if your husband or wife came to you and told you out of the clear blue that he or she filed for divorce and told you that they just wanted to be by themselves still giving you no clear explanation as to why they filed for divorce and did not talk to you would you get up and pack you things and leave them?
2007-09-27 12:23:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i asked this question because this happend to my sister. her husband came to her out of the clear blue and said he filed for divorce the were living in his parents house and the time but both his parents are living somewhere else so the sold them there house. she got up packed moved back our mothers house. finally he called her and told her the reason why. first of all he lied he did not file for divorce and secondly he said that because he got tired of our mother interfering in their marriage causing confussion and keeping up trouble.
2007-09-27 12:35:36 · update #1
no they dont have any children. she felt that that was his parents house and he has said he was leaveing town in two weeks to go to florida and stay with his sister. so she felt the need to leave. but guess what? they are dating now and they still stay in seperate house . like i said he finally told her the real reaon why it is because of our mother and i beleive him because i had to pack up and move a good distance from my mother for getting in my business. iam 32 years old and she is 35.
2007-09-27 12:45:04 · update #2
I would call my friends, call my family, and start making plans to pack up and move.
Been exactly there, done exactly that. No hard feelings for my ex now, I'm just glad he was honest with me instead of dragging it out for another few years.
7 years later, I'm remarried and happy. There's always tomorrow.
2007-09-27 12:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first consult my attorney. My attorney may advise me to stay put and keep the house. Hubby may be the one who has to leave.
Don't do a thing without talking to your attorney.
But yes, if hubby did that to me . . . I would want a divorce.
Edit: Just read what you added. Cannot believe your sis is now dating the jerk. If her hubby really wanted this marriage, he would have asked for marriage counseling (an attempt to work things out) before mentioning the word divorce.
Doesn't matter how bad or how interfering mom may be. This guy did not treat your sister fairly. She should use caution. But me? I wouldn't date him at all. I would give him that divorce he wanted. Your sis deserves better.
2007-09-27 12:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your spouse tells you they have filled for divorce then its time for one of you to move out and why should it be you.it does not really matter what the reason is they filled. most of the time we see it coming but we think if you pretend every thing is fine then it will be.im saying this is what you did but i would think back and see if it was some thing i did or did not do. if you really think that you did nothing then let him go. you cant change what is not your fault...im so sorry your husband has done this to you. i know how bad you must fell right now. in my opinion you can do better and im sure you will. god bless and good luck to you.............p.s now i fell like you lead all us on. now you put up details. you knew the answer to your question before you ask it. i wish i had not of waisted my time on this nonsense.
2007-09-27 12:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your husband was the one who filed for the divorce then he is the one who needs to leave. I got divorced and my husband was the one who filed and he left me and I was so grateful for that. If your husband has not mentioned leaving then let him know that it is time for him to find another place to live. If you can have all the locks changed on the house to keep him out.
2007-09-27 12:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would tell him to pack his stuff and leave or better yet I would toss it out. Most times there is another party involved when this happens. Keep those eyes and ears open. It seldom works out when a party tries to keep another in a relationship they do not want to be in. I would certainly want to know the reason why and I don't believe he is being up front with you.
2007-09-27 12:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I would tell the husband/wife since he/she is the one wanting out of the relationship, then he/she is the one that should leave. And, I would call a lawyer, and we would see him/her in court. After all, I am the injured party and I need to get all I am entitled to. You didn't say if there were children involved.
2007-09-27 12:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This actually happened to me.. my ex husband came home one day and said we need to talk.. i don't want to be married anymore.. straight out of the blue.. no warning nothing.
I moved out of that house only because my doctor said the stress was doing bad things to my health. Once i got healthy and strong i demended he sell the house and give me my share. He did.
That was a few years ago and i still haven't got a clear answer as to why he didn't want to be married anymore. it changes every year
2007-09-27 12:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What other choice would you have but get ready to move on because anybody can get a divorce nowadays without the other spouses permission
2007-09-27 12:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would tell them that if you want to be by your damn self then go to a hotel for the weekend by yourself and do not call me and we will see if you still feel the same and you better have a very good damn reason why
2007-09-27 12:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be hurt, but I wouldn't be the one to leave the house, he would have to leave if he wanted the divorce.
2007-09-27 12:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋