Abortion....lots of conflict.?

Question

I am thinking about having one...
My friend had one, she was hated alot..
But I just dont know.
I am so confused.
I really think abortion is wrong..
But I am so confused right now.
Im three months along...
And im only fifteen.
I dont really want to tell my mom about this..
But I cant have this kid.
I dont know, this is too hard.
Yeah I made a bad choice.
I just need some help.
I have been going crazy and getting stressed out.
I know there is always adopting out, but I would feel so horrible. And this baby isn't a baby yet... so Im not sure..

Answer 1

Go to this website: http://www.pregnancycenters.org

Call 1-800-395-HELP

Answer 2

First of all, you need to know that this has to be your decision. Second, you need to really explore your options, and pronto, because you don't want to wait too much longer if you are considering an abortion.

You also need to find out what the laws are in your state, because depending where you live there may be parental consent laws and/or mandatory waiting periods for pregnant minors. In most instances you can get a judicial bypass if the judge believes you are mature enough to be making the decision without a parent, but you need to realize that there are often a lot of hurdles to go through and the further along you get in a pregnancy, the greater those hurdles become. You need to know what your options are.

I know you are probably scared and don't want to talk to your mom, but you do need to talk to an adult that you trust. You have a lot to think about. If you want to have the baby, can you give it up for adoption? If not, will your parents help you to take care of it while you are finishing high school? What role will your baby's father play?

Please remember that whatever choice you make, your life doesn't have to be over because you made a mistake. It doesn't make you a bad person. You will be okay! And whatever happens, please please please, finish high school. You are worth the investment :)

Hope this helps. All the best.

P.S. No, it is not dangerous to have an abortion at 3 months, and no they cannot tell the sex this early.

Answer 3

Oh girl... I'm so sorry for you being in the predicament you are in... I am a 35 year old woman I too made bad decisions when I was 17...found myself pregnant and had an abortion..was the toughest decision I ever made. I had gotten married 5 years ago...and we tried and tried and tried getting pregnant.. but to no avail.. I was told that it was probably from too much scar tissue from the past abortion. This is a case where your past comes back to haunt you. I now look at teenage mothers and yearn for what I've missed out on. Would love to adopt...but that's such a long process. It really comes down to you to make the decision. There's a lot of support out there with whatever decision you do make. But do remember that this not only affects your present situation, but it will affect your future as well. Take care and chin up.

Answer 4

at first i thought wow shes only 15 maybe i shouldnt say anything since i can't find anything nice to say. But what the hell, since this was your last post "all you bitches can shut the **** up. this is her opinion so let her speak it. anyways, i can totally see why you are against it. im against it also, but im not sure all the way. but all these other girls should just shutup because they are ****** retarded, my god.. just shutup you all are probably nasty anyways. omg just let her speak her mind, let her rant. she asked a question atleast so just shut the **** up you guys. seriously you guys are ******* stupid" I feel perfectly fine knowing you are familar with the vocabulary I would like to use towards you right now.

Im seventeen, and Im pregnant. Abortion was never a thought that crossed my mind. I CHOSE TO have sex and knew the possibilities. You should have kept your legs closed if you can't take responsibility for your actions.
HOW DARE YOU SAY IT ISN'T A BABY YET! have an ultrasound done and i bet you change your mind. Im five months pregnant, and right now as Im typing he is kicking around. Your child already has a heartbeat, you can tell that it is a human, and you're going to say that it isn't a baby yet!

But anyways you are really too far along to have one, give he/she up for adoption, you don't deserve a child.

lol and don't say you're ONLY 15 that doesn't make a difference whether your pregnant or not, you WERE ONLY 15 when you had sex.

Answer 5

You have found yourself in a bad boat to row. First, Breathe. Yes, your little one inside you has a heart beat and is feeding from your body. He/ she can sense you and all you feel and reacts to it. Go to your Mom and sit down with her. Take a deep breath and Look her in the eye and tell her, "Mom, I am pregnant." She might get upset and be upset with you because your life is about to take a whole different course than what she may have hoped for you. But, it isn't the end of the world. Talk to her after she's colmed down and explain your fears and concerns. If adoption is an option, there's no reason to feel horrible about that. There are hundreds of couples out there wishing for a baby to adopt. Many would like to have you stay a part of the baby's life after the adoption is done. You aren't giving up a baby for any bad reasons that your child won't understand. But talk it over with your Mom after it's all sunk in. The disrespect is in not having enough trust in your Mom to go to her with something so HUGE like this. I hope you'll think about it and reconsider.
Chin up. I know you can get through this. You've already taken the first steps.

Answer 6

i know what you're going through...i'm 18 and had an abortion 3 months ago. I can tell you right now that it is soooo hard to go through with, and i know how difficult it is to tell your parents...but the sooner the better. Uhm. for me having an abortion was one of the most painful things that i had to go through...not just physically but emotionally as well. I know that i did the right thing because i couldn't support a baby. But i am constantly thinking what if?? I think that you should think long and hard about what you really want, TALK TO SOMEONE. I know that it might seem intimidating but honestly it really really does help. And no matter what you choose your parents will still love you :) good luck!

Answer 7

Reassuringly, you are fifteen and have a whole life left to live, and you will only be pregnant for six more months, that is only half a year! If you do chose adoption you can bless a family with a baby- the best gift in the world! What is six months compared to your whole life?
I would visit my local planned parenthood and have them help me make a decision. They may even help you talk with your mom about it. Either way you will need lots of support so it is best to tell your mom or a trusted adult and have that person help you through this experience.

Answer 8

You are going to get alot of very negative comments to your question. Abortion no matter how far along you are in your pregnancy is hard, emotioinally and physically. I myself do not believe in abortion, but you have to do what you think is right for you. I would sugguest before you make a final choice that you go for your 13 week ultra sound, once you see your babies little heart beating, and little arms and legs moving, you may think differently about your comment that it isnt a baby yet.
Look seriously at adoption, but most of all you really need to speak to your mum, she will probably rant and rave, and then calm down, and then want to talk it through with you. You got yourself into this situation by having sex at such a young age, thinking you were responsible enough to do it, take responsibility now and face up to what you have gotten yourself into.

Answer 9

You must be very scared right now, but there are people out there who can help you. I would suggest telling your mom. She might be upset, but she will probably come around and try to be there for you. Please don't get an abortion. It is an extremely painful and dangerous procedure and it hurts you and the baby inside of you. You deserve better than an abortion. There is a baby inside of you, he or she has already begun to form and probably already has a beating heart (4 weeks after conception!).

If you go to http://www.nrlc.org/abortion/index.html you can read more about the actual procedures that abortions consist of. These are horrible horrible procedures. Before you make a decision, read about what would happen to the baby inside of you. Giving up a baby for adoption is a loving option. Many women would love to have children and cannot. You can bring them what they long for.

good luck and please choose life.

Answer 10

don't follow your friend because you'll also be hated by everyone. you know that abortion is a crime and you should not think about that.

if you can't talk to your mom right now, go to a psychologists and ask for counselling or you can talk to someone you know who is also a young mother like you who experienced the same way. it will help you relieve all your worries and anxieties about what happened to you. but remeber you should talk to your mother after all, because she's the only one who will help and provide you all the way. it is reality honey, that she'll get mad at you and she may hate you at first because of what happened but don't worry right after she'll never ever leave you because she knows you need her and you need someone who will guide you all the way.

if you can't accept the baby until he is born, you can put him in a center for adoption. there will be some social workers will help your baby to find a new mother who will take care of them. we all know that there are a lot of women who wants to get pregnant but they can't get a chance to have one. so some married couples adopt a baby in centers.

give the baby a chance to live and God has a purpose for you and your baby. this time only God can lead your way to right path. have a fear to God darling!

goodluck and godbless!

Answer 11

Right now you need your mom's support more than anything. I'm sure she's going to be shocked and upset when you tell her, but I'm also sure that she loves you very much. Your parents are not the enemy, talk with them and come to a decision that you're comfortable with. Remember there are 3 options--and abortion is only one of them.