it needs 2 be something SENSIBLE, something that will not get them into trouble.
it's hard because all the lil girl likes to do is get drunk, get stoned and do other things that end up getting her into trouble.
has anyone got any ideas?
2007-09-27 12:51:32 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Assuming your the 19 year old boy... (its just easier to write to a person).
Well first of all, im not going to tell you your a horrible person, that your going to jail, or that you should "break up with her".
As a teenage girl... older than 14, younger than 19.
I understand what your going through. Nearly all of my close friends are guys, and nearly all of them are older than me... ages ranging from 14 (younger than me) to almost 20
From what your saying, im getting that your not going out with this girl... i dont know if im right, but it sounds to me like your more trying to protect her without your being together looking horrible.
i could be totally off, but thats what im getting.
i would say, you should stick to some crazy fun stuff...
i mean, me and my guy friends do anything and everything for fun. like last weekend, we went sailing then to a like... farmers market thing and got some food to cook for dinner.
not your normal thing, and hey, it can still come off as totally rapist creepy, but you cant get introuble for hanging out.
hope i helped...
2007-09-27 14:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by guitar814girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The above answers are correct. You are dicing with death being a "thing" with a 14 year old. If it someone that you are related to or a good friend or something, then that's fine. But you’re looking at 7-10 years in jail if this is your girlfriend. No computer, limited phone use, no freedom whatsoever.
I think the best thing you can do together is go with her to a councilor. I'm not trying to be funny either. You could be the person that she sees as a hero 10 years down the road. The person that saved her from the brink. Talk to the one at her school about the situation. They will be happy to help and everything you say to them (or the 14 year says) is completely confidential.
But to answer your question a different way...
Take up cooking. You could go to the park together and cook a BBQ meal. You'd both learn how to cook (if you make it a habit to do it often) and you'd be able to carry that ability far into the future whether you stay together in the future.
Take up a hobby together. I've found young people like that are great at reaching into an engine bay and getting that nut/bolt that you just can't reach. While she can't drive yet, it would be a lot of fun to work on the car together. Race it or whatever.
How about paintball? I started Paintball when I was 15. When I was in my Junior and Senior year in high school I brought many a 14 year old with the group and they always have fun. You could be on the same squad together, or for a change you could go against each other. You'll have stories to talk about for days.
You could play video games together, although I'll be the first to admit a girl who can get into video games is as rare as the winning lotto ticket.
Sail boats. Now, I'm not talking about 20' monsters or anything. But you can get a very nice 6'-8' sail boat for a couple hundred dollars. I took a sailing class a long time ago and those are what we learned on. You can use it on lakes (we did) or any body of water that happens to be deep enough and has a breeze.
Kickboxing. This is a good one. Find a kickboxing place nearby to the both of you and start going. You'll never feel any better being in the best shape of your life. You'll also learn self defense and if you really enjoy it you can schedule a fight at one of the competitions or shows they put on. You could both schedule fights during the same event and cheer each other on from the ropes.
2007-09-27 20:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rosebud 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not a good thing to hang out with a girl who 'likes to get drunk, get stoned', etc. If you do, she'll just get you to drink, and that causes a lot of damage to your bodies. YOU CAN EVEN DIE FROM DRINKING TOO MUCH AND GETTING UNCOUNCIOUS. Yell at that gril or something, teach her what's sensible and what's not. Or, like someone said, get her an ice cream cone, or even some candy and just be friends. If you let her drink, you might even get arrested for drinking and doing with her and her: she might go to Juvenile Jail or something. Don't. Hanging out with that crazy 'lil girl' is not even sensible. I even know that. I'm in Middle School. ROSEBUD IS SO RIGHT. LISTEN TO HIM!
2007-09-27 20:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 19 then she is JAIL BAIT
get another girl friend before this one gets you in very serious trouble, she sounds like she has a severe lack of common sense, don't let this get you to do something stupid that your commom sense tells you to NOT TO DO. If you insist on seeing her, try bowling or miniture golf, stay out of dark places like movies. keep your hands off her no matter what she offers to do with you, or you may find your self sitting in jail and have a messed up life,
she doesn't sound like she is worth it, do not let her get you drunk or doing any of those drugs, you only have one life --use it wisely
2007-09-27 20:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by gardena 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get a girl who's older and more mature, and not jailbait. i think age def matters at 14 and 19. then again, i got married at 17 to a 24 year old man. a little different bcuz i was more mature at 17 than most girls were.
2007-09-27 21:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by phxfly311 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
number one she s not stable and if she decides to burn you'r *** o well , slowly get out of the neighborhood . especially if she addicted to chemicals . one day there will be no return she holds the cards because of age. chemicals are a bad thing that will bite you on the *** one day fool head for the hills or end up in the hills
2007-09-27 20:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is a 19 year old hanging out with a 14 year old?? How is she getting drunk - who buys her beer?! A 19 year old should already know how to keep himself out of trouble...why would a 14 yr old influence that?!
Obviously, they can go to the movies, go to a park to hike or play a sport... how about STUDY?
2007-09-27 19:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Grace 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
14 & 19?
thats disgusting!
the 19 year old needs to go to jail,
and the 14 year old needs to stay locked up in her room.
2007-09-27 20:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by krazyklwn66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what i want to know is what a 19 year old could possibly have in common with a 14 year old and y would this 19 year old be interested.
2007-09-27 19:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by ted 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ok a 19 year old guy shouldnt be with a 14 year old girl but any ways... they can go to the movies hang out
2007-09-27 19:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by ~la la land!~ <3 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋