Mine is when the guy is too anxious or takes the date as more than it is.
2007-09-27 14:57:15 · 25 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I date women mostly, and men rarely, but will count both.
Honestly, I'm put off by any sort of extremes...whether it's:
- Too emotional or intense for a first date.
- Too cocky/concieted or indifferent.
- Too needy or clingy.
- Non-stop yap during the entire date or barely saying a word.
- No sense of humour whatsoever or the entire conversation is a comedy stand-up.
Balance turns me on.
2007-09-27 18:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's been a long time since I've had to worry about first dates, but what bothered me then was when the lady was too possessive, or demanded too much commitment before I was ready for any commitment.
That was a turn-off and I had no second dates with women who behaved that way.
2007-09-27 19:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he saw that you were a bit drunk and didn't want it to be that way. Although the part that he hasn't called you back its kind of weird. I would try to call him and explain him that it was the alcohol and if you could start fresh. Otherwise I guess you just have to wait till he decides to call you again. Maybe he just needs some time to elaborate what happened. Just try next time to not drink too much or you may end up in the same place.
2016-04-06 04:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some people are going to take this the wrong way, but IF a guy is the one to ask me out, I'll be put off if he doesn'tat least offer to pay. When I ask a guy out, I'm expecting to pay. Because I was the one who invited him. In my experience, if someone is clueless to this etiquette, they're usually clueless to a lot of other social niceties and considerations.
Also, acting overly aggressive, negative, or hostile (even if it's not directed at me, like complaining to much or bitching about others or swearing too much).
2007-09-27 16:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Priscilla B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine is if his behaviour on the 1st date is very different than before..if his behaviour changes and he is not showing respect.
If he is going too far and doesn't back off when I ask nice than there is trouble.
If he wants to drink or use drugs and wants me to. I don't do that.
And there is no way that I am going to go be alone with him on a 1st date if I don't know him like that and if he tried than that date would be over.
Edit these are really "if it happens" because they have not happened to me so far. I don't have a lot of experience dating.
2007-09-27 15:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Back when I was dating I'm sure that there were tons of things that would have been a real warning sign but things that actually did scare me away include:
- really mis-citing certain theorists in a lame attempt to see interesting/smarter than he was
- making a veiled anti-Semitic remark
- making sleazy overture. no no no.
2007-09-27 15:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
When they come on too strong. If they have no sense of humour, forget it--actually, it's even worse when they think they have a sense of humour, but they really don't. If they brag, make sexual comments, or talk on their cell phones--and if they're loud and want to be the centre of attention, that's way more than I can deal with.
2007-09-27 15:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by teeleecee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Possessiveness with no permission given from me ( for God's sake, we've just met! ),
2. Aggressive pursuit of any sort of physical contact,
3. Excessive drinking during dinner,
4. Attempts to make plans for a future together... Dear God ...
In my dating days, any of these would make me run as fast as he can bat his eyelashes. LOL
2007-09-27 17:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Rudeness, in any form. Arrogance is a big one. And if I have any inkling that the guy is anti-choice (as opposed to pro-life or pro-choice), there is no way that a second date is happening.
Also, there is a huge difference between a guy indicating that he is not opposed to having sex with you (crass and not all that exceptional anyway) and him indicating that he finds you interesting or attractive. (sweet and always nice to hear)
2007-09-27 15:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by Junie 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I was not matured enough on my first date and the girl tried to kiss me.
2007-09-27 17:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by NEO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋