Okay, and theres more to the story. Me and my ex had dated for 8 months. Towards the end of our relationship, we decided to have sex. It was my first time. I was really in love with him and he was sooo amazing. Im on birth control, and we didnt have protection, so we didnt use any. I know that was stupid, so you dont need to tell me that part. But then two weeks after that, he met another girl, and broke up with me. So to add to my depression from that, now i am startin to think i am pregnant because my period hasnt come and its 3 weeks late. Idk what to do. Im scared to tell my mom, and I have no one that i can confide in. Im really a mess right now, and i just someone to tell me what I should do.
thanks
kenz
2007-09-27 12:58:04 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Awwww I'm so sorry to hear that. Well I think you should get a pregnancy test done first. If the answer is no then don't worry about it, if it says yes then you and your family can decide your options. If you want an abortion then its totally up to you, if you want to keep the child you can still balance school and a baby with the help of your family, if you want to deliver the child and then send it to a better home that's up to you too. Just be strong and positive about the situation. Don't worry you'll always have people that love and care for you no matter what. I understand that your in a really bad situation and that you must be feeling terrible, but you have to realize that you are just human and we trust our instincts. You trusted your ex, but he turned out to be a jerk (no offense or anything). You'll have an instinct about the baby too if you're pregnant. Don't worry Kenz everything is going to be okay!!
P.S. let me know how things work out
Hope it helped & good luck!
2007-09-27 13:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Syedah A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am NOT going to berate you (everyone else already is!) While I am not in support of you being sexually active at 14-what's done is done. If you are on oral contraception and have been taking it DAILY your chance of being pregnant is small. There is a slightly higher chance if this was your first month on the pills or you missed any during the first week.
I see girls your age and younger everyday in the same situation. I would suggest that you go to the Dollar Tree or any "dollar store" and purchase a pregnancy test. Research has shown that these "generic" tests actually pick up lower levels of HCG (the pregnancy hormone) than name brand, expensive ones.
Hear this! I am NOT telling you to NOT talk to your mother but I also know that sometimes that is simply not an option. You can go to Planned Parenthood, your family doctor, or an OB/GYN and your privacy WILL be protected. It is the law! It falls under the HIPPA act and any violation of that is a very large fine ($50K).
I encourage you to talk to someone, anyone. Maybe you could talk to one of your friends Mothers.
You have your whole life to live and you WILL learn the true meaning of love. Chalk this up as a lesson learned. Get the test done, sometimes stress and worry can affect a womens body so much they will miss their period.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and I honestly wish you the best! You're only young once, enjoy it!
2007-09-27 13:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by lovethe48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the drug store and buy a pregnancy test. Read the instructions and use it. They're 95% accurate, if not higher. They're the same things you'd be using at the doctor's office.
IF it comes up as pregnant, don't wait too long to tell someone because your choices get smaller and smaller the longer the pregnancy goes. You're probably too late to take the morning after pill--depending on how far before your period you had sex--so you've already lost out on that option.
See what the test says. If it's negative, be thankful and use a condom next time, or hold off for a good long while. 14 year old boys are NOT going to stick by you, not even the 17 year old ones, they usually cut and run or find someone else. You have to watch out for yourself or you'll be in pretty bad circumstances.
2007-09-27 13:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you have been stressed lately and depressed these changes in the body can cause your period to be late, or can cause you to have a lighter one or none at all. It may just be late due to stress so wait another week and if you still don't have it then take a pregnancy test to rule out any pregnancy. If you don't get it and you have a positive result on the test then make an appointment to go to your local doctor for a blood test which will show whether or not that you are infact pregnant. Good Luck!
2007-09-27 13:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by jaineelyse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry all these people are insulting you, and I hope that you're not a troll who asks these questions to get those responses.
That being said, if you were taking your pill correctly, you're not pregnant. Take a deep breath, and talk to someone real, even if it's a friend. Perhaps the boy you had sex with, he should bear some of this stress too. If you're on the pill, you're period shouldn't ever be late.
2007-09-27 13:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna give the whole " What the hell were you tinking " thing. im 14 too, sex is all around us! What are we to do?Well anyways.......sometime periods are weird like that. Your period will not be normal untill you are a least 21.I would first CALM DOWN!!! haha! Second tell your mom ....if you dont get your period within the next few weeks. Or tell her if you get morning sickness,etc. Or you could take a pregnacy test, i would!
All the best!!
2007-09-27 13:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sweden♥Lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a test from the drug store. If u took the pill on time there's only a 1-2% chance you're pregnant. The thing is stress causes u to miss a period completely. Due to the fact that you were depressed it could delay it or you can miss it. I've missed plenty of them. You're too young for that. Wait til you're older from now on.
2007-09-27 13:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by whisperer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I was in your situation once and thank god I was not pregnant!! But I had just broken up with my bf and was just stressed out and was a mess that is why I was late, if you are stressed out and have other problems it could be from that, If you are not sure you can go to your local Planned Parent hood and do a test and talk to a counceler if you dont want to talk to your parents about it.
Good luck
2007-09-27 13:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, Well first of all, I think you need to take a test. If you have an older brother or sister or a friend who can drive.. ask them to take you to a drug store So you can take a pregnancy Test. The only way you can move on or Plan for a child is to take the test to find out. I know it is hard and stressful, but it is something that has to be done.
2007-09-27 13:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a doctor- but you are only 14, and a period isn't always very regular. Stress, like being dumped, can cause you to be late. Go to the drug store and buy a test if you think it's a possibility, and if it is positive, make an appt to see a doctor. They can't tell your parents until you are ready.
2007-09-27 13:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by Rebekah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋