I've posted before about my husband.
Short review: I split this summer, and came back 5 weeks ago. For the first 3 weeks he would wake me up at 3am and have arguments. The last 5 days the Psychiatrist told us not to discuss anything.
Then, today, I returned a loaner car to toyota, speeding to get home, got a ticket, it set me off, boy was I ticked off, and then when I got home my mother called, and I was just chatting, and I told her I had frootloops cereal for dinner. My husband says, "Tell her I offered to make you dinner so she doesn't think I don't cook for you." He completely took it in a wrong direciton, got pissed, started saying the cats smelled.
I said, "okay then i should get up this moment and bathe them?" He said, "Yes". I went up, and filled the tub, then he let the cat out of the bathroom! I said, "why areyou so anrgy? what have you to be angry about?" He said, "I cant be angry? I always told you that you drivet too fast!" and slammed the door to his office.(more)
2007-09-27 12:43:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then, I'm sitting here thinking "okay, I am the one who shouldbe pissed, because YOU put both insurance cards in YOUR car, that's why I got 2 tickets and have to show up in court." I'm so pissed. It's been 5 weeks, he's pissed about whatever, CEREAL, and my day was bad, and NOW I can't stand the fact when he shuts his door to his office to "let me know he is angry"... and the psychiatrist says, "now is not the time to move out at this point" so WHEN is it? Should I continue to work this out???
2007-09-27 12:45:55 · update #1
Emotional abuse, yes. Every time we disagree, he stomps upstairs, slams his door, and then blasts music real loud. If I don't want intimacy, he dos the same. If I won't "discuss at 3am" he does the same thing.. so yes, this does fall into the same category.
Thanks, to those so far who have "read' what I've tried to express.
2007-09-27 12:55:42 · update #2
It sounds lik the both of you need a seperate vacation from each other to put things back into perspective and figure what each exactly wants in the future and out of the marriage. Make a seperate list and later compare them and if there are too many differences then youll know if there still is a chance for the marriage. But you two need to get away from each other before you kill each other, sort of a time-out from the marriage. Good luck
2007-09-27 12:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok - first off - I don't put much stock in the phychiatrist thing - I'm thinking he's saying "don't leave" so he can keep getting a paycheck from you two.
Now - only hearing your side of the story - it does sound like you've had a bad day. I would hope that he would have a little more understanding if he was willing to work it out.
If he's being such an ass now - it may not get any better. I do have to ask - was this the kind of behaviour you had to deal with before you left? or is it just like it now?
He could be getting scared - and for a guy - pushing someone away is easier than them pulling away.
So - if you two can't talk without fighting - I would think that for your own sanity - and the fact that you have the right to be happy - you may want to consider life without him.
Sorry my advice/thoughts couldn't be more cheerful. Best of luck either way.
2007-09-27 19:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How exactly is this emotional abuse?
I suggest you read The Care and Feeding of Husbands. I don't agree with everything, but there are some excellent points made. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a good one as well.
You may also want to think more about him and less about yourself. Frankly you sound pretty selfish. I would probably be angry too if I lived with you.
2007-09-27 19:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
i can see clearly what the problem is....sounds kind of stupid I suppose, however you guys don't laugh together. In order for a couple to have harmony there has to be fun...where is it? My husband and I started a couple of years ago praying together in each others arms every night before we go to sleep, this has also made us closer. Try a written prayer together....this also tears down walls. It sounds bad at your house.
2007-09-27 19:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YIKES.....hmmm....I don't think it's emotional abuse, I think it's two people who have no idea how to get along with each other. You are going to the shrink to try to help your relationship, so why would you do something counter productive to their suggestions unless you really didn't want to work things out?
2007-09-27 19:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
either get marital counseling from someone good or hire a divorce attorney and follow through. You are not doing each other any good. (I hope there are no children to witness the tyraids)
2007-09-27 20:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a therpist but do I listen to that FOOL no..if your suffering than leave him..screw what that therpist say's..is just a ticket no big deal..worry about other issues lol..your man is trippin..lol..change to new therpist who will LISTEN to you okay.
2007-09-27 19:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are the two of you taking this stuff out on each other; the one person in the world you are suppose to love and cherish and be able to lean on????????
2007-09-27 19:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUH?
It sounds like YOU are the abuser!
....and, like other abusers, you are trying to blame him!
2007-09-27 21:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by NOEL 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
men are mean.
ive had a bad day to.
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2007-09-27 19:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋