2007-09-27 12:27:04 · 26 answers · asked by Orange County is great! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I hope I would be a big enough man to accept that.
2007-09-27 12:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
What did you do? Did you ask him what he meant? Was he trying to tell you he is gay? Sorry to ask all these questions. If he is younger than 15 it might just be that he isn't interested in girls YET. If he is older and if he means he is gay you better step up to the plate and love him twice as much! Being gay is not a choice. His life will be difficult but you can make him know that he can have a good life and can do anything he wants to do - the same as you would say if he were straight. They have meetings for parents of gays and lesbians if you have a hard time dealing with it. You can even tell your son that you are surprised and you will try to learn all that you can; and that you are aware being gay might be hard at times and that he can always come to you. He must have felt safe telling you. (Good for you that he could.) Tell him you love him no matter what! All he wants, I'm sure, is to know you won't be disappointed in him. Don't be!
2007-09-27 19:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old he is. Some boys hide it very well. My son was one of those. And my brother took a girl out once during his teenage years, then got married at 19, still married. He said he would just rather stay home than to spend his money on girls.
Everyone is different. But when he does see the right girl....watch out!
2007-09-27 19:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why not?, It may just be that at this moment in his life he is disappointed of some girl and he said that because of his feelings being hurt or something. Now, it would be hard not to hear what you wanted to hear, but life is not perfect and certainly, no one it's perfect. If your son is gay, you definitely can't do anything about it, just care for him, love him and give him your support.
I don't have kids, but for sure that's what I wanted to hear from my dad
2007-09-27 19:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bandido 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd be fine with it, but that's because I'm gay myself. If the father is anything like my dad, they'd walk around for days saying, "Oh my god, my son's a f*****!" Of course, that's not NEARLY as bad as being kicked out of the house and being beaten nearly to death like one of my friends. (His parents were "Christian.") As a general rule, I've found that most of my friends do not have good relationships with their fathers. You have to understand WHERE you are asking this question--of course anybody on LGBT is going to be biased. The average male is too egotistical to accept it right away, and some are too egotistical to accept it at ever.
2007-09-27 19:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by White Knight 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually think the best answer would be something like: "I see. And does it bother you?"
It covers any circumstances, any age and you're opening up a friendly dialog with words that tell him you value his well-being and happyness over his preferance.
I'd go for that.
2007-09-27 20:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Georgina Elin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would grab him hold him close and tell him that no matter what he chooses in life that i will always live hI'm im a 35 year old man who is gay and i can tell you right now that if my son told me right now that he was going anti gay than i would still tell him i loved him and would never stop
2007-09-27 23:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by tommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on his age---not much.
If he's 15, he's possibly too shy to get into the male female thing.
If he's dating age of 18-20, he could be low libido (it happens).
If he's over 20, figure he has other priorities than dating OR he's just not interested, possibly gay.
Though most gay guys do know they were 'different' before they hit age 13. Can you have a longer talk with him?
2007-09-27 19:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I dont usually sing the praises of my father but this is one occasion that he did the right thing. When I told him I was gay he told me I am still his son and he loves me and remains supportive of me. That is what a father should do.
2007-09-27 19:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd honestly have a hard time accepting it . but I would never throw him out or curse him . I love my son no matter what .
2007-09-27 19:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Suicide642 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It would depend on the age is he 12 or is he 21
2007-09-27 19:29:24 · answer #11 · answered by pugetsound1973 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋