I have been with this guy for like 5 years (we have a 3 year old son) and he wants me to marry him. I love him a lot and he knows all of my dirty secrets (like my family is nuts). Should I say yes? I love him a lot... just don't know that I am willing to spend the rest of my life with him.... I want to get married and even though he can be a jerk, don't know if I can find better. So, the big question is if I should say yes to his proposal. We have been together 5 years tomorrow.
2007-09-27 14:21:59 · 12 answers · asked by Valerie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is entirely up to you.. but consider the important things, is he a good dad? Good provider? Good in bed? Is he abusive mentally or physically? Dont just listen to your heart, weigh out the facts too. Marriage is a BIG step. And should never be taken lightly. Most importantly, do you really and truly love him enuf to spend the rest of your life with him? If so go for it. Love is a wonderful thing, but oh it can be a pain in the ***. And dont ever think he is the best you can do.. dont ever settle for less than you deserve hun.
2007-09-27 14:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u mentioned that you love him a lot but u can't see yourself spending the remaining of you life with him - then u shouldn't get married to him. u also mentioned how u do not think u can find a better man - and if u feel like that then it is another reason u should say no to his proposal. marriage isn't about if u found the best man that would accept u - it is about devotion and love.
2007-09-27 14:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros:
You've been together 5 years,
have a child together,
and you love him.
He knows and accepts your baggage.
Cons:
You're not sure he's "the one".
He's a jerk sometimes.
Honey,
You're never sure. Everyone is a jerk sometimes.
If you've been together this long, you've got to be
pretty well committed. It's a good time to make it
official.
Make the commitment and stick to it.
2007-09-27 14:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if your son had his parents married, but if you don't know if you want to spend the rest of your life with him than don't do it until you are 4 sure.
2007-09-27 14:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle. So what you love him and you have a child together. You can love a person and not be with them. If you get married and you're not ready, you will end up being miserable and that's not fair to you, your child or your husband. Follow your heart and never settle.
2007-09-27 14:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure them maybe wait. If you marry you should be sure and you should be head over heals in love.
2007-09-27 14:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a child by him, and been with him five years now
I'm wondering why you haven't married him already?
God Bless.
2007-09-27 14:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're even the least bit unsure then the answer is a giant NO.
2007-09-27 14:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone there will be no question in your mind weather you want to marry him. its not wrong to think that way i just think it might mean you are not ready. follow your gut it is 99.9% right.
2007-09-27 14:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by jkgilbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say "Yes" until you are sure! Your son deserves it!
2007-09-27 14:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Carol C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋