My first wife left becasue of the spanking but this one loves it. Is it wrong I like to spank her? Oh yea and my first wife? She was a bad bad girl
2007-09-27 16:24:59 · 48 answers · asked by Big D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
F_ekk no it's not wrong if she loves it!!!
It'd be wrong if you DIDN'T spank her naughty little bottom..:)
2007-09-28 13:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your first wife objected to being spanked, you shouldn't do it. If your current wife wants to be spanked, you should do it. It is a good idea to spend a lot of time talking about this when a spanking is not being contemplated. I disagree with parts of the Spencer Spanking Plan but I agree with the part that would have you two write down what are spankable offenses. And if she doesn't agree during your negotiation that she should be spanked for some activity, then you shouldn't spank her for that. It is quite OK to spank for misbehavior if she has previously agreed that she should be spanked for it....In fact, she should voluntarily go out and cut a good switch for you to use. By the way, the Spencer plan would require you to consider if you should be whipped by her for misbehavior. That also seems fair. So be careful on what you agree tto do.
2007-09-29 21:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Robert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If wife #1 left due to the spankings, you may have a problem knowing when to stop.Keep that in mind. If wife #2 is into it, knock yourself out, if she's not, then it's going to be wife #3 pretty soon.
And try not to spank her in the grocery store!
2007-09-27 16:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by poolplayer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as both parties are into it no problem. However, there is a fine line between spanking for stimulation and abuse. Perhaps that's why wife #1 left she felt it was not sexually exciting, but more abuse. Did you discuss it with her before starting the "fun" or did you just bend her over and start whacking away at her butt? But a good fantasy is the bad little girl who needs to be punished. Always fun, but again both must agree first.
2007-09-27 16:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not wrong at all, so long as she likes it too. But you do need to check that out beforehand - which evidently you neglected to do in the case of wife #1. No wonder she left.
Still, seems like it all worked out ok in the end - or for wife #2's end at all events.... So spank away and enjoy yourselves!
2007-09-27 22:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is a lover of the scarlet vice and is deeply devoted to the otk arts then it's more than okay it's expected. However, it should go without saying that not all women like this kind of things, some do and that's okay. For those that enjoy it, it can be thrilling
2007-09-28 16:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Villain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should of asked your first wife if she was okay with it..okay if this woman likes to be spanked..go for it just dont do it in puplic places only at home, then your just over doing it..
2007-09-27 18:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Dude.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't really spank your wife's unless they are consient of it and they agree with it because if they don't then that could be not only sexual but physical abuse.
2007-09-27 16:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong that you like it. It is wrong if you get pleasure out of it and she disapproves of it. Some people have very different senses of pain and pleasure that others. The fact that you enjoy it may be the act of punishment you are inflicting to her for being a "bad girl" in a joyful way. It may also be that you like to see her in physical pain and the fact that she hates it is what you actually hates it. Either way you see to enjoy doing it and the fact that she likes it.
SADIST - someone who obtains pleasure from inflicting pain or others
MASOCHIST - someone who obtains pleasure from being physically or emotionally abused, from being humiliated or mistreated, or to attempt unpleasant or trying experiences.
Good luck and I hope the marriage lasts. :)
2007-09-27 16:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is a consensual act then is it wrong?
there are many other things that are going on here. Why do you feel you need to spank? What is the pleasure for you? Do you have unresolved issues?
There is the other side...why does she like to be hurt?
I hope that for your relationship that this never develops past the play stage. Violence is violence regardless of if there is some form of pleasure.
2007-09-27 16:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by victoriarouge 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Only wrong if your wife doesn't like it and/or wants a divorce because of it. Otherwise, have fun in private and don't worry about it.
2007-09-27 16:28:14 · answer #11 · answered by Hoosier Mom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋