What do I do, I'm such a loser?

Question

My -best- friend gets me so upset.
She never listens,
she's so "popular" now.
She is so pretty and everyone loves her,
I feel soooooo left out.
Then this guy named Matt; calls me ugly and pale..every day!
And the 'popular/preppy' girls laugh at me all the time.
Everyone calls me weird or they don't notice me;
&&& i'm like- in LOVE with this guy.. he is so sweet! and helpful, and cute! but he likes my best friend......
and if i fail something, just ONE small thing, everyone gets disapointed in me. I can't play my clarinet for beans, either! NO ITS NOT JUST BECAUSE IM A GIRL: its because ANY human being with FEELINGS would feel hurt and betrayed when no one talks to them!
How can I start talking to people more, how can I make them like me? It's only been a month at school, and I feel like I don;t belong [its not a new school].

plus ++++ my dad is very "evil" [atleast, i believe so, for many reasons.] my mom isn't here, and she yells at me over the phone &so much other things

Answer 1

First off..stop calling her your best friend. A best friend listens to you all the time.

I'm sure Matt calls you ugly and pale everday because he has insecurities of his own. Don't worry about what he thinks.. he's just ONE person who thinks so... why would you care about ONE person when you got a whole school to make friends with?

I can really relate to you because I was bullied as a teen in school. The best way to deal with these kids is not let them get to u.. don't act upset... just give them a look that says "grow up" and keep moving.

Forget about what you CAN'T do and focus more on what you are good at... prove yourself. If you're good at maths, dancing, sports, art... find your passion and go for it. Nobody is good at EVERYTHING.

Did you ever consider doing stuff that will make you love yourself more? You have to love yourself first if you want others to love you (however corney that may sound). Look good at school. Make sure you smell nice and look nice. Get in shape if you need to do so..and buy some clothes that'll flatter your figure and make u feel good. Smile all the time...and act like a happy person.... people will generally start getting attracted to you.. because people like happy smiley persons.

Don't be so hard on yourself... its just a phase you are going thru... and your Dad and Mom however harsh they may be... they love you and want the best for you... Always

Answer 2

You clearly have problems with understanding the reason people post and why it is not possible to be classed as a loser when the people that post here have knowledge or wish to gain knowledge. A loser is someone that does not achieve or fails at most things, so people asking questions to better themselves can never be called losers. Now you could be called a fool for such a random question that has not been thought out, generalisation has no place when it comes to insulting people.

Answer 3

First off she is not a true friend if she allows u to feel this way and don't listen to u at a time in need. Second don't let people bring you down. You need to walk around with your head high When people laugh at you, you laugh with them. They may say you are weird but at least you have FEELINGS and that makes you a real person to express them. Sounds like you are going through allot between school and home. This is all normal its called adolescents and all these emotions will arise you need to be strong and find some self esteem in you. Also you need some support some one older you can talk to someone you are comfortable with. Doesn't sound as though you have that at home. Remember you are human and DO NOT deserve to be treated badly. Find a new group of friends being popular is not everything. GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

First of all, treat all these things you’re going through as challenges. And every challenge will make you stronger and become mature in the future...

She is not your best friend. Well she “was” your best friend, but not anymore... You’re not alone in this matter my dear, I’ve been abandoned by 7 friends whom I considered them as “my best friends”. What I did when that happened was I try to talk with other classmates and be close to them. Sometimes there are some nice people around you who you don’t notice yet... Or try to join a society that you like, this way you can make new friends, and gain some confidence in yourself...

Some teens really want this extra ordinary “attentions” by laughing at other people and making fun of others just because they think it’s cool. Just ignore them, making fun of others is not a cool thing! You’ll find these attention-gathers as ridiculous when you grow up.... ;)

Answer 5

First off quit calling yourself a loser!!! When people feel good about themselves and are confident it shows and it attracts others. If the people your trying to hang around aren't into you or the things you like try meeting new people with similar interests. Even outside of your school. Concerning your Dad if he is abusing you physically or emotionally you need to talk to a trusted family member or another adult. Hope this helped and Good luck

Answer 6

first of all your not a loser!there is nothing wrong with being different if thats how you want to be.be your on you not what others want you to be.thats one of the greatest things of being a human is,having that kind of choice.dont listen to all those people that laugh at you and call you names.theyre all got sticks up their butts.as for the guy you like,well thats ahard thing to have,feelings for a good friend.i told my bestesr lady friend that i loved her and she me she did to but more as a brother.sure it hurt,but now that i trink about it,i'm kinda glad she said that cause what if things didnt work out?then i would have lost a very very close friend.thats not something i want to risk(not with her)so thats really a choice that you have find the answer to.

Answer 7

You are not a loser. Did you know that it is okay to say, "I am not a loser?" yes, sounds silly. But I still do that in the morning even though it has been year since I was in high school. Words have power to give life to our soul.
Find positive people to hang with.
Back in high school, I was a trumpet player in the marching band. I was also a computer geek. I wrote poems, essays and short stories. I HATED sports. and for a mid-west guy. that was WEIRD!!!!
I am sorry to hear about your dad and mom.
I am not a girl.
But I do know that it is tough to grow up.
... especially for us adults.

Good luck... please keep writing on your blog.
writing helps me, too.

Answer 8

FInd a group you fit into...Or go from group to group and be friends with everyone...I wasnt in any group..one day I would be with the skater and stoners..The next day I would be with the jocks and preppy people...Try and be friends with everyone you will make more connections that way.

Answer 9

hey, don't call yourself loser!
I'm sorry, actually I'm kinda having the same problem, so how can I advise you, I'm the one who needs to be advised, lol......

and let me tell you one thing, that best-friend of yours as you call her isn't your best friend at all, I consider her big-headed, cocky and stupid!
when people laugh at me I don't reply to them and talk to my colleague, and you know what happens, lol, they get pissed because I'm not paying attention to them, that's what I exactly do, you can try it if you want, when those assholes talk to you pretend that you aren't hearing anything!

Answer 10

all you can do is to be yourself. if you want to start talking to people go up to them and talk to them like a friend. as for your clarenet keep practicing until you can play better. kids especially teens can be creul, just ignore them. be happy about who you are.