to adjust yet), 18 months apart, and 23 months apart. They all adore one another and we have not had jealousy problems!
2007-09-28 02:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by GrowingMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your accidently pregnant nice way to put that. Well for one i'm sure your son can see your belly is different and getting bigger you have to tell him there's a baby in mommy tummy. And if's not taking breastmilk he needs to be on formula and also are you giving finger foods baby food.
2007-09-28 00:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please visit your local clinic asap and seek advice. Considering you got pregnant so fast after having a child, and thinking an 8 month old can be "jealous", you seem like you're not all there. Seek help from healthcare professionals and stop asking total strangers for serious advice. Good luck!
2007-09-27 23:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be a definite gap of 2 to three years.It takes care of health,
As rightly understood youmy neglect the elder one.
2007-09-27 23:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by Bhahagyam 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋