dont both hurt you? and only one hurts the other person?
2007-09-27 13:08:37 · 17 answers · asked by curvy_chick000 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Love motivates people to do kind things for others. Hate motivates people to inflict pain on others. Now, sometimes love does hurt, as in a broken heart, but if you commit to love you overcome pain and become stronger, more compassionate, and a better person. If you commit to hate your life goes down the drain - even if you get rich, your life feels empty. People are quick to hate because they are taught to connect anger with hate - so they get angry and just run right into the ground with it. We need to teach each other that anger should motivate positive action. That takes a certain amount of intelligence, strength and compassion. Hate is easy in the short run, but it keeps life from being worthwhile. Many people aren't smart enough to figure this out.
2007-09-27 13:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate, more often than not comes from a sort of misunderstanding. People fear what they don't understand or things that appear to be different, and fear breeds hate.
So instead of taking the time to get to know someone or something and finding that understanding they jump right to "Oh this person is so different from me, I'll never be able to relate." etc etc It just builds from there. Anything that doesn't fit in a nice little labled box that fits into a nicely ordered little cosmos is to be feared and mistrusted.
Love is so hard because you have to overcome the feelings of mistrust over someone new in your life. And not just if you were hurt by a past relationship. I also think that people have a hard time trusting themselves and their feelings. So add that all up and it's a wonder anyone gets together at all.
2007-09-27 13:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by madame_rubyat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEAR!!!
Well really hate only hurts the hater, not the one being hated. Because emotions are an individuals experience, not soemthing another person can make you feel. What I mean is the old saying sticks and stones may break my bones, but words and names can never hurt you. People don't ever seem to really get what that means. But when you think about words all they really are is is expelled oxygen.. harmless unless a person decides to react.
2007-09-27 13:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by dingydarla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are prejudiced to some degree and they find it easy to hate anyone who's different from them, politically, religiously, or otherwise. It's harder to love. You have to give of yourself and some people just aren't capable of doing that. Sometimes they just don't love themselves and therefore find it harder to love others. Hate really only hurts the person who harbours hatred. It's emotionally draining. Love, on the other hand, is a gift and giving love brings peace of mind and comfort.It should be easier to love but that takes maturity and understanding which alot of people aren't willing to work on.
2007-09-27 13:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by sheyna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defense Mechanism. How does the old saying go, "We hurt the ones we love the most"? Or something like that. We look for the reason to shun out danger, and are reluctant to let people in, in order to protect our emotional state.
2007-09-27 18:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by J.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hatred is easy. Love takes effort. Hate is the result of Jealousy and causes Vengeance. Love requires Trust and Forgiveness.
2007-09-27 14:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by phil8656 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason I know when I hate someone, but have to ask myself if I'm in love.
2007-09-27 13:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate is a judgement that is often rooted in fear. It is a self defense to hate, protect "me" type thing
Love is selfless and makes us vulenable we are then open to the injury and for the other party it is our desire to do the best for to protect them and give of ourselves
vulnerablity is scarey for lots of people
2007-09-27 13:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by just duky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because a defensive action [hate] does not require trust [love].
2007-09-27 15:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by seli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's because....
love-------you have to expose yourself to others, which undeniably making yourself easier to get hurt
hate-------it is a state where u are ready to fight. Do u fight without armour?
We are all in a habit to hate than to love,sadly.
and undoubtedly, i cant be excluded.
I do hope i could love more :D
2007-09-27 13:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by Nice food 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋