I have been married what will be 5 yrs soon, I am 25 yrs old going on 26 and my husband is 35 yrs old.I have a daughter who is 5 yrs old from a previous relationship and a son who will be turning 2 yrs old(he shares the same dad as my daughter).Our divorce is a bit ugly he cheated we seperated i cheated in retalition which is how my son was concieved.We tried to make it work but that turned out badly.The result was my hubby vandalized our home,took apliances,left the house pretty much vacant,and he also destroyed some of my personal things along with the some of the kids stuff.
My hubby said he is willing to give $850 for destroyed items
and $400 a month for 6 months in alimony?Do negociate frome here?
2007-09-27 14:05:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do have a lawyer should i run everything by him first?Would it be easier to settle in court?
2007-09-27 14:07:29 · update #1
We live in MA and my hubby just called me about this.
2007-09-27 14:14:44 · update #2
get a lawyer. s/he can advise you much better than a bunch of strangers
2007-09-27 14:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow--if any two people should NEVER have gotten married it was you two. You were PREGNANT with another man's baby when you married this guy---(your own words---you HAVE a 5 year old daughter from "another relationship" and you have been married 5 years).... and then you cheat on your husband and get PREGNANT and the child was being brought up by your HUSBAND????? I would say YOU have a bigger problem then your HUSBAND has... If I were you, I'd take his offer and RUN... it's a far better offer then you would get from ME if I were your soon to be ex husband... oh and take a little advice here... KEEP YOU PANTS ON from now on and don't go messing around---your top priority now should be those 2 CHILDREN and not your sex life.... Time to GROW UP LITTLE GIRL. Problem here is if you live in a community property state, then half of what you BOTH have is yours..... UNLESS what he REMOVED from the house was HIS BEFORE THE MARRIAGE .... if it wasn't, he owes you half the value of it all AT LEAST.... at least for HIM, he's lucky he doesn't have to pay child support since NEITHER OF THE KIDS YOU BROUGHT INTO THIS MARRIAGE WERE HIS!!!!
2007-09-27 21:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to run things with your lawyer first, see what they say. If you and your ex are able to speak respectfully to one another and discuss things calmly and rationially you may be able to do it outside of court, if you dont know sleep on it and maybe court will be your answer. Also with your alamony think of the things that are in your life, is the child support that your previous ex is paying enough or do you put more money on top of that. Also try a time amybe he has to pay alamony for six years until you become finanically stable. My advice, Go and talk to a lawyer, i'm only a hopeful one
2007-09-27 21:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Miss K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never EVER settle out of court without a legal document stating what the terms will be. If you think he's making a good deal, then have your attorney's draw up the legal documents stating those facts and you both sign it. Don't trust him to keep up his end of the bargain without a binding law. His intentions will be good now but, next month he may get really mad at you and quit paying. Then, where would you be?
2007-10-01 20:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by ptruelove01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a lawyer about this. But just on my impression, I think he's lowballing you.
But a lot depends on the state in which you live so please see an attorney at least to negotiate a better setttlement than he's offering you. If you have been legally divorced the divorce decree might limit your rights. Again, you should speak to a lawyer. A consultation shouldn't cost that much.
2007-09-27 21:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given what he has done to you already by stripping the house and vandalizing everything else, you can't negotiate with him. You need an attorney and the sooner the better. Your husband doesn't have your best interest or your kids in mind,only his own. An attorney will get a lot more for you and your husband will probably have to pay all your attorney fees as well as his own.
2007-09-27 21:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is there to negotiate? You don't deserve anything more. Your children should be getting financial support from their father not your husband and obviously you're not too disalbed to work so get out and get yourself a job, it's not up to your current husband to support you for the rest of your life while you are un married.
2007-09-27 22:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should speak to your lawyer. he may be able to get you more money for the missing items and vandalizing. he shouldnt have done that. the children are innocent and should come home to that. sometimes "the other person" will offer you something that sounds good because they know that you could really get more than what id being offered at first.
2007-09-27 21:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Just call me Mo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have the money to pay the lawyer...400 a month is nothing and he needs to pay more for vandilizing...ouch...If you can get the lawyer..get one..It sounds like you need someone looking out for you right now so that you can put all your emotional energy into raising your kids.
2007-09-27 21:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he fears the court
as he will be on the losing end of it
he will pay for at least 2 1/2 years plus child support and maybe other liquidated damages
so the question is what do you want?
2007-09-27 21:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋