I mean guys with no class at all. She cheated on her boyfriend back home with several guys when she first got to college - one was with a guy on the first night of frosh orientation. The second time was in her college dorm room with an out of town guy who paid her by check for sex.
There were a few other guys who got her drunk in bars and then took her back to her dorm room for sex - noticed by others on her floor.
One of those guys is a college grad 5 years older than her who works two dead end jobs - probably because of a shoplifting conviction. She not only slept with him, but his older married half-brother - behind his back, and also in a threesome.
The latest guy is 19 years older than her, who beat his wife and a child, divorced the wife, went bankrupt, and had to be taken to court twice to pay child support. He always seems to have money for flash clothes and a car, although he can't pay his property taxes or auto insurance.
Could it be she is compensating?
2007-09-27 16:29:47 · 13 answers · asked by Raleigh Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How can you call her bright? At some point, when you continue to make such poor choices, you are no longer smart or bright.
Many women (and men) are actually very bright in other areas of their lives, but total disasters when it comes to relationships....
2007-09-27 16:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl has serious self-respect, self-esteem issues concerning herself. She doesn't believe in herself enough, so the types she's choosing, gives away the fact she thinks that's all she deserves! Going with whomever, whenever, and whatever, really says she's lost deep down inside and is looking to others to make herself feel better. Only problem is, she keeps choosing the wrong people! Another big giveaway of a serious problem is that she's looking for personal verification through sex. She'll never find anything there, only STD's, perhaps AIDS in her future, or who knows. I'd say the young lady is not very bright at all, regarding her personal sense of self. She is off to a really bad start in life. Is she compensating you ask? No! She's totally stabbing in the dark! I doubt she'll finish her education, as she's too busy digging a deeper hole for herself! Are you a good friend? See if you can wake her up! Like the saying goes, "You are your friends" - the future prediction for the course of her life surrounds the choices that she is making and the type of people she's spending her time with. I don't see much good so far, do you? Good luck raising her awareness that she's going downhill fast! It doesn't have to be that way, but it's up to her to change!
2007-09-27 16:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been so negative about your friends, here, that I certainly wouldn't want to be one. Try this: Work on your personality for 4 months. Every day do these things: Give compliments to 3 people. Show appreciation (thanks) to 3 people. (can be a note or e-mail, can be a stranger or someone from your past Do a kindness for 3 people who either don't know it was you who did it, or can't pay you back Read 3 chapters in a biography of a successful person Practice showing physical love to 3 elderly people or children or animals (you know what I mean! - pet or massage or hug) Read the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie Read "The Privilege of Prayer" from "Happiness Digest" by E.G. White Practice at least 2 kinds of smiles and keep one on your face most of the time. Good luck!
2016-04-06 04:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's looking for love in all the wong places!!! She has a problem for sure if she's doing all those guys and a 3some to? she has Moral problems and needs some kind of help, like counceling! she doesn't seem to care about herself ! She lets guys use her like that. She may be to far gone to even get help cause she may enjoy her life style. it's not good though! if she's a friend talk to her, and tell her about AIDS!
2007-09-27 16:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has low self esteem and sees herself as being unworthy of a good guy. She needs therapy badly because she is ruining her life.
What is her background? Was she molested as a child? Was there a father in the home? The answers may lie in her childhood.
2007-09-27 16:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she doing drugs, since she took a check from a guy for sex
it makes me think that might shed some light on the situation.
2007-10-01 15:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has no self esteem. I went through some pretty crazy times as a freshman in college. I had been very sheltered in high school and really needed to explore my freedom, luckily I came through it okay...I hope she will to.
2007-09-27 16:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by paganmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's clear that you want her to have some "reason" why she's doing all these things. Maybe she's not the person you think she is....or, to put it another way, maybe she is the person you think she is, and you need to stop making excuses for her behavior.
2007-09-27 16:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Samurai Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say she is bright? Not when it comes to her emotional side..This one will end up either pregnant or STDS that are forever. Her choice to be a s*** Poor girl how pathetic she is...
2007-09-27 16:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to know how the heck you know all this information about these guys and about her!
Answer: Low self-esteem.
2007-09-27 16:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋