My friend's sisterin-law called her a wh*re and warned her to leave her husband alone because one day she was depressed and vented to him in an email about everything she was going thru and feeling.
The two of them(her and her brother-in law) talk otherwise about stuff and I guess she just felt comfortable venting to him.Was it inapropriate for her to vent to him?
I saw the email and she didn't come on to him or make like he was her boyfriend..it just seemed like one person talking about their issues with another person(like a friend or family).
His wife sent her something saying to stop sending desperate emails to her husband and called her a whore..Who's was wrong?
2007-09-27 16:10:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's not her sister,she's her brother in-law's wife(her sister inlaw).
2007-09-27 16:28:26 · update #1
i agree with ben.. if there was nothing but a venting session.. and no innuendos to a sexual relationship.. the guys wife is jumping to some horrible conclusions and it sounds like she is suspecting him of cheating already..
2007-09-27 16:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Peachy Perfect is good. I do have a slightly different reaction because of a recent experience I have had. I have two best friends in the world - my husband and his best friend M. Recently I talked to M. on the phone (we have all been friends forever since grad school) and he was obliterated, just terribly drunk. He said an inexplicably hurtful statement to me. He has done that every once in a while throughout the years. Well this time it was just too much. Like the last straw. My husband told him I would not be talking to him anymore. I emailed saying I did not want him to feel bad but I could not talk to him anymore. And that has been the end of it. Of course M. and my husband still talk on the phone every night but I am no longer involved. I don't ask about how he is or anything. It was just too much. So I have cut ties. When someone is exhibiting this behavior there is nothing really you can do to help. Your friend either needs to help himself (if the problem is alcohol) or if he is having some sort of breakdown (and I think it does sound that way) the last thing to tell him is to see a doctor and get some medical help. I am sorry if that seems terse, but really his behavior is over the line and he needs help from professionals.
2016-05-20 03:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should stay away from her brother-in-law. She should have been sending these e-mails to her sister. If she had nothing to hide... go to the blood relation, contacting a in-law is stepping over the line when it comes to keeping harmony within a family.
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My wife and I used to be friends with another couple--later they were going through some rough times and the husband used to call my wife and cry on her shoulder over the phone, while I was at work. He eventually asked her out... she flatly turned him down, and was shocked that he would even proposition her. Luckily our marriage is solid.
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Sorry... if it's a sister and brother that are confiding in each other... then I don't see any problems. I talk to my sister, and my wife talks to her brothers (she has 2) why would I object to that? Your friend is wrong... my gosh, it's her husbands' sister! what could possibly be wrong with that. -- She is way too insecure in this marriage. Whomever said "Whore" is wrong.. and whomever was snooping through someone else's e-mail was wrong. He has every right to speak to his wife and his sister! But romantically he should only be involved with his wife-- (I know stupid remark... but Im so confused, I thought I'd add this in anyways.)
2007-09-27 16:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Darren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the wife doesn't want another woman telling her husband all her personal woes in life, then hubby should respect that. But wife was wrong to call her a whore. Obviously she may be insecure, nevertheless, hubby should respect her wishes. Sister inlaw can vent to another woman.
2007-09-27 17:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife is going to far with it if they were just friends and talking to each other! And nothing was going on with them . She must be a really jealious person and if she has issues she should talk to her husband about it!! It's not right that she is name calling someone over just talking to him! she must have trust issues to with him !! or some kind of problem. she could of just talked with her man if she didn't want him talking to this girl and then he could of ended the talk if he wanted too! she didn't have to be so rude !! so she is wrong for that!!
2007-09-27 16:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife shouldnt of called her a whore, but if its that big of a issue, your friend needs to find some else to talk to.
She doesnt want to be the cause of there marriage breakdown.
2007-09-27 16:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it was right or wrong for her to vent to him. Although his wife showed poor behavior, she is his wife, and her wishes must be respected by your friend.
2007-09-27 16:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by aninocentangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife was wrong because your friend needed someone to talk to and if she wasn't coming on to him then there was nothing wrong with her talking to him....
2007-09-27 16:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's inappropriate. She should stop doing it. We've all heard of in-laws hooking up with each other in this manner.
2007-09-28 06:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need in name calling! very inappropriate! She should have spoken with a female instead!
2007-09-27 16:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋