With stepkids.
When you were dating your husband/wife what did the kids do to try to get rid of you? Did it work?
2007-09-27 12:33:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stepkids - what a great subject. I have 3.
My 'stepdaughter' (haha, don't consider her that) - she posted nasty stuff about me on her 'my space' for years..called me white trailer trash, says she hopes my kids suffer, said nasty things about her dad over and over......said we were going to hell...i had never met this girl in my life before this.
And... the question was.. did it work. nope - my husband and daughter have no relationship at this point. I have never met anybody like her in my life-- so, no, I don't consider her my step-child. she's just a girl with lots and lots of issues.
everything that came out of their mouth..came out of their mothers mouth first -- disgruntled ex wife.
hate people that turn the kids against the other parent!!
2007-09-27 14:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They haven't gotten rid of me yet. I have three step kids compounded with the proverbial ex wife throwing guilt about loyality if they are nice to me. My husband and her had been seperated for over three years when I met him so i am not the reason for the divorce. They constantly try to manipulate my poor husband with scare and guilt tactics to get things they want, they are rude, call me an idiot, stupid and one pushes me out of the way if I am standing somewhere that they would like to go....16, 14, 11 oldest a girl. My husband loves me, he is not going anywhere, I am nice to these kids as they are obviously having a very hard time dealing with the hand that life has delt them...adults have a hard time with divorce, kids and their experiences in life being more limited in learning tools to deal with issues, have a harder time. I hate it when they come over, however I never show them this, I am kind to them, I go through the motions of cooking, laundry, watching movies I don't like very much, go to their games and other events...I pray that over time they will have these good times to look back on and realize that they have one more person in their lives that cares about them. This is the hardest and most adult thing that i have ever had to do in my life, I do it because I love my husband, he is my best friend and I am positive that he would do it for me....because i have a daughter also who can be a little squirrly at times.
2007-09-27 19:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rein 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My step kids loved me from day 1 we took them to creek's , river's park's , beaches with my kids had picnics laughed , joked around and teased each other it was like a school camp most days .
It was their mother's who tried to get rid of me especially his son's mum she tried everything she could to break us up but didnt work I figured she'd moved on had a new man living with her he was entitled to have a family life just the same as she was.
It wasnt until after we were married and had a son of our own that his son started being his mother's pawn and trying to tear us apart she lied to him fed his head with all kindsa drama so he moved in with us and set about trying to destroy us and have me move out he lives with us now and is 13 and admitted mum wasnt happy with hubby #2 and wanted my husband back and he was her key , my husband told her in no other terms would he take her and her 2 sons from her 2nd marriage into his house that she could go ride off on her broom stick and find sucker #3 so she got back with her 2nd husband and left us alone.
The only downfall is she wont even see her son now says he has psychological problems and needs anti depressants to get him past the anger we caused him , funny the child I am raising is happier then he's been since we got together she needs to go back on her meds and learn what being a mum is about.
2007-09-27 19:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started dating my hubby when his son was a year old so of course my stepson's mother was furious. She made this innocent 1 year old tell me I was a "whore" and other things. That was 7 years ago and she's still feeding stuff to him, telling him I'm going to kill him in his sleep and other crazy stuff. At least now my stepson is realizing that there's something wrong with his mother and is begging us to let him come live with us. So to answer your question, the thing that drives me absolutely crazy is selfish, moneyhungry women who use their children to get back at their ex's. All the judges, councellors and therapists have told us that her behavior will come back and kick her in the *** so I'm waiting!
2007-09-27 21:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stepkids have been nothing but loving and accepting....but the normal stuff drives me crazy....just regular kid stuff, like forgetting something really important back at our house after we've driven 45 minutes to drop them off and having to go back and get it....just silly stuff
2007-09-27 19:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids did everything they could to keep my attention on them and not on my husband, he didn't give an inch and we split up because "I just didn't put him first enough." I found his attitude almost as selfish as theirs, but they were childish because they were children, what was his excuse?
2007-10-03 17:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jody H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they completely destroyed there home, cussed there mother, the hole nine yards, yes they did get rid of me, she took up for them and still is one is 18, one is 20 neither work or have any tentions to they live off her, and thanks for bringing up the bad memories
2007-10-05 19:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋